Long time.. My palms are actually sweating while I am typing this.. I know no one judges here but I still have that social phobia.. but nice to know that someone here will read my message..😊 thank you...
I have been yo-yo dieting since my last post.. I make promises to be good with my eating habits, but break them as soon as a tragedy strikes which is like almost every other day....I then binge on sugar and bread..🙄
I wonder if I am a needy person.. people are annoyed by such people, isn’t it? I know, I am judging myself.. I don’t have any close friends... there are lots of people who respect me and want to be my friend.. but as soon as they get close .. I move away, because I have these awful thoughts “will they hate me when they know the real me? My mind, is it a bad place?” When I was younger I could speak any rubbish I wanted to my mother and sister.. they would discuss my ideas constructively and that build my confidence.. but now they are far away and I get to see them only for a few days once every 4-5 years... who knows if I’ll meet them again? Human life is a fleeting moment.. I cherish every moment I spend with my children, knowing that they fly away soon to make their own nests.. I cuddle and kiss them as often as I can...after a few years, I might see them as well once in every few years, I guess...
I am currently trying to have only one meal a day.. I started two weeks back... I have lost a kilogram but I fell of the wagon several times ( like 7 days 🤪).. attempting for a success today... I went to the kitchen this morning to make myself a cup of tea (no sugar & a dash of hazelnut milk).. and I could see all these foods looking at me... I ran away as fast as I could.. now I am in my living room, safe...going to spend some time praying and read my Bible..
Have a lovely, sunny day..😎
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Hello NannyJ1234 - welcome and I am glad you found your way here. Life can be very hard at times, but it sounds like you have a lovely family and you appreciate them. Just remember you absolutely deserve to eat healthily.
If One Meal A Day is not working for you, or at least not yet, try something else that you can sustain?
Join us on the Daily Diary as we all make our plans?
I'm sorry that you've had so many tragedies in your life that your good intentions for healthy eating have flown out of the window and hope that you'll be able to get back on an even keel soon.
You judge yourself harshly, I think we all need people in our lives that we can turn to for comfort and reassurance and if those people aren't there, that's when we turn to other forms of comfort. Some turn to cigarettes, alcohol, or drugs, you, like so many of us, turn to food. I'm going to give you a few things to read, to see if any/all of them could offer you some insight and/or assistance
I also think that maybe your GP could help with your anxiety and wonder if you've ever had a blood test for thyroid function, as anxiety and weight gain are classic symptoms.
I feel that you may be asking too much of yourself to stick to one meal a day and wonder if 3 good meals a day, cooked from scratch, big enough and with enough natural fat for satiety, would be the better way forward, as you could eliminate the need for snacking. Would it be possible not to have unhealthy food in the house? If it's not there, you can't eat it.
Why not contact your mum and sister using skype/facetime? That way you wouldn't feel as alone.
Last and by no means least, start to involve yourself with forum life. You have no need to be shy, because none of us knows you, so you can be as open and honest as you wish
As a reminder, follow this link to our chat thread and a list of all the activities we run. We've found active participation to be key to success, especially with our weigh-ins and Daily Diary.
Hello, NannyJ1234, I'm glad to meet you, you've lost a kilo, well done.
Personally, I couldn't live on one meal a day, I probably could have done when I was younger, but now I'm no longer young, I have to have 3 meals a day and 2 snacks spread out during the day from my calorie allowance. That way I've always got something in hand for later, and I don't get so hungry that I no longer care. We each have to find the way that works for us, it's not one size fits all.
Thank you for your good wishes, it is indeed a sunny day here and the washing is drying on the line!
It not easy, I know I definitely fall off wagon many times, every day provides opportunity for a fresh start. Wonderful thing here is your not judge, we all understand.
Maybe eating three meals maybe help, high in protein to keep you full for longer.
One Meal A Day (OMAD) is not the best strategy to start Intermittent Fasting (IF).
I recommend that (unless you have problems and motivation like acute diabetes, cancer etc.) one should gradually transition into "fat-burning-mode" and Intermittent Fasting.
You could do OMAD two or three days a week, or just start by not eating after 19:00 and gradually narrow you eating window until you are fasting 16:8, 20:4 or whatever.
Much love to you, NannyJ1234!! What you have written has really resonated with me, and I'm sure it has for many others as well. I wish you lots of wonderful times ahead with your children, and family as a whole. These times are precious indeed.
In terms of finding a sustainable way through this weight loss maze, I have found eating a low carb, healthy fats diet (LCHF) really works for me. It helps to sustain me so I don't have cravings, and am not hungry between meals. There is a also a LCHF forum here with lots of advice and support if you're interested in looking into it.
Very thoughtful post. I’m glad you’re back and took the time to write it. I like that thought of the foods looking at you and running out of the room! A lot of us are struggling here, and it’s nice to find some friends online who are encouraging. All the best to you...
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Tuna/salmon : yes or no?
So far so good... I think !
Muddled and undecided
New here would love to meet others and help me stay on track and be accountable 
Triggers led to overeating.
