I am disgusted with myself, I have been on track with my diet for the last 2 weeks, making sure I only had the amount of calories recommended, but yesterday i went completely off the track, eating sweets, crisps and cake in the evening.
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ary88Restart July 2023
Hi there, Ladikool,'spiralling',on sweets,crisps ect,need some comfort,you are not alone,😊 biggest hurdle is to overcome it,each in our own way that's for sure,to break the habit, is ti never starve or beat yourself up,and ensure you have your daily calorie intake of planned meals,and in time you will change,and be able to still incorporate sweets and crisps every so often.☕☕☕
Morning ary88, Thank you for your reply, I found that I have a tendency to binge because I can't just have 1 sweet I have to have the whole packet, I don't just have 1 packet of crisps, I have 2 or 3 packets and I didn't cut a normal slice of cake. The only way I can curb this is not have any at all. "What do you think"?
Hi ladikool23
I sympathise completely. What is it that happens in our heads and lets us do this? Still tomorrow is another day and you can start over. People couldn't understand how I can do the 5:2 intermittent fast but it's like you if i don't start eating it easier than if I do!! But can only do the 5:2 in the summer as I need comfort food in the winter!! You'll be fine - just start again ........ I'll be doing the same soon. I did no exercise yesterday as I had a migraine so just to bed early but still feel guilty!!
I am going to try the 5:2 after the nhs 12 week
I found it worked for me as long as I was busy! I will start it again when it's warmer (all in my head). I am trying to train myself to eat sensible portions and not be a piggy at the moment. Be interested to see how you find it - this is my second week of the NHS one so I will then do the 5:2 after it as well and may try 6:1 if I need to maintain. Good luck to us both (I will need it!).
Some weeks ago a question was posed on this forum... "are you an abstainer or a moderator?".
It made me realise that I only tend to manage certain things by abstaining (in my case alcohol) and there are others here, that for the same reason, have cut out sweets and/or other things.
It's possible you can moderate sweets, crisps, etc and that this was just one of those blips that we all go through but it may be worth thinking about.
Anyway, as Ary88 has said, the trick is to get back up and carry on. We all have bad days but that's all they are, we put them behind us and keep going.
Good luck!
Hi Tiggerr, hope you are doing well today.
Good sound advice as well with your support and others struggling with weight issues.
A very good group forum.
Hope you have the holiday weekend off ☺️
Cheers George, I'm doing fine. I am starting to stress a bit because a number of clients are all clamouring for my time but at least that rather than when I had no work. Unfortunately it means I'll have to work some of it.
How are you my friend?
Hi we are in the same boat re ability to fling caution in the air and make it to the end of the packet, and maybe go on to the next packet. For me total ban does not work, I'm trying to talk myself in to conforming, by having an expensive box of Lindor, Lindt choc balls, milk choc with a smooth melting filling, (£6.50)and have a large pkt walkers crisp, chilli flavour, now, at present, I'm coping with my 'downs' better, life has to go on, so, when not down say, I come down for first cup of tea before brek, and I ask myself would I like choc ball with cup of tea, or maybe 6 crisps, this is not happening everyday, but I'm calmer about it, more accepting if you like, the other threat is, I hope I'm a young 68, and have my fair share of tragedy for the 'down's, and also know that large amounts of sugar and carbohydrates(sweets, crisps) daily is a serious detriment to the circulation (blood) and therefore heart disease, and many other conditions like diabetes. So I share this approach with you, so you can find your way, of making friends with the 'enemy' so to speak, I hoping that this will happen with me, and I will then consider myself 'normal,in this respect, whatever normal is (ha ha) its good to text, many have helped me on here, but it also helps me to text, and because there is not really a lot of help out there, and everyone so busy ect. have calm and good 7 days. 
Stevo55857lbs
Hey ladikool, you're not alone, trust me. I bet every single one of us at some point has had a bad day and gone into gluttony mode. It's just one day, sounds like you have had a good two weeks. Get back on it and maybe you'll get another 2 or three weeks, then you'll be 5 weeks in with one day of daftness. That's not so bad. It's a journey, pick yourself up, log the calories and take a look at the triggers for that. Was it habit, rough day? Try to plan a means to avoid it.
Such is the journey, and it will take your brain and body a while to adjust, i have always found stuff in packs, easier mentally to deal with, it is more expensive worth it long term I think, take advice from the others too.
oh packs are not good for me! If I buy a 5 or 6 pack of crisps and I get and give into the craving- thats it they are all gone in one sitting! I have to buy a packet on the day and include it in my allowance and usually I manage my love of crisps this way.
You're only human, I'd be rich if someone gave me a quid for every time I had broken a diet. You can't do anything about yesterday and it's very often how you then continue that's makes or breaks you. I bet you didn't even enjoy the food you ate, did you. After many years of failed diets I am trying to change my diet mentality and using the 'if I want it, I'm gonna have it' mentality. But first I question myself, do I really want it, is it worth the calories, how will I feel afterwards. I am slowly finding that if I give myself permission to eat it, then actually it doesn't tempt me nearly as much as if I tell myself that I can't have it. Good luck today and remember this is a long lifetime journey and yesterday was just one day.
Great response Pudwood16 😊
Everyone has days when they let things slip. The thing is to move on and don't be too hard on yourself. I agree with the posters who said it's easier to abstain than have just one sweet or biscuit as it only makes you want more. Would also second the 5:2 diet. It has worked well for me but I would say you still have to be careful what you eat on the "unrestricted" days. The idea you can stuff yourself on those days and still lose weight on the basis of two fast days doesn't work for me!
Ade601 stone
I'm not really one to give advice...but...have you tried the sugar free jellies.
If you make them with less water and put them in say a ice cube tray you will have sort of jelly sweets as the consistency will be harder than jelly.
IT may help with your sweet craving....
ladiekool23
May I make a suggestion?
Just try cutting breakfast!! Yes....breakfast it may be difficult at first,but keep occupied,drink water,coffe, whatever and last till midday and then eat your allocated calories (mine is 1710) to lose a 1lb per week! Skipping breakfast helps not to start the body off on it's cravings & it's normally 350 calories ? Fat is over eating! So this is a good way to cut calories......
Look up James Smith Training he talks a lot of sense to me any ways......Good luck 🙃
I would if I wasn't on medication that has to be taken in the first thing with food....
I agree! I never have breakfast and try not to eat after dinner until next lunch (basically 16:8 diet). It works for me as I don't get hungry until then. I know, I know "they" say we should all eat breakfast, but if it works for you then that's fine.
It's only a day , today is a new day , go back on track . It happens to many of us . But you can do it
After my blip the other day, I am back on track, weighed this morning and I have lost 13 1/2lb off my starting weight.
Well done , glad to hear it x
I would never recommend cutting out a meal. A good breakfast with fruit and cereal keeps the hunger in check. There is more to healthy eating than reducing calories the object is to change eating habits for life. You can only do this by getting the nutrition that your body needs.
I agree, I have found though that sugary cereals just fuel sweet cravings. Ideally protein for breakfast will keep you fuller for longer and start you off well. I have 6 crackerbread (114 cal) spread thinly with a scrape of low fat mayo, then topped with sliced Edam cheese, if I have a hot drink or glass of water with them, they are very filling. I can usually go at least 4-5 hrs then without needing something to eat. Try and vary the foods you eat. The jelly sweet idea sounds fab, I'm gonna try that one.
Agree. And tip no 1 of the nhs 12 tips for weight loss is to not skip breakfast! It's working for me! I vary what I eat first thing but like to have a portion of fruit to tick off one of my five a day and some protein even if it's a small portion, as it helps fend off snack cravings and lets my body know there's no need to go into starvation mode. If I have toast I prefer bread with lots of seeds in and a smear of hummus or cream cheese on top. Yum. If I really can't be bothered I'll occasionally take a nakd bar to eat on my way into work. nhs.uk/Livewell/weight-loss...
Yes, I totally agree. For years I have skipped meals and dropped weight easily, but always then pug on say half a stone in a week I've been away just eating "normally". I'm trying hard to fight the habit of skipping meals and find that it is working for me, rarely feeling hungry between meal times and using snack allowance if I do. However, if I'm going out for a meal I tend to cut down my calaries for breakfast (have a sugar free yoghurt and soft fruits -100 calls) and say soup for lunch leaving plenty for the evening. Sometimes I swap lunch and breakfast calaries if we're staying away so I can have a cooked breakfast (with only 1 toast!). The trick is to mix it up bug always have your daily allowance. I'm in week three now and it's working for me so far. Yesterday I did have a blip, chocolate, but I'm not stressing about it, one blip a week is not great, but not the end of the world today I'll be ultra strict and not go over my calaries allowed.
It will happen no matter what diet you are on! It's all down to self control and make sure you are busy.
I'm afraid most of us will binge at some point or another because we are used to having junk food thrown at us in the supermarkets!
One suggestion would be (if you have time) to go back to the old way of shopping i.e. going to your local grocer; butcher; bakery etc. They won't have bogofs or lure you into buying something you don't need!
Don't give up though as you will feel stronger next time round
All the best
Wizabeana 🍷🍩🍪🍻🍸🍰🍿🍬
in reply to Wizabeana
I work in retail and your right, it's normal practice to push bogof on sweets, chocolate and crisps that's where they can make big money, unfortunately healthy food doesn't make the money so much less chance of
a) it being on offer
b) it being in an eye catching place
But if you can ignore the centre aisle (chocolate heaven) most do have loose veg, fish mongers and butchers that will cater for individual needs xx
elliebathMaintainer
Even now I still get days like that. Yesterday it was fish and half a plate of chips and half bottle of wine.... more than I'd usually have , and especially not on a tuesday! Today I'll have tea, fizzy water and chicken salad.
Do try not to think of such days as "breaking a diet" . This isn't a case of being on a diet, it is a long term eating plan for life ...and in every respect, real life has good days and bad days ....just keep aiming for majority good days and overall you'll win the weight battle 😊😊
This post has salved my conscience somewhat. I shall take on board all the good advice to ladikool123 . Yesterday I had a bad day too. I have been on my new way of life (NOT a diet!) for four months now, and a part of me thinks I should know better now, or I should have broken bad habits now I know I can say no to big portions and too many sweets and biscuits. But even after four months, I still have the odd really bad day. So ..... pick ourselves up and get back on that wagon! As elliebath says, aim for majority good days!
I agree with Ellie, don't think about dieting, think about a new way of eating for life. If you think of it as a diet, I think you crave things more. Only have one packet of crisps or one packet of sweets in the house and count them into your plan. Some people have a packet of sweets, bar of chocolate, crisps everyday, they just incorporate in their food allowance.
I have fallen off the wagon for the past two weeks, I am on holiday this week and yesterday after a long strenuous walk, I felt tired and hungry and made very bad choices, today I feel heavy and lethargic and I don't like the feeling. I doubt it will stop me from doing it again somewhen in the future though unfortunately. Don't beat yourself up, it was one day, just start again today.
You lot ROCK 😜😜😜
I was just thinking that June1965 😊
What a fantastic group of people
ladikool231 stone
After yesterdays blip, I'm back on track today and I couldn't help going on the scales today (to see what damage I had done) even though my weigh in day is Saturday and I am 12lb down.
Hi there don't beat yourself up over this, we are only human.
Just think about it, and look forward to the support from the group forum.
Maybe you were upset or you just wanted some thing eat, or you may have been needing a drink of water.
Good luck ☺️🌹🙂💐
The fact that I have been drinking green tea today and not plain water does it make a difference.
AnnTandy1 stone
Have you thought about just adding up the calories you had in your sweets, crisps and cake to find out how many you consumed? I bet you'd be surprised and find it was a lot fewer than you actually imagine! The whole problem with these binges (and Lord knows, we've all had 'em!) is that you beat yourself up after them, as though it makes you a terrible, terrible person - but it doesn't. It makes you someone who fancied a bit of cake. Nothing "disgusting" about it, it's entirely human, especially when you haven't had any for a while. So long as the majority of your eating comprises sensible, healthy, lower-calorie choices your body can easily cope with the odd indulgence - it's when you live on those sort of foods that the damage is done. Please don't get upset or downhearted about this little blip, ladikool23, in the great scheme of things it's not going to make a huge difference. Definitely don't let it derail all your previous efforts, but get right back on it - eyes on the prize!
I second this advice 😊 Even after an especially hungry day I still write every single thing down and add up the calories. That way, I'm in charge and 'own' those numbers. 😊
Hi Anna, the green tea is ok, I prefer water as I don't like the after taste of the tea.G
Please don't feel disgusted with yourself. You have been trying really hard. There will be a reason you went off track a little, even if you're not immediately sure what it was. Don't beat yourself up. I know that feeling of disappointment too. Before I became disabled, I had lost the 60lbs I needed to lose, was going to the gym after work 4-5 nights a week and loving it. Suddenly, I became a disabled person and had to come to terms with a whole new identity. Meds and inactivity piled the weight on and I regained all of the weight I had lost. The gym is out of the question for me now and no matter how hard I try, the weight isn't shifting. I am having to come to terms with being a new me. You, however, will start again afresh, after lots of support, caring, love and understanding - from all of the splendid folks on this forum. Wishing you the very best and I'm sure you'll do ok Wendy x
Hi I also let myself down after being sooo good all day yesterday I succumbed and ate a full tub of raspberry ice cream and today feel so disappointed with myself.
Hope you enjoyed it. New day today.
All I'll say is you fall off your horse is to dust your self off ....stand up tall and get back on that horse .....the fall does not define you ....how you learn from it and get back on track does
If you get my drift
RG07Maintainer
I've joined your club!- made gingerbread men for work- ate 3 of them! Then when I got to work for the night shift one of my colleagues was working his last shift so he brought in some food- cupcakes, biscuits and my personal cryptonite crisps! I helped myself to some walkers sensations, tyrrel crisps, ate a packets of cheesy puffs (not as good I remembered- too claggy) and seabrooks packet which was so salty I could practically feel the moisture leaving my mouth and tongue! As punishment instead of getting the bus to the shops- I'd walked into work- I hada fast walk (after being awake for 26hrs). I am now replanning my food for the day- out goes my treat of a glass of wine, potatoes , juice and burger relish, I'm still over the 1400 allowance but still under 1500 (further punishment!!!) The thing is I wasn't hungry and I just thought its a long time since I had cheesy puff and seabrook crisps- my memory let me down
It is such a relief to read posts like yours. Makes me feel less alone.
I find the odd day of binge does not ruin the program provided that I get back on track the next day. Odd thing is that once I start ..................oops
despite the two days of being off the wagon I have lost weight since I have been strict with myself since- I probably have lost too much since I have lost 6lbs since Monday and that is too much, so since I am close to my target weight and I am gradually increasing my calorie allowance by 100. I was lucky since I was on nights I could take action to minimise the impact of my binge at work usually you can't especially if it happens in the evening!
Don't be too hard on yourself ladikool we have all been there. You know where you went wrong which is the main thing. You will be back on track in no time. Good luck.
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