I won't be around for a while

Today I lost the most wonderful and strongest lady I had the priviledge to call my Mum. For now my eating plans are on the back burner. I wish everyone on here the best of luck and warm thoughts for their continued success to a healthy lifestyle. I will be bowing out of the forum for a little while, my heart feels as though it has been ripped out and I have to put my energies into just getting through each day.


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  • I am so sorry for your loss.

  • I'm so sorry for your loss. Please look after yourself and give yourself the time you need. Sending big hugs and lots of love.

    E xxx

  • I am sorry for your loss. Please take care of yourself and take the time you need and at your own pace. Remember there are good organisations out there if you need help. We lost my aunt last year to cancer it took her quicker than was expected and my Uncle was devastated. He has taken things at his own pace and although I can't remember the name of the organisation who helped him, they have been great. Don't be afraid to ask for help when you need it.

    Take care.

  • I'm so sorry for your loss.

  • Shellie,

    My heart goes out to you, if you manage to read this {{{{hug}}}}

    Take care of you and yours and look forward to catching up with you xxxxxxxx


  • Sending hugs too Shellie. No need to reply. Take care of yourself x

  • hi Shelliel please except my deepest sympathy for the lose of a dear loved one, i can't find the right words to say apart from i'll be thinking about you, until we hear from you again, i just want you to know that i'm here for you if needed. my love and thoughts and prayers are with you take care speak to you soon kindest regards Alan xx

  • Dear Shelliel, take care of yourself and your family at this time of sadness for you all. There is nothing that can be said to ease your pain at this moment but I hope you feel your mum is with you. {{{{{hugs}}}}}.

  • I am so sorry to hear this. Deepest sympathies to you and your family at this difficult time x

  • Look after yourself in the way you need to. So sorry for your loss.

  • Oh Shellie I am so sorry for your enormous loss. I will miss you but you just do what you need to do to get you through this difficult time. Love Carole xx ♡

  • I'm so sorry for you loss, Shellie. Look after yourself and take care of yourself and your family.

  • So sorry to hear that you have had such a huge loss Shellie, take care of yourself hun and take each day as it comes , words cant describe the pain of losing your mum, as its horrendous ,people are always here if you ever need to chat xxx

  • I'm so very sorry for the sad loss of your Mum. It's so hard to accept the death of a much loved and cherished parent, when my Dad died 2 years ago it was as though the bottom had fallen out of my world, not a day goes by that I don't think about him.

    Going by my own experience I know no words can ease your pain, in fact I felt as though I were suffering alone, I have no brothers or sisters and kept telling everyone they had no idea how I felt, that he was only my Dad so how could they possibly know how I was feeling. In the end I took my doctor's advice and had counselling to help me through what was a very difficult time in my life and it really did help. It's early days for you Shellie and your pain is very raw, I'm not going to say it gets better or that time heals because I'm not entirely sure how true that is, I think you just get better at dealing with the hurt, all I would say is try to focus on the good and happy times you had with your Mum and do what you know she would want you to do...look after yourself.

    Take care my dear and know that me and many other people here are thinking of you and sending you our heartfelt sympathy.

  • So very sorry. Thinking of you at this very sad time.

  • There is a lovely meditation on you tube called loving kindness meditation, has a yellow and white flower on the picture and lasts for 13 minutes. I find it very comforting and helpful. Going for a walk in countryside/park and thinking of your dear mum may also help. I will be thinking of you and sending good wishes.

  • Much love, prayers and condolences. Thinking of you at this time x

  • So sorry to hear your news. Forget everything it's time to grieve now. I lost my darling mum in September, 2 days after my daughters wedding where she looked fit and well. I miss her everyday. Take care and be kind to yourself. Xx

  • Hi Shellie

    I'm not sure if you're reading messages and please don't feel obliged to reply, my deepest sympathy is with you at this difficult time. Take care of yourself.

  • So sorry for your loss, take care of yourself x

  • Dear ShellieL, sincere condolences on your loss. Take time to grieve, but also take care of you, it's what your mum would have wanted. Hugs and healing vibes to you. xx

  • So very sorry for your loss, take care of yourself.

    Kate x

  • I'm sorry for your loss shellie, take care of yourself x

  • I am so very sorry for your huge loss. Please look after yourself I am thinking of you.

  • So sorry for your loss.

  • Hello ShellieL, so, so very sorry to hear about your mum but if it is any consolation, in time you will never forget your mum but the pain of losing your mum will get easier. In the meantime please look after yourself and know everyone on this forum is thinking of you with love and understanding of what you are going through. Sending love and thoughts to you at this sad time. Love Jacs 01

  • Sorry for your loss

    Your mum wants you to look after yourself X

  • Big hugs Shellie, we will be here when you are ready to come back.


  • Very very sorry that you have lost your lovely Mum. The pain and shock right now must feel unbearable, but in time this will very slowly be replaced by only happy memories of Mum and the times you shared.

    I agree with other readers, don't be afraid of accepting grief counselling if things feel too tough. I really wish it had been available for me 46 years ago when I lost my own Mum, but it was 1969 and the people around me didn't "talk about personal stuff". I was 16.

    Your Mum will always, always remain in your heart and you will think of her and talk to her most days for evermore. That is a positive thing. God bless you and take care of yourself . X

  • Hi Shellie - I'm so sorry to hear your news. Sending lots of <hugs>.

  • Totally, totally understand your feelings. Lost my mum July 7 2008, still miss her fiercely. Take care of yourself, if you can- your mum would still want to hug and cherish and care for you, now you have to do it for her. Much easier to give that advice than to take it! Virtual hug from me x

  • Aww God bless you Shellie, I'm so sorry. I wish there were some words I could say to take the pain away. Everyone is right, your mum would want you to take care of yourself, so please do that as best you can. Our thoughts and prayers are with you xxx

  • so sorry, feeling for you as I lost my dad and mother in law in feb, its so hard x

  • Sorry for your lose take care of yourself

  • Hi Shelliel heart felt condolences. My mother passed away in February so I appreciate what you are going through. . Take care.

  • If tears could build a stairway,

    and memories a lane,

    I’d walk right up to heaven

    and bring you home again.

    Much love Shellie xx

  • I'm so sorry ShellieL. I hope you find the strength from your memories of your mum.

  • Shelliel, please accept my condolences. It is always hard to lose a loved one. Keep your chin up, and give yourself time to grieve. All the best.

  • My deepest sympathies and may I say that it was amazing that you posted this sad loss on the forum. I know that you are grieving deeply but please, amidst your grief take time to look after yourself

    May your God give you strength to cope with your loss x

  • Sorry for your loss, I lost my husband to cancer in March this year, it will take its time to come to terms that your mum wont be there for you, but just remember all the good times you had. Take care of yourself.

  • So sorry to hear your sad news xx

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