Hello pals !

[Trierisme]

Hi all, Lucigret ...... I'm fine..... well.... after hovering for 4 😞 weeks I've lost this week ...... boy, there's something to be said for 'holding steady' isn't there ..... as disheartening as it is ... I haven't been on here much lately, but I've been thinking a lot ! Do you know I've nearly come to terms with the fact that at 51, and having 'issues' with food that require constant battling, I don't think I'm ever going to be 'slim' which is possibly what I was subconsciously after...... I believe I can be 'slimmer' and healthier but not, this idealised form that lurks somewhere in my mind..... it feels ok ( ish ) , though I'm still sort of coming to terms with it.... getting older I suppose is helping me be more 'accepting' in general ....... below is my little mantra.... Steve is taking it to work to laminate for me to keep in my bag..... it is powerful !

Kindness ( to self )

Question.

Revise.

Resolve.

Sustainable.

Life Balance.

Boredom.

Self sabotage.

Loved family member. ****

Portion Size.

Health

Lovely food.

Recognise and reward achievement !

Trigger/s

Hold fast/Patience

*** Loved family member one is particularly powerful..... try, very hard, to imagine you are trying to support and encourage someone you love very much whether a member of your family or a close friend, that has exactly the same issues/problems with food/self loathing etc as you have..... would you be unkind, loathe them ??? No ! So why do it to yourself 🙁 Give it a try, try really hard each time you catch yourself being less than kind to yourself, switch it around and see what happens !

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Great post. Am the same age, and am beginning to come to terms with exactly the same things. Am trying to love the good bits about me, my ankles are quite slim! Maybe it is an age thing?

[moreless Administrator 7 stone]

It's lovely to read such a positive post from you, Trierisme

I couldn't agree more with your suggestions. I think we're all guilty of being harder on ourselves, than we would be on anyone else and treating ourselves as a best friend, is the perfect way to go!

I also think that acceptance comes with age. It's taken me 6 decades to realise that I am never going to be a super-model! I've chased numbers on the scales, clothes sizes and compared myself to all the air-brushed women that fill the pages of magazines and realise now, that those things don't define me as a person! The people that love me now, wouldn't love me more if I was taller, slimmer, lighter, or more toned than I am now and I doubt whether those things would encourage extra people to love me and if they did, would they be the type of people that I wanted to associate with anyway??

Fitter, healthier and happier, is definitely where our journeys should be taking us. All the best to you, I couldn't be more delighted that you've had your lightbulb moment

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Love this reply ☺

[Gillma]

Hear hear to all 💕

[lucigret]

Well Trierisme , Moreless said it all. I am glad that you are doing ok and that you are learning to be kind to your self. A lesson I suspect a lot of us need to learn. It is nice to hear from you and sounding so positive.

[Trierisme 1st 7lbs in reply to lucigret]

Thank you Lucigret 😘 It's awful though isn't it how we can be compassionate to others yet so utterly horrible to ourselves..... I'm sure there's a reason why, but I'm damned if I know what it is ....... how is the apple of your eye doing ? He's a fine bouncing baba... he looks a real munchkin ....

[lucigret in reply to Trierisme]

OOOh I have had a lovely day, we have been with him since 11.30am and he is still here. I'm just cooking tea. We have had lovely cuddles🤗

[Trierisme 1st 7lbs in reply to lucigret]

I'm imagining you in your lovely garden with him .... xx