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I am sick of feeling alien to myself. Up until I had my second son I was under 8stone and that was a good weight for me as I'm only 5ft. But I am now 9st 5lbs and feel fat and frumpy. I want to go out walking but I feel unattractive and just want to hide. I'd really like to get back to being me again. Does anyone understand what I mean? I don't tell anyone how I feel and I keep making excuses not to go out.

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Hi Clooty-dumplin, I know just how you feel, but I bet you don't look unattractive to anyone else. I too am not really massively overweight, but bigger than I'm used to, and it does knock you sideways. But remember you are amazing, and if you want to do some walking, it will only make you feel better. If you can't face that yet then put some music on loud and dance around the house! Or do some strenuous cleaning!

I'm finding the community on this forum really supportive and am going to try and turn to here for support when I'm down instead of food.

So best of luck with your journey and I hope you start to feel fabulous again soon.

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Hey Clooty-Dumplin, thought you were maybe a martial arts kung fu expert with that post topic, HYA.

I get what you mean, it ain't fun being flabby, some people are affected more than others, some don't seem fazed at all at being overweight, others won't come out of the cupboard if they are 100 grams over. It's tough to get inside someone's head, but you want to change, you're on the forum, may as well just dive in. I mean you have to leave the house for other stuff, why not for a walk or a run? Believe me, if I saw you running down the street right now I'm not thinking "Ha, look at that overweight runner girl", I'd be thinking, " Jeez, I should be doing more of that running lark'.

Remember, this isn't about everyone else, all those total strangers, this is about you, and getting to where you want to be. Give it a go, in a few months if you stick to it you won't even have to worry about it will you?

PS. There's a bunch of really friendly people on this forum who will have no hesitation in getting behind you and cheering you on, some of them have pom poms too!

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Hi and welcome Clooty-dumplin

Don't worry what people think I'm pretty sure most people will be just wondering why there not out walking to, so get the kids ready and hit the park (I take my granddaughters and a football) I'm 50, 5ft 2in starting weight 16st 9lb I'm now 13st 11lb and I can assure you the only comment I've ever had was a young mum who said I wish I had your energy. You can do it, the kids are a great excuse to run/walk use them 😂😂

In all seriousness you are a fantastic person, you can do this, keep positive, stay active on the forum it really does make a difference

Good luck

Kat xx


If only you liked clooty dumpling as much as I do, then a large part of your battle would be over :) .

The others have pretty much said it all, so it only leaves me to wish you all the best. Stay in regular contact and the people here will be strong for you when you need it.


Hi, I am the same. I am also 5ft nothing. I was 6st 10lb when I got married 7st 10lb when I had my boys. Went up to 10st. I have struggled ever since. I have had my picture pasted on Facebook by various members of the family and I look huge. HypoThyrodism does not help. Last year on holiday I walked from 8.20am until 9pm. Climbed crags. Had the food go right through me everyday and I did not lose a pound in weight. Said to my doctor I cannot see the point of forever being on a diet, as I will never do what I did on my holiday. But as he said I am actually healthy, if I do not persevere I could become unhealthy. I now fluctulate down to 9st 4lb on good weeks, at the mo 9st 9lb, due to Easter, I want to be 9st at least. Yesterday I went on a five mile bike ride, worked in the garden nearly all day, went for a walk after dinner, ate properly. Lost half a pound. I get so dispirited too. Is there anybody out there the same and have lost weight, what did you do?


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