Feel ashamed

Hi everyone .I would love to lose this weight I'd be happy if I lost 3 st ... I've always worried about how I look. I was diagnosed with seron negative they put me on numerous drugs so far I take 27 a day . The steroids made me gain lots of weight. So has this disease ... because of the pain and swelling I find it difficult to exercise . Before I was always very active. I'm stuck in a rut hating how I look but just end up eating choc then angry at myself. I would love help and support if anyone could help me ... please


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  • Hi, please don't feel ashamed. No one chooses to be overweight and with your health problems it is difficult. Turning to chocolate is only going to make you feel worse. You could either say a definite no to the stuff or you could ration out little bits. Personally I find it easier not to eat it at all but some people find a little is enough. I wish you luck, keep posting!

  • Thank you so much for the reply. I do find it difficult to leave it alone even if I don't want it I eat it. So annoyed at myself

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  • can you walk ok? When I first started I just walked and gradually ncreased my pace, I now do strength exercises as well but most weight loss is dietary, exercise will help with toning. If you have no resistance to chocolate- my weakness are crisps, then its best not to buy any and ban them from the house. Good luck

  • Thank you for reply . I know you are right about buying choc etc I don't know why I do I always regret it. I can walk some days depending how painful my joints are. I will give this ago

    Point is I love fruit and I make fruit salad everyday.

  • we all have those days when we give in to temptation- I have to walk past the crisps aisle since if I go up it it can be a bit dodgy if I am able to resist or not!

  • Welcome and good luck to you. Don't be ashamed. I'm sure you are much more than your weight but I understand and I am learning to love myself. Check out the happiness challenge. I just started today and it will help you realize the good things in life. My husband loves me regardless and so should I. Hope to see you around the forum. Stick with it and you will be surprised.

  • My husband loves me regardless . I'm very funny about my food . I eat lots of fruit. Don't like veg nor pasta or eggs. Thank you for telyinh

  • I want to lose three stone too, need to lose more really. I wish us both luck. I have to resist buying treats because I know that if I buy them I will demolish them in an unhealthy way. Please try not to put yourself down, I really don't think it helps us at all.

  • Thank you for taking the time to reply yes I shudnt buy junk food .I know now if I start bad it will continue for the rest of the day.

  • Have you tried increasing protein through the day to see if it helps with the choc cravings? Emotional chocolate is the worst. Also can the Doc recommend foods that maybe help lower water retention? Would that help a little? It's bad enough when it's just you and your mind sabotaging your weight. I can't imagine how it would feel to have very little control over it due to illness and medications. Be strong, read/research lots, and don't be afraid to vent or ask questions here.

  • Thank you for advice and taking time to respond. I feel like I'm losing the battle . I think it's because I feel so disgusting I eat rubbish then the cycle begins. I'm trapped .

  • Just wondering - do you spend a lot of time indoors? If you do is there any way you can sit outside and get some fresh air and sunshine. That's always a bit of a feel good booster. Just sit and have a coffee or tea with the sun on your face. Maybe do some craft like knitting or crochet if your hands/wrists are okay with the movement, or read a book to keep your mind occupied while you are out there. Sit out in the sun, close your eyes and listen to your favourite music. If you can't get outside can you sit on a chair in an open doorway. Anything that will help promote a feel good mood.

    Little steps :D

  • Hi there! Please don't feel ashamed.. there are lots of ways to get back in shape.. it will best to always have your confidence. You can eat what you love but you also need to burn them, yes they are correct.. you need to walk, you need to move... there is no reason to be helpless my dear.. about the pains I think I know one that can help you stop that pain, I used this before, its a therapy wrap I got from a website name Nushape. See my name is Nushape haha.. yes because this helped me a lot, I am into new chapter f getting my self fit again actually, and with the help of Nushape products, their Lipo wrap and therapy wrap. And of course I am having some diet and exercise. If you are interested here is their link bit.ly/2tIry1d

    feel free to check. And always wear confidence honey.. that is a must. :)

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