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Defeated but still trying.

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I have been on my weight lose journey quite strictly for 2 years now and so far although surely being healthier and stronger I’ve never achieved weight loss. I feel as though I have followed smart diet options – not ridiculous fad diets. I tend to calorie count to give myself a good idea of my intake. I have had periods where I’ve been exercising 5 times a week and would consider myself to have made good improvements towards my physical health.

I am now feeling rather disheartened by a continued effort that doesn’t seem to have brought me any closer to my goal. My current diet is mostly trying to concentrate on eating clean, with lower carbohydrates.

I’d love any information about healthy recipes or websites people have found useful. It’d be great to find a FREE exercise app – I love going to the gym but struggle to create my own workouts and can’t afford a PT.

Any and all advise welcome. Thanks for reading.

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You are not alone! For a few it becomes a nightmare and if it was the trying they would lose BUT they don't sadly. Back in the 60,s a Prof at Oxford Radcliffe's Hospital did research into such patients. I was one of them. I had xrays, scans etc and was put on medication and lost 3 stone. Then the trial ended and the meds were not approved. I don't think much has happened since then and it's not an excuse but it does explain why it is so much harder for some than others. I have just done ww and stayed exactly the same. I don't know what to do next. I hope you succeed.x

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BridgeGirlAdministratorSS Supercook2 stone in reply to Love100cats

What are you trying, Love100cats? (wonderful name :) )

From the timescale you mention, I'm hoping the title of this piece won't be offputting and it may give you a different approach healthunlocked.com/nhsweigh...

This gives the same message in a different way phcuk.org/wp-content/upload...

Don't get downhearted. You can find a way that will work for you :)

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Love100cats in reply to Love100cats

Yesterday was day 1 of another attempt. I will never give up. Getting heart failure was another blow! But I'm having treatment for underactive thyroid so that's a plus. It would be the biggest surprise and best gift to lose a bit of weight. Thankyou.

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morelessAdministrator7 stone in reply to Love100cats

You've replied to yourself, Love100cats. I'll tag BridgeGirl

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BridgeGirlAdministratorSS Supercook2 stone in reply to Love100cats

You're welcome :)

I hope you get your medication sorted out. You can get great support and advice from this forum healthunlocked.com/thyroiduk

I hope the links I've given you will encourage you to try a new approach. We get nowhere trying the same thing repeatedly so, whatever you've done in the past, try something different this time :)

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Love100cats in reply to BridgeGirl

Will do!

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Lytham3 stone

Oh sorry youre disheartened, it happens to us all from time to time, would you like to join our Easter challenge to lose half a stone by Easter? Just post your weight on the Easter Countdown challenge post, hope to see you there! I will attach a link for you

healthunlocked.com/nhsweigh...

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BridgeGirlAdministratorSS Supercook2 stone

Hello Siriugirl and welcome to the forum :)

You sound very committed and it must be frustrating to not be getting the results.

If you're calorie counting, I wonder where you're getting your range from? It may sound perverse but if you have been over strict with your intake, you may have slowed your metabolism down so that you've ground to a halt. Check your advised range at the NHS BMI calculator (unless you are in the healthy BMI range, in which case there won't be a recommendation)

You could try an alternative approach that many forum members are finding helpful i.e. low carb high fat. You'll find out more here healthunlocked.com/lchf-diet

I find the BBC Good Food website good, and dietdoctor. If you hang around here, you'll see other recommendations, and there are plenty of recipes under Topics.

This welcome Newbie post introduces the forum and gives directions for finding your way around healthunlocked.com/nhsweigh...

I recommend joining a weekly weigh in on the day of your choice.

You may also like to browse the Daily Diary, where people post their meal plans, and join in when you're ready.

Wishing you every success :)

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Siriugirl in reply to BridgeGirl

Thank you BridgeGirl, I appreciate your reply.

I think at times I have definitely not been eating enough, but seem to struggle to find the right balance between my calorie intake and calorie output.

Is there information anywhere about the amount of calories you should replace after a workout?

Sometimes my calorie output is quiet high which I think then means I’m not eating enough.

I think equally I’m finding it hard to establish the right diet for me. There are so many diet contradictions I find it impossible to know what is actually best.

I look forward to using the forum to get more advise and conversations with people who are in the same boat.

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BridgeGirlAdministratorSS Supercook2 stone in reply to Siriugirl

I have always used the NHS BMI calculator. That takes your level of activity into account and gives you a calorie range based on that, so you don't have to be constantly making adjustments.

I'd suggest you start in the upper half of your range. I've always just aimed for that each day but some people work on a weekly figure and eat less during the week, for instance, and more at the weekend. You could balance it out so you eat more on your more active days.

But honestly, you don't have to drive yourself daft juggling figures. Buy fresh ingredients, avoid highly processed food, have plenty of healthy fats to keep you feeling full (olive and coconut oil, oily fish, avocado, nuts, seeds), fill your place with veg, particularly leafy veg.

And as for exercise, do what you enjoy, to keep you fit and healthy :)

(And do look into the low carb high fat option: you don't have to count anything there)

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BridgeGirlAdministratorSS Supercook2 stone in reply to BridgeGirl

Should have given you this, too

healthunlocked.com/nhsweigh...

I second BridgeGirl with the BBC Good Food website.

I also use Jamie Oliver's recipes and also love Tom Kerridge and the Hairy Bikers (Sounds like a 60's / 70's band!!)

:)

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