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Rubbish day 5 i'm having

Afternoon all

I'm having a shitty day. Why am i being argumentative or even causing them? I know i'm doing it and yet can't stop it. It's like i'm suffering so others must.

What horrible thing to think and i don't like it. Going to shut myself away today.

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Ahhh we all will have had them days hun. Don't despair, they soon pass. Do something to cheer yourself up, some alone time relaxation x

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Afternoon all

I'm having a shitty day. Why am i being argumentative or even causing them? I know i'm doing it and yet can't stop it. It's like i'm suffering so others must.

What horrible thing to think and i don't like it. Going to shut myself away today.

I remember thinking I would be better off in a straight jacket on some of the early days of my quit. It does pass. Hang in there!

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Find some secluded hiking trail and walk off the anger Rogue! Stay strong, take naps if need be. Day six isn't too far off now and I predict it will be better! Vike

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Aww Rogue I have strops all the time :( We will hit the calm waters ahead I know it. Just stay strong and as has been suggested do some walking. It does help :):) xx

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Why am i being argumentative or even causing them? I know i'm doing it and yet can't stop it. It's like i'm suffering so others must.

I think that to some extent, you have to accept angry and depressed feelings as part of the package that comes with quitting. BUT - like craves, they should be relatively momentary, like a wave. If you allow them to stretch out, this is when you need to work on getting your head into a different place. Do whatever works for you to change your focus - whether that is meditation or physical activity.

I have seen some people almost purposefully create some sort of emotional crisis as a passport back to smoking. In fact, I have done it myself in past efforts. Because if you are really that angry/ sad/ hurt, then who could blame you for lighting up again, right?

Stay strong and above all, try to stay calm, because this will all pass. :cool:

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Totally agree MRS T. I'm not going to use it as my dinner ticket out of here to start smoking again.

I'm having another awful day today if not worse than yesterday. I just have to grim and bare it. Nothing lasts forever.

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Ooh Rogue, sorry you are having a bad day. Makes me think its only the Champix holding me together, however positive I feel right now. You are nearly done with the first week, so stay strong as you are, cos you wouldn't like the alternative, smoking SUCKS.

Oops, hope that didn't sound harsh but its true.

Anyways, Hares don't smoke :D xx

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Here's another thought.

You know how there are those little weird spots (eye floaters) you occasionally see in your eyes? The ones that drift to the sides, even as you're trying to look at them? No matter how hard you try, you can't make them stay still.

I've started to treat some of my craves the same way. I recognize I'm having a craving. I try to "stare it down" and make it the focus of my attention. One time, I even decided I was going to time the darn thing to see if it was true that they rarely last more than a couple of minutes.

So here's what happened. The more I tried to be still and focus on my craving, and/or start a timer to see how long it lasted, the harder it was to experience the craving as a craving. It became this external "thing" that was almost ghostly and without material form.

And then, within a moment or two, I would realize: I'm not having the craving anymore. Somewhere along the line, it disappeared!

I couldn't time it, because I didn't know when it ended. All I know is that by trying to "stare" at it, it evaporated. It's something like when you're meditating and you realize you're having a thought. You can train yourself to just "let it go" and return to the meditation.

Next crave, try staring it down. Betcha it goes away sooner than you think.

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Agree with what you are saying Dee.

It's like having a typical headache. You know you have one but forget when it goes away and therefore it's pretty hard to time it.

Bedsides it's not the craves i'm finding difficult to deal with, it's being moody ALL day.

You wouldn't believe the amount i have eaten today and yesterday. I've had to hide some of the stuff ie wrappers/packets/boxes etc from my girlfriend.

Sneaking downstairs to the recycle bin or dustbins when her back is turned.

Man vs Food (That's me)

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Hi Rogue, I know exactly what you mean I am so horrible as well and argumentative, stroppy down right bitchy, and seems I cannot stop it either. We must be an evil pair, but as everyone says it does get better...I hope anyway.

All the best in your quit, we have to stay strong and keep saying NO.

Jacqui

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