How to get a skinny person mindset?

[YesICan13]

Super tired today, so it's a pretty negative post, sorry.

I'm just feeling very lost. I did so much to lose weight, I lost 15kg at one point but then started to gain weight again. I'm currently 4kg more than my goal and don't see how I'll get to it.

I've been trapped in a yo-yo for the past 6 months - gaining and losing 4kg. It seems like a never-ending circle, when I'm super strict and do sports, write down everything I eat, I lose a few kilos then life happens (holiday, stress at work, injury) and I'm back to the start. I don't see how im going to be able to enjoy normal life and stay the same weight ever.

I try to listen to my body with food, but it doesn't seem to help, I just overeat on sweets and junk food. When I'm following a diet plan I feel miserable and always crave snacks and sweets. I just feel like I don't have the strength to do this anymore... Help, how do I continue from here?

I just wish I could wake up and be one of those people who don't think about food too much and enjoy life instead.

[Tiggerr]

I can sympathise YesICan as I did something similar... lost about 18kgs, maintained for a while, finding it harder and harder until I went off the rails.

It took me about 8 months or so to gather my thoughts and start again. I started by counting calories as before but have gradually migrated to lchf where I have found that it was the carbs that kept sending me off the rails.

I'm not saying it would definitely help you but it's made a big difference for me and have found that I don't even need to cal count any more which is a relief in itself.

[YesICan13 Healthy BMI in reply to Tiggerr]

Thanks for the encouragement <3

I have some concerns about the LCHF because I've read a lot of studies on it. But it definitely helps a lot of people, so it's a matter of personal choice.

I will try to do more sports because this is the only thing that distracts me from food. Plus afterwards I'm not that hungry at all.

[Tiggerr in reply to YesICan13]

Good luck with using the sports.

[S11m]

Hi, YesICan13

We have to try to be "politically correct" if we tell people that they need to "fix their mindset" before they can get to or maintain their target weight!

I used to think salad was "rabbit food" but now I can enjoy eating lemon, and I can look a plateful of keto food and think it looks delicious!

Eating plenty of fat at mealtimes satisfies and decreases the "need" to snack or binge.

[YesICan13 Healthy BMI in reply to S11m]

Thanks for the support! I guess I just need to shape up and stop complaining

[san_ray70 Maintainer]

I used to eat junk as it is called, we had cake and chat, now I just ch at, birthday parties I have one cake instead of more. I eat a lot of fruit. Ham, chicken, low fat cheese. So far I am losing weight, you have to try to tell yourself you do not want chocolate etc. It is not easy, but I think I am winning. I go to slimming world as well as this site. Keep on trying and you will succeed good luck.

[YesICan13 Healthy BMI]

You're very right! Thanks <3

[FASDmum1]

I can definitely sympathise but my son, a personal trainer, says that even just calling it a diet makes you think about restrictions and denial. So it’s about changing our thoughts itself. Research the effects of sugar on our bodies- quite shocking and no wonder it’s so addictive like so many drugs! If we want to be a healthy weight and be an active older person then we have to change our thoughts. Diet no longer but eat healthier. Do things that make you move around more so rethink your routines get to work/walk after tea/go for a weekend family swim etc . Listen to motivational messages on your phone/iPod to inspire you. Make it a whole family health drive so you’re not alone on a “diet”. Plus don’t have any bad stuff in the house for anyone- it’s not good for any of us. Then maybe throw the scales away and go by your clothes to reduce the anxiety on how you weigh when you’re around your goal weight. So a whole lifestyle rethink not a denial diet binge and bust mentality. Hard but you Can do it. Good luck x

[MissisB 4 stone in reply to FASDmum1]

Hello and welcome FASDmum1, and thanks for your support here.

Have you come here to lose weight or out of interest and wanting to assist others? Either way you are welcome, but I would like to give you an appropriate badge. 🙂

[FASDmum1 in reply to MissisB]

Hi I’m here to support currently as waiting to move house when my builders have finished so a chaotic lifestyle at the moment but hopefully can move in before Christmas so will start my weight loss journey then when I can cook again (eating out and sandwiches is what has put the weight on for the past year)

[YesICan13 Healthy BMI in reply to FASDmum1]

That's right, i'm already usong a few of those strategies, just need to make it a lifestyle.

Thanks!

[lucigret]

I agree with FASDmum1 's son, stop thinking diet and start thinking of a new way of life.

If you are finding that you are always craving and wanting snacks, then I would suggest that you think again about LCHF, some fats are good for us and they along with getting rid of some of the carbs, will stop the craving.

I don't know if you have already been given this and apologise if you have, but I think you might find it useful,

healthunlocked.com/nhsweigh...

Wishing you good luck

[amykp Visitor]

There is no skinny person mindset. I've been fat, now I am skinny. I ALWAYS think about food when I am hungry, and when I am full, I don't. The difference is that now I feel full most of the time.

I got this way by a combination of very low carb and intermittent fasting. But I started with very low carb--it keeps you fuller longer, so you can move into an intermittent fasting regimen (read: skip breakfast)

Because yes it's hard to be hungry! Even skinny people think so. Don't let them fool you--that's not why they're thin. They are blessed with better insulin systems.

Watch podcasts by Dr. Jason Fung.

[lucigret in reply to amykp]

Great reply amykp

Podcasts by Dr. Jason Fung are great, easy to understand and make you think YesICan13

[amykp Visitor in reply to lucigret]

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[over61andstilltrying Maintainer 7lbs]

Hello YesICan13,

First of all I must apologise because you sent me a long reply a while back and asked me a question, but somehow, I didn't see your reply at the time and consequently I didn't answer. I am very sorry.

I realise that you are a lot younger than me, but oh!How I relate to your post! I think that I have been weight aware and wanting to weigh less for 48 years! How mad is that!? Surely at 62, I should have learnt by now!! Ridiculous!

Happily, I am lighter now than I was at 14, which is astounding to me and I am enjoying the slimmer me. I do though, still have extra mass around my middle that I would like to bid farewell to, once and for all.

I am not sure that I want to be skinny, but I certainly want to be the best I can be. I am currently 8 stone 2 lbs and 5 foot 4 inches tall.

To be the size that feels right and know what to eat to maintain that, how good would that be? As I have been weight aware for so very long, I feel that if I do manage to achieve the right size for me, it will probably takes some years to really adjust to the right eating to maintain that size.

Enjoying good meals three times a day is one thing and fine, although, I am still learning about the small portion size that is good for me. The whole idea that desserts are good or tea/coffee and cake or chocolate, really needs to be banished from my mind. I just do not need those things if I want to maintain a slimmer me. I am actually not missing them at all. I have always cooked a lot and it is odd un-learning past ways. I need to find pleasure in many other things rather than the foods that my body clearly doesn't require.

But oh! Wouldn't it be lovely just to get on with life, be the best size for me, know what is the right food and amount to eat and not really have to think about it any more? One day, perhaps!

I noticed your name on the Christmas Challenge and so far you are the nearest in weight to me of all the folk there, which is what led me to your posts.

Do you still play lots of volley ball? I'm building up my running again after the summer where I concentrated on gardening.

All the very best to you on your weight loss journey. I would encourage you to sort it out now, I am sure that you can, and not leave it for the ridiculous amount of years that I did!

😊🌸