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Sorry I haven't posted for a while.

I've missed the Monday weigh in and the challenge. I've had too much to contend with what with family illness , worrying about my carers assessment and having absolutely no one I can talk to face to face, I have sometimes wished I can just walk away from everything. I have gained all the weight I fought so hard to lose and my walking has all but stopped. My vitamin difficentcy is really getting to me as well. And I'm thinking of changing my Doctor. I ate a large Toblerone last night out of the Christmas ttreat tin and it's all too much for me now.

I don't know what to do for the best. Trying to care for my Husband and having both my Children needing me constantly. I'm going to have to give in with my weight loss. Something has to give and it cannot be the ones I love. I will keep looking in from time to time tho. So I'll say that I'm very sorry to you for this long moan of a post and wish you all of you all the very best for your journeys. Good luck. X

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Never give up

Being healthy is the most important thing for you and your family . If your not healthy for them how are you going to be able to care and be there I have had such a rough year and I know I'm not the only one on here thats come and gone - that's life at times but there are lots of people out there who can help you and support you.

If you find you dont always get time to make comments, posting on here it doesn't mean you give up trying,

Be good to yourself 💛


Hi bobbivee so sorry to hear you are having a hard time of things at the moment and totally understand about having your family to look after , but don't forget to take care of yourself even if that means your weight loss journey has to go on hold for a while , just remember we are all here for you take care X Bev


Hi sorry to hear of your troubles 😢I can see why you feel something has to give many of us have been and still are in a quandary over caring for others and the worry it causes. Give yourself a little time and space, just try to eat healthily so you are looking after yourself too it's so easy to forget yourself in all the rushing around and you will be more efficient the healthier you are.

Keep in touch even if it's just to moan or need to talk to someone, life throws us curve balls at times don't try to catch it alone there's always someone to talk to on here. As I sit typing this my mum is in hospital they cannot release her as her Altzheimers is too advanced now she's becoming very aggressive and not eating but there isn't a care home with a bed available for her needs at the moment and it has got beyond me and my dads capabilities I guess this is welcome to the 21st century.

Take care, hope you keep in touch with us all and look after yourself too. 💐


You can't go anywhere you sound overwhelmed at the moment and you many have gained weight but you know....you can do this you did it before today is a new bright day and it could be the first day that changes your life...you arena mum husband


Sorry, this is going to be a long reply.

I know exactly how you feel. I care for my husband and have been off work myself with 'domestic stress' and not going to be going back any time soon. I have an underactive thyroid and I'm anaemic, so I know about illness getting you down. I've got a 15 year old daughter living a home and an 18 year old just started uni. I'm everyone's emotional crutch, husband, kids and brother and I have no one to off load on. I started trying to lose weight to give me the strength to care for my husband as his condition deteriorates.

I know the stress of a carer's assessment - I have the forms just can't muster the enthusiasm or energy to complete them, but know I need respite care so I can look after me - you need this as well. There have been days when I'm driving and just want to keep going, but of course I always go home and carry on as normal.

I absolutely understand why you wish you could walk away sometimes.

I've decided not to concentrate on the weight loss at the moment, but I am trying to eat healthily and get some exercise, and hopefully the scales will then be kind - but the important thing for me is keeping myself healthy and eating the right things can only help this.

Please don't feel bad if you don't want to join weigh in and challenges, but you have friends here who care, even if they are not face to face. Feel free to privately message me if you want, I'd be more than happy to listen and it would be good to share with some else in a similar situation. Maybe you could also find support on a carers forum.

Be kind to yourself.


Pasha x

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Look after yourself . 💐💐


I am sorry you are having such a tough time at the moment Hidden Moan away would be my advice. Your life is obviously filled with more than you can cope with.

You need looking after and help too; how you can find this I am not sure, but it could be that a different GP will listen and help you more.

As you say, your family comes first, but any time you can look after yourself in any way, whether it is grabbing 5 minutes for a walk, thinking about a tasty healthier meal, or finding time for you, would be a bonus - and will help you be able to be better at being there for others.

I am sure you will always be welcome to pop in here any time. Life can be a rocky road at times, and I wouldn't like to think you were struggling on your own.


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