No will power

[Macylexi]

Why do I choose biscuits or chocolate over losing weight and having a baby. I would have thought that wanting a baby would be enough motivation to stop me eating so unhealthily, but for some reason it doesn't work. What can I do to get my head in the right place to eat healthier foods and exercise more? Please help.

[YellowRose55]

Hi Macylexi

Welcome to the weight loss forum.

Take a look at the Welcome Newbie post in the Pinned post section at the right hand side or at the bottom if your on a mobile. Have a look at the nhs 12 week plan, many members have had success following this plan. Use the BMI checker to work out your daily calorie allowance.

Below the Pinned posts are the Topics where members share a range of weight related subjects.

Take your measurements at the start together with a photo so you can see the changes on the days the scales don't move.

We have daily weigh ins so why not come along and join us. You can find the weigh ins on the Home page in the Events section on the right. Just click on the post in Events and record your start weight and any loss/gain or maintain for the week.

To get the most of the forum be active, share tips, recipes and experiences. Read some of the posts they are very motivating.

Have a good first week.

Rose

[kdish70]

Sounds like you are struggling with yourself ,Willpower is a difficult thing and hard to control even the best of us falter when we have a lot going on in our heads. I would suggest that you make a promise to be good to yourself one day at a time .Plan your food and exercise if you need to and think about how good you will feel when you take control of your feelings , having a family is great but you must take care of number 1 first ,small steps !! Try to find someone to chat to if it all gets too much rather than worrying about it all.

I wish you well ,sending some positive vibes to you for the rest of the week .

[Tiggerr]

Welcome Macylexi,

If you've got any questions or thoughts about the information that Rose has supplied, feel free to post them.

If you start following the ideas behind them, then you can start to take control.

Good luck!

[jopo]

Hi Macylexi

Welcome to this friendly forum. You may actually be addicted to sugar and it may be worth going cold turkey and cutting it out of your diet. You'll find you will stop craving carbs/sugar when your body re-adjusts and you can concentrate on eating real food.

There's lots of great advice and help here, look out for our members who are now maintaining and take their advice, they have won the battle.

Good luck, set small goals and make a healthy eating plan. You'll always get a reply so your journey will not be alone

[Hidden in reply to jopo]

Sorry to jump in here, but I think a sugar addiction is my problem. Although I've given up wine (100 days now) I seem to have substituted with chocolate. It's occurred to me they're both full of sugar. Thinking I'm going to have to go cold turkey with this, so Macylexi we can do this together! Thanks jopo for making me realise it's my problem too!

[jopo in reply to Hidden]

Hi Hidden

It's taken me 20years to figure out sugar (and grain for me) make me fat. Check out Blood Glucose Diet or read as much as you can about what happens when insulin is raised and how it turns sugar into fat. I'm afraid alcohol is liquid sugar.

Check out my post sugar free challenge and you'll see what food producers also call sugar. There is also a video link in the thread, which may change your life.

[Hidden in reply to jopo]

Just had a look, wow, it is really going to be a life changer! Wine is no longer in my life, and I don't crave it at all. Sugar is next...

[jopo in reply to Hidden]

Fantastic Hidden , isn't it brilliant to feel in control of what you drink.

I'm not a party popper but alcohol is just a mind altering drug that our bodies have to work hard to get rid off. Its a dehydrating poison - Ooh I'm not going to be popular !!

:)

[Hidden in reply to jopo]

I've had a very mixed reaction from friends. 'Why?' 'One won't hurt' 'Really? You've stopped drinking?'

Clearly wine and I were like Ant and Dec, inseparable in their eyes. That made me more determined not to give in. I was feeling SO much better, but now I've been eating more sugary foods I feel yucky again. Thanks for making me realise why!!

[jopo in reply to Hidden]

Yes it's surprising some friends reactions, tell them more about them than you. Some people can't seem to have fun without this drug. I doubt if the government would allow its production and consumption if it was invented today.)

[Macylexi]

Thank you all for your comments. I never thought I would be a forum kind of person but I actually feel more positive having read your replies. I'm definitely going to do the 12 week plan and will try to stop eating sugar as I think jopo may be right about my sugar addiction.

[jopo in reply to Macylexi]

Macylexi

Top tip :). Feed your body real food. Nothing proccessed or any junk for 30 days and you'll be amazed how your craving go.

Just avoided starch rich vegetables in the early stages like potatoes and parsnips but include healthy natural fats.

Drink water good luck x

[JiminyCricket 7lbs]

Good luck for your first week! It's not easy, there are always bumps in the road - the thing is not to give up, and that is what the forum is great for.

[Hlb82]

Good morning. I can answer this question from my personal experience but I'm not trying to tell you why about yourself. I'm just offering a point of view. So I struggled to conceive and remain pregnant a few times. Luckily I'm now dearly blessed with a family but not without a depressive stint to get me there. I was wanting it so bad and it caused such sadness that I couldn't change my self for them. I still can't. I have learned that if anything needs changing then it must be something I truly want or I won't do it. I've had to learn that I am important. Good luck

[DartmoorDumpling Restart Feb 2024]

You might be feeling a little "empty" and that space you are filling with comfort foods when what you really need is that little bundle of trouble! Can you babysit for some friends or get a puppy to fill that nurturing need, and then you will feel less inclined to comfort eat?

Maybe you could volunteer at a dog rescue place, or just find a time consuming hobby which will increase your fitness. Even when you have a baby, life goes on - we took our babies to badminton games, swimming, long walks in a back carrier, ...they have to fit in with your life, and your life starts now!

My babies are in their 30's now, living their own lives - and I am living mine!