I am very conflicted about how to go about weight loss. I had an eating disorder in my 20s and would hate to resort to those obsessive patterns. Also I have a young daughter. I am determined to never be the mom who is constantly dieting and not enjoying a treat now and again because I don't want her to feel certain foods are shameful. That being said I am a solid 20-30 lbs overweight and am miserable about it. I find myself avoiding social situations because I'm so ashamed of my weight gain. I would love any input about finding balence. Also what is the best way to find support on this forum. Anyone interested in partnering up and being a weight loss buddy? Perhaps having an anonymous friend in all of this would help.