This may already have been something discussed by forum members, but I wanted to detail some of the experiences I've had with family support as a means to start off my weight loss journey and get it off my chest.
For as long as I can remember, I've always been on the heavier side of healthy. I have an older sister who was also built very much like myself, who I was very close with. When she went off to University, she put on a bit more weight, so would have been overweight for her height - since I was still living with my parents back at home, I heard my gran and mum discuss this fairly regularly. Talk would turn to how she had put on some weight, and I don't think in an intentionally horrible way, but I think because they both have weight/thyroid issues, it makes them feel better about it somehow? Almost watching what they deem the 'inevitable' happen.
Anyway, after this weight gaining period, my sister developed bulimia and very quickly lost all that and more. The chatter among my mum and gran continued, but now the focus was on how thin my sister was getting and I got the feeling they weren't talking out of concern, but out of spite that my sister had (in however unhealthy way) done what they could never do. Even I found myself joining in somewhat out of spite.
Now a couple of years on, I find myself in the position where I know I am still bordering on overweight, and would feel much healthier (and happier!) at my 9 stone target, but who is there to support me? I don't have an eating disorder like my sister, I want to do it in a healthy and steady way, but if I start to mention it to my mum or gran the response is 'oh no, you're a lovely size', 'you look fine' etc., even though I know if I don't act, I will end up on the slope to becoming obese like they have before me. I feel as though when I attempt to eat healthily or have a healthy lifestyle around them this is almost discouraged.
My boyfriend knows I would like to lose some weight as well, although again the feedback I get is that 'I look fine' and 'you're not fat' etc., which is nice, but I feel I need positive support on my weight loss journey, not normalizing the fact that I am overweight.
I feel this is one of the main reasons I have not been able to achieve my goal yet, and get so far and then stall.
If you've read this far, forum member, my question to you is how do you cope with this? How have you found to continue your journey towards a happier, healthier you, but without making family members feel as though it's an insult because they aren't doing so too?