Feeling low☹☹☹

[Nicole_98]

Had such a down day. We had slip ups already and i dont know how to stop. I know i have to but i dont know how. But i had a break down to my boyfriend and we sat and spoke about how i can help myself, ive orderd a pair of nice running shoes so i wouldnt want to leave them in the box! We had a look through some recipe books and have discussed what meals we would like to try and that helps to encourage me to cook i stead of order in, im sick of feeling so disgusting, i cant look in full body mirrors without crying, i get anxiety when im around other girls my age and see how nice they look, i want to be able to walk round and be happy with how i look but i cant right now, i will get there it just may take longer than i thought but i cant give up not when i habe so much to look foward to.

[pcrw Maintainer Healthy BMI]

Sounds like you are trying really hard Nicole. Good for you. The rewards of losing weight are great and they are yours for the asking if you make your mind up and are determined you will achieve it. Great idea to cook rather than takeaways and ready made meals because they are full of additives and not good for you.

I bet those running shoes are lovely when they arrive and I look forward to hearing where you have taken them for on your first outing.

All good wishes

[Nicole_98 in reply to pcrw]

Thankyou so much!!

[anigoni 2 stone]

Hi Nicole_98. That feeling of helplessness is terrible but it sounds as if you are making the right changes and your boyfriend sounds supportive. it does get better and keep on counting the calories and doing a bit more exercise and you will see results before too long. We all slip up.. but hey.. its not the end of the journey.. keep popping back into the forum and you will see that slip ups are not a permanent state of affairs. Hope you find some lovely recipes. There are loads of good suggestions on this site. Good luck!!!

[Nicole_98 in reply to anigoni]

Thankyou, all of this support is so lovely and appreciated x

[Minniewinny Host 5 stone Maintainer]

Not giving up long term is the way to reach your ultimate goals, and all your mini goals along the way.

Well done for posting here and I am sure you will receive support in the responses..

Cheering you on to your successes 🎉🎉🎉

[Nicole_98 in reply to Minniewinny]

Thankyou i will deffo be posting and looking on here alot more x

[Minniewinny Host 5 stone Maintainer in reply to Nicole_98]

I see your boyfriend right behind you.. And you really don't look very big.. How much are you looking to lose?

[Nicole_98 in reply to Minniewinny]

That was back at christmas and a couple stone for now just until im happy really

[Minniewinny Host 5 stone Maintainer in reply to Nicole_98]

I wish you well and hope you both keep healthy..

Have you considered joining in with the daily diary in the events section.. lots of ideas for each day's menus..

And do take lucigret 's advice.. she IS very wise and caring.

EDited.. IS definitely very wise xxx

[lucigret in reply to Minniewinny]

Thank you Minniewinny , I am hoping that was a typo and should read 'is' lol x 😊

[Minniewinny Host 5 stone Maintainer in reply to lucigret]

Defo a typo, edited now.. Thank you 😊

[lucigret]

Nicole_98 , I am most definitely old enough to be your Mum and I am going to say to you what I would say to my daughter. Your weight does not define you, or make you who you are, beauty comes from within. I remember at 14,15,16 being over weight and feeling horrible and unattractive, I started my weight loss journey and now I look back and so wish I hadn't spent those young years worry about it all so much. I would bet you a whole lot of money that those girls you think look lovely are just as insecure as you but hide it better. You have a really lovely sounding boyfriend who is very supportive and loves you for who you are. Just keep at it Nicole, you will achieve your goals, try and accept the it will take some time and don't do it too quickly or you will end a yo yo dieter as so many of us older ladies on this forum have done. You don't want to be back here in your 50's still battling.

I challenge you to look in the mirror and find two things you like about yourself. Looks to me as though you have a lovely pair of eyes. I bet there is plenty your boyfriend likes!

You just keep going a day at a time and try to stop worrying about what other people might think and stop thinking that all those girls out there are full of confidence, you can hide a lot behind a big smile.

Just keep coming on to this forum and talking to us all, you will get lots of support

[Nicole_98 in reply to lucigret]

Thankyou so much, yes i will keep at it and wont give up!!! I can not wait to see a difference and finally be happy x

[lucigret in reply to Nicole_98]

And you will, watch out for the non scale victories as well, clothes feeling looser, complexion better, fuller hair, stronger nails etc etc xx

[Nicole_98 in reply to lucigret]

Yes exactly thats what i need to focus on, all benefits x

[Wadestreet]

First of all welcome the forum. you are in the right spot where you get encouragement, understanding and great tips. You can do this. I ask someone what was the best tip after losing his weight was. He said never give up!!!. So if you have a bad day dust yourself of and begin again. You are a beautiful person and you can do this. And remember do it for you. And do not give up.

[Nicole_98 in reply to Wadestreet]

Thank you so much