I truly believe that if you try and find a positive in the most miserable of times, you can overcome almost anything. This has taken me over forty years to hammer into my brain and it is finally embedded. Each day I think of 10 things that I am grateful/happy for, and often surprise even myself with some of the things I come up with. It's an affirmation that will be lifelong, and as in the past and present, I know the future will present me many challenges to find these glimmers of light.
I do not say this lightly as life has thrown me some god-awful curveballs at times. I had a difficult childhood ( to put it mildly), but I survived it. 2 years ago I had major surgery for cancer with the following year seeing me survive 3 pulmonary embolisms, 2 lung collapses and major cardio thoracic surgery. At one point I had around 2 hours left to live, but live I did. Throughout my life I have had many other horrific events and my 19th and 21st birthdays are etched with very sad memories indeed. I am not relating this for sympathy, the opposite in fact. Life experiences can be overcome, and being overweight is one of these challenges that can also be overcome with a positive attitude rather than berating yourself.
I was always around 1 stone underweight until I married at 18, slowly putting on around 1/2 stone each year. The weight wasn't just down to too much calorie intake, a little was down to other factors. The base line though was that I consumed too much. Over the next 24 years I would lose a few pounds here and there, then put them back on with a few more. 5 years ago I divorced and lost 3 stone in 6 weeks in stress, slowly putting my life back together I also started to put those lost pounds back on, fortunately I kept 2 of the 3 stone off and came to my senses 12 weeks ago by joining this forum.
Food has always been a comfort to me, happy- i eat, sad- i eat. From being young and not knowing if I would eat more than a slice of bread and marg that day, to being an adult and hoarding food in fridges, cupboards, freezers... I am well aware of the psychology behind what I have done and still do to an extent. BUT, and it is a HUGE but, I have learnt to be kind to myself and to find the positive, the silver lining in the most unlikely situation. To this end I am winning the battle of the blubber, but I also know that the battle will always have to be fought.
To my fellow posters on this forum, thankyou, you are one and all a daily positive in my battle to melt away this excess weight. Your stories and tips, daft sense of humour of some and sheer grit to succeed yourselves are wonderful. 😍