Nearly 5 years ago I took an advanced autism course and part of that involved personal observation on shift. My tutor was an expert in the field of autism, giving lectures and running workshops on the subject. As most people know autism is on a wide spectrum, but many conjur up images of autism in the 'Rainman' movie. But my tutor was/is still an expert in the field, having worked right across the spectrum ( apparently). I asked the tutor pre observation if she worked with our level of autism much. Very smugly and condescendingly she informed me that was why she was the tutor and I the student. My first observation was to be at 7am 'when the child wakes up'. I said to the tutor, you had best arrive at 4am then as that was when the child usually woke up. She arrived at 6am and most of what was needed to be observed was done. On walking onto the premises and before I could allow her near our charges, I had to tell her to remove all her jewellery, put the id tag in her pocket and remove the dogtooth jacket she had on - I got a questioning look, but she reluctantly removed them. Earrings as well I said, that is if you like your ears the way they are. I received a barely concealed look of disgust. I told her that if I said to 'move' she had to get herself behind a locked door without question and stay there until told she could come out.
Without going into what happened over the next 3 hours, this expert caused many incidents which we staff had to battle to diffuse, and when I say battle I do mean battle. By the time the debrief came Myself and 2 other staff members were sporting cuts and bruises were starting to appear, fortunately no bites or breaks. We did manage to keep our charges safe and the expert only lost a little of her hair ( at one point it was save her or a charge from injury - no contest). The flat looked like a bomb had gone off and the maintenance team were unimpressed at the amount of work they now had lumbered on them. This expert had the grace to apologise to myself ( i asked her to apologise to my colleagues too as without them the situation would have been very different), in a shocked voice and very quietly she informed me that she had never ever met autism like this and how the hell did we manage to work day in day out as we did. One of my answers was to listen to what we were being told and doing it, time to question later. To be 100% aware, 100% of the time. Never ever underestimate.
I had about 4 more observations, funnily though never with her - always had other obligations to attend too, her underling ( no noted expert) was fab though.
So what has this tale got to do with healthy eating? Well, there are many experts in a wide range of healthy eating areas. One will advocate to not eat this and why - they are the expert after all. One will say to not have that and why - they too are the expert in that particular area. One expert will contradict the other, and it will happen for ever more. They will all have valid reasons and be very convincing. Many things will connect with many people and will be spot on.
We are individuals though, with individual minds and bodies. One size does not fit all, just as one way of trying to lose weight doesn't suit all. Some foods for some people are quite literally deadly for whatever reason. Some foods are more addictive to some people than others and have led to many health issues. Our bodies don't all process things the same way. My own sons pancreas works entirely differently to 'the norm' as well as other things.
What I am trying to say, albeit in a very long -winded way, is if the method to lose weight and be healthy I follow or the next person follows is not how you would do it, or visa-versa, try not to condemn it. It is working for them as an individual with an individual mind and body. The experts know an awful lot about an awful lot, they don't know YOU personally. My autism expert appeared to take pleasure in putting me in my place, it backfired on her in a way that was detrimental to all that day. I still supported her as best I could, as did my colleagues. Thankfully I have found, especially on this forum, that the vast majority find as much pleasure supporting and being positive with others as I do.
Your method of losing weight healthily is not wrong, neither is mine. It is just different. Embrace the fact you have taken a positive step to an improved you. With so many conditions and disabilities in this world we live, we need to find a way to eat what is best for each individual body.
I know that what I have just written will rankle with some, and they will be eager to 'have a go' and dissect each bit and rubbish it. PLEASE realise that this is just my opinion and how I try to be., what I feel and how I prefer to be treated and to treat others.
I wish everyone a really good, healthy week, whatever method you are using to lose or maintain ( even gain for some) your weight. ☺️