Hi everyone
I am overweight (actually obese in the medical term)and always trying all kind of diet but I quit very quickly
I am 178 cm and 105kg
I would like to be between 85kg and 75kg
This year I want it to change
I want this year to be different
I want to do healthy choices and no going back to my demons of overeating or emotionally eating
Need support and help
Thanks
Hello MeemeeLdN and welcome.
Maybe you're ready now to stop dieting, as you know it gets you nowhere 
You've probably taken some time to add on those extra kilos, so be prepared for it taking a while to shed them, but if you commit yourself to eating healthily you'll get there. You'll find plenty of encouragement on this forum if you get involved. Good luck
Thank so much @marymanc for the support
I am going to try the 12 weeks NHS plan
And his actually how I learned about this forum
It's working for me, MeemeeLdN , that and getting involved on here, which helps keep me motivated. It's very positive and encouraging
Hi MeemeeLdN
I share this post from time to time. Hope that you (and other members) might enjoy reading it. I know not everything might be relevant to you....
If you want this to work for the longer term, you need to think about it as a lifestyle change rather than a diet. That lifestyle change will need to happen a bit at a time and will involve many things : changing your behaviour around food, portion control, emotional eating triggers, increasing your activity levels, trying new foods, making healthy food swaps, etc.
Commitment to diet/lifestyle change and resistance to temptation doesn't just happen! It has to be worked at.
The only way I have succeeded this time is to change how I approach food and eating it. I have learned to resist temptation! BUT please believe that this has taken a LOT of hard work and practice!
It's about "normalising" or "modifying" behaviour around food... and I think that with enough "practice" it becomes more and more easy until you get to the point where a behaviour is modified to the point of it becoming the only way!
I am sure that even some people who are not over weight do sometimes over indulge - but the fact is they don't do it very often!
Those of us who are over weight have been used to "treating" ourselves, eating portions that are too large, eating the things that we know are calorific because we can!
It's been a combination of changing all of those aspects of how I behave around food that has meant I have been successful this time.
I have developed a respect for the food I eat. Not everyone has the ability to eat as well as we in the western world eat. We should not abuse the privilege!
I rarely eat "on the hoof" any more, I rarely eat between meals. I take time to sit at a table and present my meals nicely. I take a moment or two to really look at my plate of food before I pick up my knife and fork.
Almost daily I say to hubbie "Aren't we lucky to be able to enjoy such lovely food". I really mean that too, I am not saying it for anyones benefit but his and mine. We should never take for granted having easy access to delicious food stuffs and our ability and love of cooking!
If you log your food - keep track of how many calories some of those "treats" contain, after a while they kind of stay in your head (medium egg = 70 cals, slice of white bread 100 cals, meringue nest 57 cals, 30g (matchbox size) of cheddar, 122 cals)
I do have sweet treats, but I buy my own choice, so things like 2 finger Kitkat, single finger Twix, Club biscuit... these are all around 100 calories. I keep them in a tin and I can have one whenever I want to, but I limit it to no more than one a day and usually with my afternoon cup of tea. That's not to say I eat one on a daily basis (usually about 2-3 times a week). They are always logged into my diary.
If you don't keep a log of what you are eating and the calories foods contain, then it's a bit like trying to travel from one place to another without a map! You might get there eventually BUT it's likely to take you much longer than if you planned the route and used a map PLUS you might take a few wrong turnings and end up going back on yourself!
I have also learned not to plan each trip out of the house to include food. Once upon a time, I'd have included lunch with a trip into town, coffee and cake with a visit to the garden centre.
I now plan or even prepare a meal BEFORE I go out (usually a salad) so that I know exactly what I can eat as soon as I walk into the door... and don't turn to "what I fancy" (usually high calorie carbs that don't keep you full for very long...)
Make a list of the reasons WHY you want to lose weight. Keep it somewhere safe (stuck to the inside of a kitchen cupboard door?) and look at it from time to time, especially when you are raiding the kitchen for treats!
I always ask myself before eating something really calorific "Do I really want to eat this thing more than I want to lose weight this week?". It's called "mindful eating" - being aware of why you are considering eating - real hunger? Boredom? Temptation? Feeling fed up?
Have a glass of water, wait 5 minutes and consider whether you still want the food. Once it's been snaffled down, it's too late and you may end up feeling cross and angry with yourself....
....and that feeling (guilt, failure) lasts for a long time, much longer than the temporary enjoyment of whatever treat you ate....
Oh, and I always remind myself how good the feeling is of seeing a loss on the scales at my weekly weigh in! That wonderful feeling lasts for days! Don't forget how that feels - you need to remind yourself of that feeling next time temptation strikes!
Some great insights there, Pineapple27 , you're right about changing your attitude to food & appreciating what you put in your mouth! If I had a pound (£) instead of a pound (lb) for every time I've literally shovelled any old thing in my mouth, I would be worth a fortune ☺💷💷💷
Hi Pineapple27
I think you are absolutely right
And this time it has to be a change of mindset and an understanding of my eating habits
Being mindful and grateful of what we are eating is something that I will try as our busy lifestyle and addiction to smartphones preventing us most of the time to appreciate our chance
I think also that I will fall again with cooking at home in order to be in control of what I put into my body and also enjoy the process
Thank you again
I am lucky as I LOVE cooking - it's not a chore but a pleasure, and as I am retired, I get plenty of time to cook!
Welcome MeemeeLdN , you've come to the right place ☺ I have just started week 3, everyone is so supportive & encouraging, so whether you're having a good day or a bad day, there's always someone here to listen, give advice or cheer you on ☺ good luck 👍
Great to have you join us MeemeeLdN
Welcome and enjoy the forum...
Please check with your health professional regarding your actions to lose weight and get their support locally to compliment this wonderful forum...
I'd like to invite you to read our Newbie Pack - which is what I call the sat-nav to the benefits of the forum, here's the link:
healthunlocked.com/nhsweigh...
Please also read this about the importance of locking your posts:
healthunlocked.com/nhsweigh...
Cheering you on to reach your goals 🎉🎉🎉
Thank you healthtrends
I am overwhelmed by the support on this forum
I will definitely follow your advice and adapt it to my lifestyle
As crazy as it sounds I don’t want to lose to quick and I want to enjoy the journey and celebrate all the small steps towards my goal
Thank you again
I appreciate it
Hi MeemeeLdN I’ve been having difficulties committing to losing weight, but I’ve decided to take action NOW. I’m tired of watching life pass me by. I watched something today that really hit home facebook.com/fattofitfoodie... hopefully this helps you to stay motivated too
Hi MeemeeLdN you've come to the right place. There's lots of support here. Ask questions and take each day as it comes. Good Luck 😊
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