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Getting better all the time.

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Just a quick post to say that it's been nearly 5 months since I quit smoking. I've worked through some shit times that have made me feel like picking up the ole faithfuls but I haven't done so. It really is true that "what doesn't break us, makes us stronger!". Whether it's been through having some tough times, post xmas blues, long dark nights and mornings, giving up the cigarettes or a combination of all of these things I have really felt down and depressed. I just wanted to say however that after 5 months I really am feeling more like my good old self. I'm more happy, positive and motivated than ever before. I can't explain it and I don't know why I'm suddenly feeling this way but hey...who cares, I'm well and truly on the up and that's all that matters.

I just wanted to say because there may be others feeling just as shitty as I did and that, given time, it does get better...lots better in fact. So hang on in there.

Lisa xxx

P.S. WHere's everyone gone? Dave and his shitty cat pictures? Penthouse Roof, Cavalier and all the others? Maybe I've just missed you guys as I haven't been that active on the forum lately. Anyway, hope everyone is doing/feeling well and sailing their ships ;)

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Well put lisa. :)

I can't explain it and I don't know why I'm suddenly feeling this way but hey...who cares, I'm well and truly on the up and that's all that matters.

That is really good news - am chuffed for you...I hate people around me being unhappy (although you are only around me in cyber sense but you know what I mean), so that is a good start to my day.

This forum is very strange in some ways - although I don't know anyone on here really, I feel like I do. Weird...but in a good way.

As Robin Williams said "Spring is nature's way of saying, "Let's party!"

I'm so glad you're feeling perkier! Now you're really well placed to enjoy the spring sunshine without obscuring it in a smoky haze. Congratulations to you Lisa, I'm really happy you're doing so well x

Hey Lisa,

So nice to see you are feeling better:)

Roll on some sunshine and warm weather so we can enjoy bbq season and alcohol fueled garden parties lol xxx

Goodo i was beginning to think youd be down forever, got me thinking is there any point in quitting if you end up miserable, im not there yet i have flashes of feeling great but not for long well not long enough to say yep this feels real. glad to see your a happier bunny tho i too dont feel comfortable when people around me are unhappy im one of lifes fixer uppers. mmmm perhaps i should give that up too.

Mashx

So glad to read your feeling upbeat again Lisa:)

hope you have a lovely weekend

hugs

Carol x

i was sooooo tempted to post a pic of your fav animal with this :p

hehe but im going be good today ;)

Good to hear that you are feeling better Lisa.

Spring always does that for me anyway, and now that I am going into it smoke free, then so much the better.

My old mum used to drive me mad telling me to count my blessings, but as I get older, I tend to think that she was right all along. No matter what crap we have to deal with, we only have this one life. We can chose whether to focus on the good or the bad. And funnily enough, I have found that the more doggedly I focus on the good, the more this seems to attract good things into my life. I can't explain it, but I really feel this is true. When I was out of work last year, I got really low. I realised that this was probably coming across when I was being interviewed. And although I had more time on my hands, I wasn't doing things that would make me feel better. A good friend pointed this out to me, and I gave myself a good shake down. With a more positive attitude, the next interview was successful!

Billy

Delighted ur feeling much beta. After 13 weeks I'm actually starting to feel much beta too..spring is in the air..goodbye to SAD:)

My old mum used to drive me mad telling me to count my blessings, but as I get older, I tend to think that she was right all along.

Sigh Old mums are always right, Billy....

Lisa - I am so pleased to hear that you are coming out the other side. Enjoy your spring, and know that if you have come through all of this without going back to the fags, then your smoking career is well and truly over. ;)

I really do feel like I've turned a corner and I'm slowly transforming from an angry, depressed, unmotivated person into the exact opposite....it's very weird. I do catch myself feeling down the odd times and have to whip my butt into a perkier frame of mind but at least I can do it these days.

Cheers for all the support from you guys and this forum...it all helps to know that others are going through the same thing and that I have the support of other people I can totally relate to.

Mash - I do believe you will turn your own corner soon. I think a lot of it is down to time of year and like yourself have also said....it's learning to re-train your brain into coping without cigarettes in the long-term.

We all remember the first awful week of giving up and the constant craves and triggers, then the few weeks spent flush with excitement and the pride we feel at giving up, then it's the feeling down and morose as all the deeper craves start working their spells on you. You've forgotten how truly miserable you were smoking and the mind tempts you into thinking you actually felt happier whilst sucking on the death sticks. This crappy feeling seems to last for ages (a few months) but now, hopefully, fingers crossed, I've got through the worst of it now that I've dealt with cravings that are emotionally deeper seated (like bereavement, job loss, illness etc) and that occur infrequently. I'm stronger for it too as before I'd have had a fag and hid up a corner rather than face the issues at hand. Without those cigarettes I've had to face situations head on without a crutch. Am I'm proud of himself?...yes siree I am!!! You all should be too....as you're either going through the same journery or have trodden down that path yourselves. Through this process, I've had a lot of time on my hands from all those fags not smoked to poke and sort through my head and I'm finally at peace with myself, warts and all!

Have a wonderful mother's day all you mums out there and thankyou to all those husbands for getting us some lovely things via our kids. I'm off to munch on some choccies courtesy of Harrison (my son) and husband (who really bought them LOL!)....have a brill sunday.

Lisa xxxxxx

P.S. The above just says how my personal quit has been....I didn't wanna come across as saying that's what everyones quit is like. Some people will have found it easier or harder to quit. Everyones different. XX

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I really do feel like I've turned a corner and I'm slowly transforming from an angry, depressed, unmotivated person into the exact opposite....it's very weird. I do catch myself feeling down the odd times and have to whip my butt into a perkier frame of mind but at least I can do it these days.

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Through this process, I've had a lot of time on my hands from all those fags not smoked to poke and sort through my head and I'm finally at peace with myself, warts and all!

What a great post, and how inspiring! Thanks for giving some of us a glimpse of what lies ahead.

Phew :cool:

Good to hear your corners been cornered ... your quit journey really should mellow out, in many ways.

The few remaining triggers and associations left will just be pesky in annoyance now, easily brushed to one side.

You got thru the darker months of a quit and you've come out strong, smiling and with a most defiant middle finger raised to smoking and it's hold once had ;)

All the best to you, Lisa

Pol x

*swaps a couple or so Mothers Day chocs for a large Mothers Day Baileys*

Cheers, Girl :)

Dave and his shitty cat pictures?

Still here!!! Suffering from my 24th cold of the 24 week quit...getting a bit pee'd off feeling constantly ill!!! Glad you're feeling better :D

:D

hi lisa

glad you are feeling better was thinking about you the other day wondering where u had disappeared then the very next day this post popped up

must have been my psychic powers lol

i found wen i started to feel better it was a real enlighting moment and happened quite suddenly like an appithany

i relate to wat you are saying its like your a different person and quite the opposite of how u were like that for me to i am completely different from old smoking me even going to college yes me going to college

so glad you made it through the tough times to reach the good times

well done lisa

boo

Ha ha ha...glad to still see you're here Dave. Hey just thought! As well as reminding me of Hal from 2001: A Space Odessey. You remind me of Papa Lazarou from A league of Extraordinary Gentlemen LOL!

youtube.com/watch?v=OdtfH2D...

I hear you about the colds, I've been constantly ill since quitting. My friend was the same in his quit but after about the first year (yes year!!!!!) they were as strong as an ox, never ill. So like the feeling down, I think you just have to push through feeling ill!

Get well soon Dave (Papa Lazarou voice!)

Lisa xxx

Thanks boo...you've been such a huge support for me on here. I think you just click and relate to certain people on the forum as you're quitting (not that other people aren't terrific too just that you're on the same wavelength with certain people). You're one of those people...thanks for being there boo and yes I can't believe the difference between "me" right now and "me" two weeks ago! I've actually got off the sofa LOL!

xxxx

Thank you....

....for your post, I'm on month 3 now, 78 days. Feeling pretty down recently, a bit tearful and anxious too. I am still happy not to be smoking, but it is so tiring to feel this way.I thought I had got through the worst of the quit so this has floored me a bit. But your post has helped me put things in perspective and I will battle on!:):):)

Hang on in there Thisistheday71...like my post says I do eventually feel much better. I s'pose it takes a lot of time, energy and emotional upheaval to change your mindset after divulging in such a long ritualistic habit such as smoking. It figures that it will take longer than just a few weeks to change a habit of half a lifetime (in my case).

Stick with it...if you can do 78 days, you can do this! You have done tremendously well and I'm telling you there is a light at the tunnel, just stay with your quit until you get there yourself.

All the best

Lisa xxx

Just a quick post to say that it's been nearly 5 months since I quit smoking. I've worked through some shit times that have made me feel like picking up the ole faithfuls but I haven't done so. It really is true that "what doesn't break us, makes us stronger!". Whether it's been through having some tough times, post xmas blues, long dark nights and mornings, giving up the cigarettes or a combination of all of these things I have really felt down and depressed. I just wanted to say however that after 5 months I really am feeling more like my good old self. I'm more happy, positive and motivated than ever before. I can't explain it and I don't know why I'm suddenly feeling this way but hey...who cares, I'm well and truly on the up and that's all that matters.

I just wanted to say because there may be others feeling just as shitty as I did and that, given time, it does get better...lots better in fact. So hang on in there.

Lisa xxx

P.S. WHere's everyone gone? Dave and his shitty cat pictures? Penthouse Roof, Cavalier and all the others? Maybe I've just missed you guys as I haven't been that active on the forum lately. Anyway, hope everyone is doing/feeling well and sailing their ships ;)

I am glad you are feeling more positive Lisa, you had me a little worried for a a while a few weeks back.

Thanks Francob...I had myself worried there. Defo feel better than I did and I think it was a combo of giving up, having a few poo things happen and the SAD's....Definately wasn't just giving up cigarettes...on a really positive note. Just planted all my pots up with spring flowers and my garden looks lovely. Getting out and about, pottering around after pesky winter is doing the trick.

Thanks for everyones lovely messages.

Lisa xxx

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