Day 142: Guilty Pleasures.

[Wordsworth2]

Saturday is my day off but I think I am having too much of a day off and maybe I should control it a little more.

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Stay safe and stay strong.

[Hidden]

ah don't be too hard on yourself-you are doing really well and only you can decide whether you need to change things slightly. One of our trainers lives in Leicester and he says it's amazing! We have lovely countryside here with the downs and Beachy Head so are extremely lucky. Have a great week and keep focused 😊

[Wordsworth2 in reply to Hidden]

Hi journalgirl, I try not to be hard on myself but sometimes I have to be in order to get myself to do the things I want. Thank you so much for your support, it means a lot.

[gman1961 Restart April 2024]

You are not alone Wordsworth2,

You know how to right things ,don't beat yourself up over one day .

Stay focused,you will get back on track.

Gary

[Wordsworth2 in reply to gman1961]

Cheers man. Thanks for your support, it really means a lot.

[gman1961 Restart April 2024 in reply to Wordsworth2]

You are definitely not alone.

Gary

[Vikpink]

Hi Sean

Just read your blog in the link and without having read the entire page i get the impression you are on a fab journey of improving your health and fitness, welldone for taking these steps, my husband is also 47 so i can relate to this being a key time in life to approach these things.

I just wanted to reply to just explain my recent shift in my relationship with food and how reading your blog made me feel sad to hear you feeling guilty and that you don't feel able to trust yourself around food? I only get this impression by the language you use around 'control'? It reads like you feel you need external controls and counting calories in order to succeed in your health goals? That made me feel sad as this seems so important to you i would imagine that if you started to allow yourself to eat what you wanted every day then I'm sure that you would continue to make healthy choices? It also worries me a bit to hear people talk about a 'day off' as they tend to binge when having a day of 'permission to eat' - in my experience (I'm a Psychologist and lifelong dieter too) when people actually give themselves that permission every day then it breaks the 'diet/binge' cycle and leads to a healthier more balanced diet overall. Also, just thinking ahead, what will happen when you reach your weight goal? Are you really wanting to count calories for the rest of your life? If so then that's a perfectly fine choice, i just think it would drive me insane and personally I'd be more likely to binge then at 'times off' like holidays.

If you are intrigued at all by the idea of shifting your approach as you prepare for a longer term plan you may wish to google intuitive eating which helps people learn to trust their bodies and eradicates feelings of guilt to do with eating and sets you up for lifetime of healthy habits without needing external controls.

Just a thought. Its helped me shift my relationship with food but I'm not yet as close to my goals as you, its such a long process isn't it!

Welldone on addressing your health now though, wanna have a word with my hubby? 😂

Best wishes

Victoria

[Hidden in reply to Vikpink]

Intuitive eating is so interesting. Just downloaded an app for it with some great information. I'm finding it is stopping me from the binge eating cycle 😏

[Vikpink in reply to Hidden]

Fab! I am a convert lol

[Wordsworth2 in reply to Vikpink]

Hi Vikpink.

Thank you so much for your support and advice, it is certainly something I will be looking in to. I have tried, in the 130odd days I have been doing this, a lot of different methods and, at this moment, I needed some way of being strict with myself and help me to become disciplined. I certainly don't intend to calorie count for the rest of my life as, like you, it would drive me insane. This is something that will keep me disciplined until I can regain the upper hand in the choices I make so that I will not need to have apps etc because I do it as part of a lifestyle that I choose to live.

I tried to not count calories and simply eat what I wanted in moderation and it worked for a time, but then I would find myself binge eating anyway if I were emotionally down or if I had had a tiring day at work and couldn't really be bothered. Therefore I took the decision to, for a while at least, be very strict with myself and stick to a plan so that I could become more mentally prepared. My 'day off' I normally really enjoy and I actually don't eat as much as I thought I would, only for the last two I really have tried to stuff as much as I could into one day. So I figured that I needed that little bit more control over it so regain the balance. I will probably only do it once then go back to normal, but that is something I felt I needed because I was feeling guilty about how much I had actually eaten.

It is interesting though, that calling it a 'day off' may make me eat more during that day. Looking back at the day now I can certainly remember the emotions I felt during the day and the relief I felt at being able to eat anything and so doing that. Mmmmm.

I will certainly look into intuitive eating though and see if it is something I could use! Thanks you so much for the advice! Good luck on your journey and I will certainly have a word with your husband if you wish me to...or get him to read my blog!

[Lavender54]

Hello, I read with interest your having a 'day off' and feeling some guilt about it. Why feel guilty? it was a considered decision and something you look forward to.

You are really doing well with your weight loss and one day isn't going to sabotage that unless you let it - by feeling guilty.

You say that you didn't actually really like what you were indulging in very much, that to me means your tastes are changing and over time you won't want the food you thinkyou do on your 'day off'.

So your enjoyment of your planned relaxed day will change in it's format and won't be completely calorie focused.

Just my thoughts.

You live in a very beautiful part of the country, lovely pic.

Good luck

[Wordsworth2 in reply to Lavender54]

Hi Lavender54, I think you are right about my tastes changing. I also think that my body and mind like the healthy eating and healthy living and the feeling stronger and the endorphins. Perhaps I shouldn't feel as guilty as I did. Thank you so much for your support.