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[Shelley2310]

I’m feeling disgusted with myself! I’ve managed to loose just over a stone in the last 9 weeks, given up smoking at the same time. Well I was sooo hungry this evening I sent my oh out for KFC, between the 2 if we demolished a boneless bargain bucket plus sides!! I darent look and see how many calories I’ve had. I feel as though I’ve let myself down. I do have lot going on atm, my son was sectioned 2 weeks ago, I’m going backwards and forwards to the hospital, whilst caring for my elderly parents (mum has dementia), I also have custody of my granddaughter. I hadn’t eaten since breakfast healthy eating went out of the window this evening. Sorry for rambling on! Oh and thanks for reading.

[Brummie8095]

Wow, I wouldnt beat yourself up you have so much going on. Personally quitting smoking should be the top of your personal agenda. Then tackle the weight. I really do understand and my heart goes out to you

[Shelley2310 2st 7lbs in reply to Brummie8095]

Thanks, I think the thing that got me was I ate the amount I would devour before, perhaps my stomach hasn’t shrunk as much as I’d hoped. I joined the gym through a gp referral at the same time. Couple of weeks ago I started the C25K, but pulled ligament in my knee at the end of w1. So that set me back a little. It’s eased a bit now so started back at gym just doing what I can comfortably.

[Autumnleaving Maintainer 1st 7lbs]

One day off will make No difference, long term. Hating yourself, being disgusted with yourself and beating yourself up will make a big difference, in the wrong direction! Pick up tomorrow where you were and remember how far you have come. And be as kind to yourself as you would be to anyone else...

[Shelley2310 2st 7lbs in reply to Autumnleaving]

Thank you 😊

[Tenstoneliz Maintainer in reply to Autumnleaving]

Wise words.

[Wobbleless]

You have a lot going on in your life and have achieved so much. Focus on what you have done one night will only delay progress not prevent it. Maybe think why it happened....if I get too hungry I crave instant food. Sometimes better to eat something like a banana to stave off the point where you could eat a zebra

[bikegrrrl 1lb in reply to Wobbleless]

Drive-by lol at "eat a zebra" ...

[Bubbalicous 10 stone]

Don't beat yourself up, a lifestyle change takes a lifetime, I've lost 10st but still have the occasional kebab......just try and make as many good choices as you can, take each day as a fresh start, enjoy your KFC......for tomorrow will be another day

Don't ever feel guilty......

[Shelley2310 2st 7lbs in reply to Bubbalicous]

Thanks I did really enjoy it whilst I was eating it....it was after I felt disgusted in myself. But I’m drawing a line and stepping over it. So glad I joined this forum x

[Realthing Visitor in reply to Shelley2310]

You’ve just affirmed a positive thing - drawing a line! We are all human & disappointed with ourselves at times but think how well you have done! I think the key here was that you hadn’t eaten all day and we do that from time to time so if that hinders you try to have some healthy snacks around that will keen the hunger pangs. The positive is as you hadn’t eaten the saved calories went towards your kfc! Today is s new day - you can do this, you’ve proved it! Big hug 👩🏻

[EllyChaos]

Maybe you need to tackle the reason why you got so hungry.

Most of these events happen when we get hungry. Ideally, I firmly believe that not allowing yourself to get (too) hungry is one of the keys to diet success. Not eating enough or often enough, not sleeping well enough, not including enough protein or fibre can all make you hungrier.

I keep it at bay 85% of the time by eating 4 satiating meals a day and keeping my calories to just under 2000 (female, currently 132 pounds, 5'4).

I agree with the others that you shouldn't beat yourself up so much for it and remind yourself of what you have achieved, but I do think that rationally analysing and learning from the experience is just as useful and maybe even better for your psyche and feelings of guilt.

[elliebath Maintainer in reply to EllyChaos]

Ooh lucky you with that calorie allowance. I guess you must be young or very active or both.. I am the same height and weight as you but I run into trouble if I go over 1550 . Enjoy that extra while you can 😆

[Juneglory]

Take one day at a time,you are on the right track ,so we'll done for the weight loss and giving up smoking,

[moreless Administrator 7 stone in reply to Juneglory]

Hi and welcome, Juneglory

I hope you'll make use of the links I've provided Shelley2310 and that you'll become an active member of our community

All the best!

[moreless Administrator 7 stone]

Hi and welcome, Shelley2310

You've had some excellent advice from other members and I hope that you've managed to move past the disgust you felt for yourself and can now see you were expecting more of yourself than was humanly possible. Food should not be used as a stick to beat ourselves with, it's, quite literally, life!

For the future, so that you don't find yourself hungry enough to eat your own arm. why not do some batch cooking and freezing, so that you'll always have a healthy ready meal for those days when life runs away with you?

Make sure you're you're eating enough, by getting a personal calorie allowance from the NHS BMI calculator and that you're eating satiating foods, so no low fat/fat free products.

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[Redspot]

Hey.....‘‘twas a blip.....all is not lost!

[ScouseTaffy]

Hi Shelley, I'm no expert but I think you should NEVER feel disgusted with your self. You appear to be dealing with a lot so tomorrow just start again. Sending good vibes through cyber space x

[13Valerie]

So sorry to hear how difficult life is for you right now.

Wishing you strength until things get better💕

[Jenniferc933]

Gosh; how strong you are. Someone once posted "you can't 'uneat' the calories but you can control what you eat from now on". But my best quote is and one that I rely on is:- "OUR GREATEST GLORY IS NOT IN NEVER FALLING, but IN RISING EVERY TIME WE FALL.". You will rise.

[janed123]

Draw a line under it, don't beat yourself up your human! Today's another fresh start my friend!

[BridgeGirl Administrator 2 stone in reply to janed123]

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[PandQs Maintainer 3st 7lbs]

Hi Shelley, don’t feel disgusted with yourself, you’ve got a lot going on and you need friends to help you. Feel disgusted with fast food outlets for not giving you the option of fast tempting food that’s healthy too!!

You need to be strong mentally and physically while you are supporting your son, parents and grand daughter (been there, got the t-shirt on some of those issues!). My previous successful weight loss a few years ago, went out the window after weeks of being on the road for hours travelling for hospital visits, eating what was available and becoming fatter, more miserable and lethargic because of it.

To get that energy you need plenty of the right food, good stuff that isn’t going to slow you down. Just a small tip to help you stay on track, I buy small snack size cheeses, and keep boiled eggs ready peeled in the fridge. When you just can’t wait to eat, have a hot drink, piece of cheese and/ or egg while you sit and plan the healthy meal you’re going to make. I’m doing low carbs, with more fat and protein, it’s working for me in a way I never thought possible.

Good luck, and big hugs for YOU for doing all that you are for your family.

[elliebath Maintainer in reply to PandQs]

Good tips re the ready to eat eggs and cheese 😊

[Hidden in reply to PandQs]

This is why I love this site, real people sharing how they cope when life throws so much at us! Great advice. 👍

[PandQs Maintainer 3st 7lbs in reply to Hidden]

Hi, thanks for that. I just clicked on your icon to have a better look at the cartoon, very funny! I notice that you said you’ve just retired - I took early retirement too and I’m wondering if you have a U3A group near you? (University of the third age for people no longer in full time employment) The reason I’m mentioning it is because most of them usually have a walking group that might interest you. Don’t be put off by the idea that you’d likely be one of the youngest, I’ve met people in their 80s and 90s who could take me on the bend :)) and we’ve had a good laugh along the way.

[Hidden in reply to PandQs]

Ah ok thanks for that, I'm always open minded to try new things, meet new people! With age comes life experience which is always fascinating. Enjoy 😉

[Livbike]

Shelley2310 you are amazing! You have so much going on and have done soooo well! It's not you who is disgusting it's the food you ate. Stack the feelings of disgust in the ' I don't eat that rubbish anymore' section of your brain and everytime you see an outlet which tempts you, recall the disgust - against the food.

Back on track now and remember you are a lady with an amazing story and you are doing brilliantly!

Don't stop now.

[elliebath Maintainer]

Ahh please don't beat yourself up. We ALL understand how these moments get to us.

I for one had a similar emotional-stress-binge earlier this week but mine was red wine &chocolate cheesecake. Not a good mix 😡

Tomorrow is another day to start afresh . 😊

[Shelley2310 2st 7lbs]

Thanks all, feeling positive this morning. I prepared my overnight oats last night. I’ve started my day with a very filling breakfast and taking salad with me to hospital 😊

[grannydoug Maintainer in reply to Shelley2310]

Well done You! I think that when life spirals into a storm by events not of your own making and beyond your control then being able to plan and manage just one aspect (in this case your food/meals) helps to give you some personal control and power back. And makes you a bit stronger! You've got lots going on just now so look after yourself too. By the way overnight oats is a great way to kick-start the daily planning-habit and are delicious to boot! Wishing you all the best. 💕

[Hidden]

Woe!!!!!!!!!Slow down honey........

Sounds like between it all, supporting so many other people you love, I'd say this one thing you wanted to do for yourself at that time was ok!

If you didn't actually enjoy it say ok I needed it then but, don't need to do it again in the future. As you choose not to eat that quantity of food. Just take from it you and your oh had a blow out together and chilled for a bit.

My dear 89 year old Mum has been in hospital for two weeks and Thursday they called us all in as she had developed pneumonia and sepsis! Although we had a terrible 48 hrs she appears a little better now, we're taking an hour/day at a time. My point is I came home and I murdered a chicken and mushroom pie with some chips, it happens to us all!

Life is busy, hard, stressful and emotional at times most of all we need to be kind to ourselves and listen to our wellbeing needs without sabotaging the long term goal.

Today is a new day, let's go get it! ❤

[Shelley2310 2st 7lbs in reply to Hidden]

Thank you, I’m feeling more positive this morning. Hope your mum continues to improve. Big hugs 🤗

[Artistintraining]

Sounds like you have a lot going on in your life. Forgive yourself for a slip up, we all have them. You seem to have recognized where you went wrong and can learn from it. If you have managed to lose a stone in just 9 weeks, congratulate yourself!

[Hidden]

The above post was for you Shelley2310 not sure if I tagged you as such?

My head isn't working properly! 👍

[dish70]

Have a huge hug... Don't beat yourself up over one day your life seems quite stressful I think you are allowed to just eat what you want this time

[Catz26]

Wow Shelly, you’ve got SO much going on right now. As an ex smoke I know how incredibly difficult it is to give up, to do that and loose weight..massive achievement. It’s just one day, we’re all human and you can pick up and carry on the next day. Don’t be hard on yourself, you’re doing amazing 💗

[fatts]

You have done well soo far . Stone in 9 weeks is woww. 1 day is ok just dont do it oftenly. Keep it up ur good work. All the best for other things

[Bong1968]

Aw, don't feel disgusted with yoursel!

Just proves you're human like the rest of us!

Well, actually super-human in your case with what you have going on.

You enjoyed it while you ate it so its not all bad and it's not like you're going to do it every night.

I would look at it as a little unexpected treat in the midst of a hectic week and then forget about it.

Hope your weekend is a little bit less stressful for you..😊

[Hidden]

We are all here because we use food for comfort so when we have additional high stress situations it's easy to understand why we think binging will make us feel better,and we don't want to listen to the other small voice inside us saying 'you will regret it!' . Don't beat yourself up, just get back on track and feel proud of yourself. My goodness you are coping with a lot ,you are amazing! Remember that.

[cindy1234]

Don't worry- one day of eating will be made up for - just as one ay of fasting doesn't help in the long run. Feel good about yourself!! You did so well so far. And lots of health to your son and parents. Enjoy your granddaughter!

[pamb67]

Your being way too hard on yourself you have done such an amazing thing firstly loosi g so much weight then giving up smoking then looking after your mum and ur grandaughter thats alot to cope with so u had some kfc so what. Dont forget how much u have achieved and you are a lovely person. We are all allowed a treat now abd then

[focused1 Maintainer 13kg]

Actually good on you for getting KFC . We all need a night without cooking and I'll bet it was tasty . This is a lifestyle and sometimes watching portions / mentally totting up nutrition / calories has to be ditched . You acknowledged that this was just a treat . You have had so much to deal with . I doubt whether it will have had any impact on your weight as a one off .

[rubyjane]

Hey You're amazing for losing a stone, really inspirational. Especially with everything you have going on. Sending hugs to you and your family x

[Shelley2310 2st 7lbs]

Thank you all for your encouraging replies. Just want to let you all know I weighed in this evening, 3lb off taking my total weight loss to 1st 7lbs. I’m so pleased 😊

[Livbike in reply to Shelley2310]

Fantastic! And I love your new teen badge!