the cause of my anger...

[nsd_user663_17077]

I am finding now, that I am beginning to be so much calmer in my approach to things now I have quit. My now ex-ex (we are going to try and make a go of it again, as soon as I can get back to the USA!) has noticed that in the past three weeks or so I am much calmer while talking to him on skype. Not only do I not suddenly get mad and dash off outside for my fix, but I don't really get as mad in the first place. Maybe for me, the worry I would need a cig, or more accurately having a stressful situation with the additional knowledge I could not have one for a bit, made it all worse for me! So yes, I got relief when I had my ciggie - but it was relief from a stress the cigs were actually causing!

When he said this last night I realised he was 100% accurate. My temper and stress levels were a big problem for both of us, and although as he understands, I had a HUGE amount of stress and none of it was really my making, it is very annoying now to realise I actually made things worse for myself.

This is enough for me to say I can never have a fag again EVER.

Has anyone else noticed something along these lines (I am not sure how well I have described it!).

[nsd_user663_17596]

Hiya itsinthegenes,

What you just mentioned is one of the most unexpected things Ive found about my quit. Am a natural worrier, always have been, and have anxiety and panic attacks (though not often thank god) and yet have found myself alot more chilled out since the quit.

It may be because nicotine is a stimulant and causes the heart to beat faster and so you feel more on edge all the time, subconsciously planning your next 'fix' and physically your body is 'wired'.

One of the major things ive put my calmness down to is that now i have such a lovely sense of control now. didnt realise how out of control my addiction was until i quit - my whole life literally revolved around it!! SCARY!!

Anyway have just realised that am writing now about feeling calmer etc when the post i wrote an hour ago was a proper rant and rave!! But what i mean is that im calmer 'in general'

Hope this helps itsinthegenes, its quite a unexpected pleasant side effect of not smoking!!

Good luck with the ex-ex and heres to a healthier, smokefree and stressfree life together x x x x

[nsd_user663_16887]

I got relief when I had my ciggie - but it was relief from a stress the cigs were actually causing!

what a cool observation, I had never thought of it that way, but its so true!!