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Hi I have just been informed that my reply to your post has been deleted. I apologise if it upset you or anyone else but it was only meant as a joke you know! That was evidenced by the x at the end. At least one replier understood it.

For the ones who complained I will watch my sense of humour in the future! I am feeling hurt by this reaction I must admit but guess I will get over it.

I am on a number of sites here and have never had this kind of reaction to my humour, but I suppose when in Rome....

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Thanks for posting this, lilaclil, it will serve as a useful reminder to us all.

When we're not communicating face-to-face, like this, it's impossible to know whether we're being accurately 'read'. We are not known personally and our sense of humour may come across as completely different to our intention. You are not the first person to find yourself in this position, nor will you be the last. There have been many that have knowingly, or unknowingly, been in the same boat, myself included!

I hope that you'll be able to put this behind you and won't be put off from participating in the future, because all opinions and a sense of humour count.

Wishing you all the best :)

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Thank you for your kind reply moreless. I was just taken aback that's all as no one on here has ever responded to my sense of humour like that before. It did upset me and make me question myself.

I do suffer from depression as well so I am probably more sensitive than most on here. I will get over it but will unfollow for a few days until I feel better. I expect I will be back soon, though I will never ever try and make any joke at all on here again and will think extremely carefully before responding.

Thanks again. Take care. xx

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I'm sorry that this has affected you so badly, llaclil, but know exactly how you feel.

I certainly hope that you won't stay away too long and I would hope that this forum wouldn't gain a 'no sense of humour' reputation! It takes different personalities to ensure an unbiased viewpoint and lively discussion.

We have a duty of care to our members, so have to look carefully when someone is upset/offended and decide on the best course of action.

Don't be a stranger, I shall be looking out for your return :)

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Thanks again moreless. I am super sensitive to criticism or perceived criticism, and I know that. I also know I will get over it in a few days.

I will be back. xx

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Me too!! :o

That's good to hear! Take care :)

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Lilaclil hope you are okay. I replied to your post as to me it was obviously a joke and saw that there was no malice intended. I use text, messanger, fb, WhatsApp constantly and I see when things are meant in jest eg the x at the end or a smiliey face. I suppose not everyone is tuned into this way of communicating and the admins have to ensure that no one is offended of upset by what is being said. Keep posting, it was simply a misunderstanding.

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Thanks for kind reply Dipper, I saw you got the joke. It never occured to me that anyone wouldn't, but I agree if there are complaints then the admin has to take action. I usually put a smiley face at the end, but just did an x.

Like I said on my reply to moreless, my sense of humour will not be on show here again. Serious face only in future.

I apologise again to those I upset. x

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As I said, it was clearly a misunderstanding, don't be serious faced, be natural. xx

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Thanks for caring Dipper. Not sure I can separate the humorous me from the serious me, but will try. I don't want to risk upsetting anyone again, and making work for our lovely hard working volunteer admins. They have a hard enough job as it is and all of them do it brilliantly. xx

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Hi Lilaclil,

I didn't read your post so have no idea what caused offence. However, as important as it is not to offend and upset anyone it strikes me you also have been offended & are upset. Try to get past this as quickly as you are able, be aware of other peoples sensitivities but don't suppress your personality. Looking forward to reading your future posts.

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Now I'm intrigued (or nosey!!) .. my motto is;" if in doubt leave it out" but it's very easy on social media/emails/texts to be misunderstood ... I've had more than 1 slap on my wrist from my sons 😂🤣😂🤣 esp after a glass 🥃... at least with emails you can pop it in drafts!!

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No harm done Mummabear1

Looking forward to seeing your posts in the future 💙💜💛💚

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No harm done Lilylil looking forward to seeing your posts again soon

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Sorry lilaclil, I have only just logged back on and can assure you that no comment that you made upset me and quite honestly I have no idea what all this is about!

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