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Hi all i have just this minute joined having checked out Nhs weightloss programme doing the bmi calculator and having a fit at how much i need to lose. I have a goal lined up i need to lose about 8 stone as i want to be a surrogate for my brother and sister in law as she was diagnised with cervical cancer just 7 weeks after marrying my brother in April. They have done the fertility treatment and are having the eggs frozen whilst she embarks on her treatment from Monday. Grateful for any hints and tips as like many of you i have dieted for years x

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Hello Debs1965 and welcome to the Weight Loss Forum

What a lovely reason for losing weight 😊 I'm glad you have seen the NHS BMI checker because that should suggest your target calorie range which is so important.

Here are a few suggestions on how to get the most out of the forum. Please note if you are using the new HU App many of these features are not available so I suggest you use the full website version.

The first place to look is at the Pinned posts section to the right of your screen (bottom if you're using a mobile), read the Welcome Newbie thread first and move through to the challenges, where we hope you'll find at least one that will appeal to you. Move down to the Topics, to find a variety of threads, collated into specific topics for ease of access and we ask that you also 'file' your own threads, so that others won't miss your important news

Have a look at the NHS 12 week plan, as many people have had success with it. Also use the BMI checker to find your target calories, it's important to eat enough. This was a major turning point for me, realising I could eat anything I wanted as long as the calories are accounted for. Don't forget to take your starting measurements and a 'before' picture, as they can be very motivating on days that the scales refuse to co-operate

The forum also have group weigh-ins every day, as well as a new Daily Diary, if you wish to take part. The posts can always be found in the Events section on the 'home' page. And if you just want to chat, to say hello or share any news or struggles then look out for What's Happening Today thread.

You'll notice a grey box next to people's names, these are achievement badges, and as a new member you have a 'Newbie' badge. We've found that to get the best out of this community, we need to be active on the forum, as it's where we exchange information, get motivation and inspiration and make friends. We hope that you'll join us here, regularly, too. If you have any questions please just ask

Best wishes


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Welcome Debs.

Anna has already supplied you with lots of really useful information and guidelines. I would like to emphasise that being involved here is a great help in keeping focused.

Good luck and I hope it pans out for all of you.

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Hi Debs1965 I really feel for you with all this and fully understand your need to lose weight. One thing I would like to advise to you is that with the bmi calculator make sure you check the two amounts it gives you as amounts of calories you need to eat between to lose weight. Do not eat any less than these amounts. I used to eat less than these amounts thinking I could lose weight faster and more at a time but this doesn't work like this as you end up putting more weight on instead because your body thinks you are starving it and turns what you do eat into body fat and this weighs more than eating the extra calories does so it stops you from losing weight and sometimes puts weight on instead. Please don't make this same mistake as it will end up taking you longer to lose weight overall and you need to lose as fast as possible, I made this mistake for years and only found out about this information on here so was so pleased I joined. Good luck with your journey.

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What a wonderful thing to do. I went to many fertility docs myself until I went homeopathic a d finally had her but surrogacy was a option. What a wonderful thoughtful experience. That's the best gift you can give. It's for life. Good luck to you.

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Hi Debs1965 and welcome :)

What a lovely thing to do and a great reason for losing weight :)

Wishing you all the best with your weight loss journey :)

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Thank you so much for you help and support already, i have a real reason to lose and keep it off for the sake of my health, my 2 boys and my brother x


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