Fell off the wagon

[nsd_user663_5119]

Hi guys,

Hope you are all sticking with it. I, however, fell of the wagon today, and can't believe I have been so stupid. I was only thinking yesterday of how good I felt after so many days!! Can anyone help me and give me some encouragement? Feel so rubbish

[nsd_user663_16474]

Sorry to hear this Embo :(.

Do you know why you fell off? Is it something you can learn from to make your next attempt successful?

I can only suggest you set another quit date soon and dive back in.

Good luck!!

Ed

[nsd_user663_4149]

Sorry about your relapse Embo, you're not the first and you sure wont be the last. Get your head back into the really want to quit state and get back IN the wagon, if you're IN it with us and not ON it you'll have a better chance, don't get too complacent for a while, it may come back and bite you on the bum again. Do some reading from mine and others sigs. Welcome to the college of knowledge. David

[nsd_user663_5119]

Thanks guys. There was no real reason, I guess I just chose to do it. Now gotta get my head back in the zone and carry on....as the irony is, that I didn't find it difficult to stop!

[nsd_user663_9220]

Hi Embo,

dont beat yourself up about it!! Look at it as a learning curve

Echoing what the others have said ... get back on the wagon and try again.

Many of us have fallen off... me about 8 times... but you know the saying...

If at first you dont succeed... try and try again... its very true and you will succeed in the end

Snowie xx

[nsd_user663_5119]

Thanks Snow...all words of encouragement greatly appreciated. Its like a mind-game. I know I can do it, and just have to get past the mind-block saying i can't, get through the first 24 hours and then I'm fine. Am learning what my downfalls are, and they seem to be emotional rather than any cravings. It's like something will happen which will cause stress, and thats when I need the crutch....not at any other time. Am going to set myself a new date, in a couple of days when I have got back into the zone, and then go for it!!

Thanks fellow Medway-er.

Embo

[nsd_user663_9220]

Oooo i just see you are up the road from me

Yes it is a mind game!!

You sound the same as me with the stress bit, but is it just an excuse to light up?? Is it our mind telling us once again that we are stressed and need that nico intake???

Yes it is of course!!

I think we used/use stress as an excuse?? Well dont think it, i know i do/did.

Im stressed most of the time with four boys fighting and arguing and every possible moment lol and never ending housework!

But fortunately i seem to have it in my mind that having a ciggie will not help no more.

Let me know when you set your new date!!!

Good luck and speak soon

xx

[nsd_user663_5119]

Hi Snow,

How's it going?

Have decided my new stop date will be this coming Saturday - feel really nervous about it, which is so ridiculous!!

[nsd_user663_9220]

Hi Embo,

Am good thanks, starting to get a bit cravey but will get over it, nothing in the house to tempt me ( well until oh gets home lol)

Brilliant for the new quit date

Its normal to feel nervous, when i quit earlier this year the night before i was posting on here and i was getting myself all worked up!!!

You can do this Embo, remember its a mind game.. i should be around most the day Saturday unless i get called into work, so just holler if you need me.

speak soon

xx

[nsd_user663_4149]

Not ridiculous to feel nervous embo. As snow felt, I felt just the same I was frightened to death leading up to my quit. I got my patches on the Thursday and took till the Monday to get myself gee'd up. Best thing I've ever done. You go for it. David

[nsd_user663_5119]

Thanks guys. Don't know why I am fearful, as know I felt great before...think the idea of quitting is worse than the actual quitting. keep thinking, perhaps I should just not have any more from now on, as feel guilt everytime I light up. My boyfriend and I split recently as he hated smoking so much...this gave me added incentive to quit, along with desperately not wanting to do it anymore, and now we are back on speaking terms, I feel awful, as he doesn't know that I relapsed. Talk about added pressure!!!

How are you guys doing?

[nsd_user663_9220]

afternoon Embo,

I would definitely say its in you to quit, if you are feeling guilty every time you light up your mind is already telling you its not the right thing to do.

You know deep down that you want to stop.

Like i said, is a scary thing to do and its hard to shake away those fears, have you tried writing down your reasons? and writing down the pro's and cons?

Also my original quit day was the 22nd October, but i could feel myself getting worked up about it, that i decided to do it early..

without sounding pushy, maybe that could be an option for you?

Or just go with the flow and it will sink in no more fags.

Certainly dont add anymore pressure on yourself!

xx

[nsd_user663_16968]

Hi Embo,

Just read your post, dont give up giving up as you will get there in the end, we all will.

You have to do it for you and not what others tell you to do. My OH hated that i still smoked and he had given up, sometimes making my life hell but i would not be bullied into giving up i decided that the time was RIGHT now to give up and now im on Day 4.

Be strong and go for it, you know that everytime you go and lightup you dont want it so thats a good sign. I dont know if your getting any help like Champix etc but maybe a little extra from your nurse could do wonders and as for your OH he should be supportive too. Its not easy to switch off and just become a NON SMOKER as its been a very big part of your life for a long time.

Keep smiling hun and you will get there. Dont feel a failure as there is no such thing, just keep trying and in time you can say that you "DID IT".

Take up something to help keep you occupied, i have knitting, im not good, can only knit scarves but it keeps me busy and if im not doing that, the housework, looking after the kids or cooking im on here, anything to keep me occupied.

Good luck Hun

Take care

Jo xx

[nsd_user663_5119]

Wow!! What an amazing site this is...thank you so much guys....I know I can do this and I want to do this, so just have to ignore the irrational fear and be determined. So, Saturday is the day...

[nsd_user663_17057]

Embo

We will all be thinking of you on Saturday.

Someone famously said....

"The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself"

Be strong

[nsd_user663_16887]

Hi there,

glad you going to do this again Right on@

I think if you're on the guilt trip thinking already you have a very good base for doing it For me the niccodemon still is quite loud but it can't quite overpower the proud feeling that I get with each passing day, so take that LOL It feels REAL good to be stronger than the little voice that makes up all sorts of excuses to smoke.

Day 14

35 years +

CT

[nsd_user663_5119]

This site is fantastic, never met such a bunch of kind and supportive people...am now feeling quite excited about the quit..feel like I am going to gain something as opposed to lose out!!

Everyone should be immensely proud, whether you are on 10 minutes or 10 months.....keep it up