Hi, this is my first time visiting this site.
I’ve been overweight my entire life, weighing 25st 7 at my biggest.
I was pre-diabetic and had gestational diabetes when pregnant with my first child.
The turning point for me was when I had to have a c section because he was going to be a bigger baby due to my diabetes, and the maternity hospital didn’t have a bed big enough for me so I had to go to the main hospital. Embarrassing and awful.
I vowed to lose weight which I did. After child number 2 some crept back on, but I got my head back around things.
Today I’m happy to say I’ve lost half my body weight. Don’t get me wrong, I’m no angel, I still have treats but I manage everything in a different mindset.
One thing I will say, is I tried every diet going- when you’re overweight you don’t need a diet, you need a change in lifestyle and that’s what I’ve adopted. My appetite and stomach have reduced so I can’t eat Like I used to even if I wanted to.
Food is an addiction, and the bigger you are, the more addicted you are. I wish the NHS would treat obesity and people as individuals because one size doesn’t fit all.
Anyway, my problem is the body I’m left with. I feel like a 70 year old woman . I dress well and from the outside nobody knows the utter despair I feel when I see my Baggy body.
I exercise and look after myself but there’s only so much I can do,
I have received 4 rejections from the NHS regarding any help with surgery,
I can assure you what I need doing is not cosmetic it’s reconstructive. It’s soul destroying at times
Of course I feel better losing weight - I’m no longer diabetic and I can be a good healthy role model for my children. But my confidence is low. I have had counselling, but the sheer utter disgust I feel towards myself at times Is awful
I’m trying to give myself confidence as time goes on, but the NHS are dishing out obesity surgery to curb the epidemic (I didn’t go down this road, I did it off my own back) but they are doing nothing to help with the “zombie body” nation they leave behind.
One of the comments back from the board was “we’ve seen her pictures and she looks no different to anyone else that’s lost 13 stones” .
In addition they want to see evidence where I have sores and infections in my folds and they haven’t cleared up after 18 months! Well I exercise, i sweat, and I wash. Do the NHS really want me to become ill to listen to me?
Whilst I appreciate where I live geriatric care receives large amount of funding, is there a suggestion that I have to move somewhere there are a large % if obese people in order to be listened to?
At the end of the day, it’s my fault I got so big, and I don’t expect a reward for losing weight, but if you’re not well or you need help you go to your doctor.
What if the Doc can’t help?