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thanks everyone for replies. Brother and younger sister have visited last night and this afternoon. Have spoken to physio and elder sister they want to see how he gets on at home over a six week trial. My elder sister has said tome that she would prefer him in a home because i'm not able and niether are they husband 70 and she is 68 yrs. At least we wouldnt have to worry, and we could go and see him and know that he is safe. I'm to be getting a phone call in the morning to arrange a meet with physio and sister and myself. So we await and see what happens its not just us dad has a say in this also.

Again thanks for your good wishes and i hope that you are all doing well. Hoping you are all pain free(tongue in check) LOL XXX

Chris

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My mum in law just gone through this, I told them my mobility is too bad if she fell I would fall , also she is do happy has three gorgeous meals per day and loads of company, and when she comes over she's easier to handle. She soles now and has put on weight, she god have caters go in and out on the last house but hubby had to do all her shopping and she just wasn't well enough to cook so lost weight ,

It's a hard decision and it was asocial worker who was best help cxxx

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Hi Chris, Its a hard position to be in isn't it. I have been in a similar situation as yourself over the last few months with my father, we have had 3 a&e visits, 1 admission following a fall when he injured his finger and needed surgery, Intermediate care at home to help him with washing and dressing and his mobility, a 16 day stay in an intermediate care bed in a nursing home after his fall and several hospital appointments.

I am fortunate in that my mother is also at home with dad and my brother lives in the same street but it is very wearing and drains you with the worry and also coping with your own medical problems.

It may be worth asking about intermediate care when you go for the meeting as they work with rehabilitation and also look at what extra support can be put in to help dad and will also look at his safety.

It seems that dad was able to go shopping a couple of weeks ago and his recent illness has contributed to his fall and reduced ability to be self caring. my dad could hardly stand a month ago after his fall and surgery, but with the support and rehabilitation he has had I was able to take him shopping on Friday and he walked around the supermarket with just his stick.

Hope your meeting goes well and that you get the best outcome for dad

will be thinking of you and look after yourself as I know from experience how I am currently feeling has probably been from doing so much for mum and dad

crisxx

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thanks for replies, Had no phone call so no meeting, sister has gone this afternoon. So i am waiting to hear from her. She didnt like what she saw yesterday, her discription was awful, inever saw any of it the two times i went. So am interested to hear today.

Again thanks for replies hope you are all feeling better and pain free.

Chris

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Good to hear you have taken some positive steps forward and that you and your family are all in agreement about what's best for your father. I hope the meeting goes well and you can soon have him settled in a safer place where you don't have to worry about him so much. Take care. Angela xx

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