Morbidly obese and keep losing motivation

I'VE LOST COUNT OF THE NUMBER OF TIMES OVER THE YEARS I HAVE TRIED TO LOSE THIS WEIGHT (43Kg).

I START OFF WELL BUT AS TIME GOES BY BECOME BORED OR STRESSED, OR SOMETHING ELSE HAPPENS TO SABOTAGE MY EFFORTS.

I HAVE A SLIM FAMILY WHO LECTURE ME ABOUT MY WEIGHT ( WHICH UPSETS ME! )

I HAVE STARTED THE NHS WEIGHT LOSS PROGRAMME AS WELL AS THE FITNESS PAL APP ON MY MOB WHICH I FIND HELPFUL.

I THINK HAVING PEOPLE IN A SIMILAR POSITION TO CHAT TO WILL ALSO HELP.

WISH ME LUCK !!

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  • Hi Angel

    I hate the "d" word i prefer healthy life style (sounds posh) hehe

    I also need to loose same amount (and more) i'm not very mobile, but i've just got an exercise bike and have already introduced my self to it (not that it is very happy about it) hehe.

    I'm abit of a rebel I'm 46 in august and refuse to grow old gracefully!! I wear bright purple in your face wigs and am a rock chick at heart!! and will try and keep our spirits up.

    I would be honoured to be your lifestyle buddy if you're interested.

    Take care and angel blessings xx

  • THANK YOU SO MUCH. I WOULD BE DELIGHTED TO HAVE YOU AS A BUDDY.

    I HAVE JUST BOUGHT AN EXERCISE BIKE AS I AM TOO ASHAMED TO GO PUBLIC .

    MY FAMILY ARE ORGANISING AN EXERCISE ROOM FOR ALL OF US TO USE WITH A TREADMILL AS WELL.

    I KNOW THEY ARE TRYING TO SUPPORT ME, IT'S JUST THEIR COMMENTS COULD BE COACHED BETTER !!!!!

    I AM ALSO USING MY FITNESS PAL WEBSITE AND APP ON MY PHONE WHICH IS HELPING.

    LIKE YOU I AM GROWING OLD DISGRACEFULLY AND CAUSING EMBARRASSMENT TO MY CHILDREN AGED 18 AND 21 THIS MONTH !!

    LET ME KNOW HOW YOU GET ON.

    LOOK AFTER YOURSELF. X

  • Hi Angel

    Thanks so very much for accepting me, I have triedd so many times to get a buddy, but I'm obviously not rigght for alt of people, many don't need to llloose as much as me!!

    When do you want to start building a plan of action, so we are using the same things together.

    Take care and angel blessings xx

  • Hi,

    I'm back !!

    The best thing to help me is my My Fitness Pal app on my phone. It has all you need to lose weight, even exercise database so I can log onto my daily diary.

    What else, walking the dogs for 30 mins a day and on the treadmill for 15 mins a day.

    Drinking plenty of fluids ( not all alcoholic ). So far so good.

    What about yourself ??

    xx

  • I completely understand what your saying. I used to weigh over 18st and then I lost just over 6st which was great. I still had a long way to go and then I started the menopause and put over 2st back on. I still need to lose just over 6st for my height which is a lot but I set myself small goals they are easier and less daunting than saying to myself I need to lose over 6st. I break it down into 7lb at a time targets.

    I also give myself treats, (none food of course), for every goal achieved. Also I have just started having a visual motivation, which a member told me about. I have a jacket which I bought when I lost the 6st which I'd hardly worn. I'm taking a picture if it and placing it on my fridge, the jacket I'm going to put where I can see it.

    It is a shame that your family are like that but they are probably doing it out of love. My husband is also slim and can eat anything and does definitely not eat healthy. But I understand that when he says some of the things he does he doesn't realise how they can hurt and have the opposite effect.

    This is definitely the place to be. I've only been on here a week and been given lots of support and advice from people who understand my situation.

    Good luck on your weight loss journey.

  • Hi,

    I like your non food treat idea and I will also be taking pictures of myself to track my progress.

    I have just bought an exercise bike for days when I can't manage to go on my treadmill.

    My family are making one of our rooms into an exercise room so they can also use my equipment.Looks like all of us are getting fitter this year !! It's their way of supporting me so I shouldn't complain.

    I also need to get rid of my largest clothes, otherwise they will be waiting for me !!!

    let me know how you get on.

    Take care.

    x

  • Good luck - we can do it, we have the power to change our lives for the better x

  • I know I can do it, but it's a lot easier when you have support.

    Thank you for being there

  • hello there! i am really happy for you that you are determined on this, don't ever make anyone or anything come in your way. I know i have the same family too and they really don't understand emotionally how this thing works cause they never been there, that is why it is the community. Wish you the best

  • Thank you

    Like you emotional support will have to come from the community as my slim family have a low tolerance point with me and my weight loss journeys !!

    Practically they are fine like they are organising an exercise room for us all to use, but emotional support duh !!!!

    Keep in touch and let me know how you get on.

    xx

  • Ready to join you long journey ahead 6st needs to go!

  • Hi,

    I have just over 6 st to lose.

    Shall we keep each other company with this journey ??

    Good luck.

    x

  • I also have just over 6st lo lose

    Good Luck

  • Join the band of 6 st plus to lose !!!

    Good luck !!

  • The big issue is why are you using food to comfort it won't, excuses and stress don't help.

    Somewhere in your head, deep down is your relationship with food, from childhood to now, look at that journey, and why you believe food comforts you?

    The cat comforts me, get tearful and chat to my close friends, here to lose a few stupid pounds due to my sweet tooth, very bad really.

  • Thank you for your helpful advice.

  • It will help, but I think you should really understand why you keep falling early on....

    Lack of results? Boring food? Motivation? Esteem etc we can all give you tonnes of support and help but if you can't tackle the reasons your overweight or like some who refuse to change their lifestyle yet want results...

    Milky coffees, cake every other day, chocolate, portion sizes double what they should be, portion sizes less than what they should be, cutting sugar

    Yes dropping carbs and low portion sizes is going to make you feel shocking craP and as u may have found out isn't sustainable. A diet isn't short term it's a new life and way to live a healthy one so shouldn't be cutting out major food groups...protein, carb size of your fist no more, veg half a plate.

    Drink before and after 30 mins either way of when you eat so your more full and not binging on rubbish.

    Share your calories throughout the day, don't have one slice of toast for breakfast 100 calories....ur going to be starving by lunch and will slip somewhere.....so 2-300 for breakfast 500 for lunch 600-700 for dinner

    Eat before 7:30 evening snack is okay Dinner after 7:30 no snacks

    Count your food, be accountable for what goes in you and when. Measure at first, once u know measurements u can stop, but most people overweigh their food, I used to do double portion sizes for breakfast until I measured.

    If your a chocoholic reduce reduce....I used to eat one of those share bars easily to myself....now when I really want chocolate I wait a few days, then I give up ( so iv gone longer) and even then I eat a twig or kitbag.....(107 calories each and u take one) if it was chocolate or crisps or biscuits we all know we don't have 2-3 and stop lol easily do. Packet of biscuits too. So eat what u want but try and be smart about it and now just give in instantly and binge. It's how I out on stone and half in 3 weeks. But now all that weight is gone again :)

    Set goals short mid and long term....not just long term goals....understand it takes 1-2 lb weight loss per week and not expect more so following a good diet plan, work out 2lb weight loss a week to give you your goals u want.

    Want faster results? Your going to have to workout and exercise properly, if not stay active and just follow the 1500 calories allowance. Don't join all these fancy programs eat your own food that you will cook just moderate them. Im a male having half a tin of beans two toast 2eggs scrambled that's my lunch around 500 and fills me up good especially with the 2 glasses of water one either side of eating :)

    Hope this gives you some ideas and I wish you all the best

    J

  • Meant to say twix and kitkat lol

  • Thank you,

    That has been very helpful.

  • Your welcome,

    One thing before you start...understand why your doing it and use it to motivate you..

    Buying an item of clothing and hanging it where u can see it works, picture of holidays, children, house, etc all work..

    Use youtube for motivation, search weight loss transformation and find someone's story that inspires you, search motivational speeches on there two, and setup a playlist for motivational music that u can listen to to work out with or push you to wanting to work out....

    End of the day if your not inspired or motivated, then you have no stimulus to even giving a crap to do any tip you read in the first place :)

    All the above tips is what iv done and found it really helped me

    J

  • Good on you for being honest! I'm the same and it's really bloody annoying! Unfortunately I don't have any tips for you. Good luck!

  • Thanks for just being there for me.

    I have had some very good advice it's just applying it all or trying to remember it.

    Probably best to make a few changes at a time until I get used to them then move onto the next.

    Good luck with YOUR journey.

    Keep in touch.

    x

  • I found that I really liked to eat a lot and that I liked feeling full. When a diet is restrictive, so there isn't much to eat, I felt/feel deprived - even if the calories are sufficient. I think that ensuring that each meal has a pile of low calorie vegetables with it (or a crunchy fruit, like an apple) is helpful as it means that a lot of chewing goes on. I know that we are advised to drink loads of water but that seems like medicine when I am trying to sort out my weight (like now) so I am as kind to myself as I can - coffee, tea, low alcohol Czech lager (19 cals a bottle from Sainsbury's), fizzy water - posibly with a squirt of concentrated squash, Options mint hot chocolate - all of these and more are part of what I drink to keep hydrated and to help me to feel full.

    I have found that, as the weeks have gone on, I am being less inclined to be, in effect, eating all the time. That said, as I write I have a flask of coffee on the desk with a tub of carrot sticks to chew...

    So I don't think that you have to give up snacks but you can allow yourself to eat a great deal of foods which you might currently be treating as a garnish.

    Enjoy the journey.

  • Like you I like to feel full or satiated so I am having more veg and fruit.

    Increasing my exercise regime.

    I have found a fitness app that helps me focus so that's another plus.

    I have also concentrated more on other interests so I don't get bored.

    Here's hoping 2015 goes well for us all.

    Good luck and keep in touch.

    x

  • everythink i read tells me i need to loose about 130lbs but i,m going for 100lbs then see what i look like so i,ll be here for sometime aswell good luck

    steve

  • Thanks for replying.

    Good luck and keep in touch, like you I'm on the long journey, no short cuts !!

    Us morbidly obese need all the support we can get.

    Take care

  • We will get there!

  • Wise to break down goals, easier to achieve too

  • Hi all also in the six stone to lose club this is my first week and just over 6lb off onwards and downwards! X

  • WELL DONE. THAT'S A BIG FIRST WEEK LOSS.

    DID YOU FIND THE FIRST WEEK DIFFICULT OR EASY WITH FEELING MOTIVATED INTHE EARLY STAGES ??

    MY FIRST WEIGH IN IS ON FRIDAY. WISH ME LUCK !!

  • Thanks Marji! I was pretty motivatedon my first week as i got a nasty shock on the scales after the Christmas pig out lol also at my heaviest i have ever been which depressed me but know i am the only one who can make things change thinking of you for friday all the best with the first weigh in!

  • What works for me:

    - more exercise and generally more active

    - introduce food items containing more fibre: mainly vegetables and fruit

    - avoid sugar and sugary things, including juices

    - avoid highly processed foods

    - higher quantity of healthy carbs before and after exercise to restore glycogen. Only need this if exercising very very hard!

    - try not too eat after certain time in the evening and avoid situations that drive me to snack

    - keep trying and never give up, stay in control and when you feel you have lost this control then it is time to try again!

    - avoid looking for excuses and blaming anyone else, like other family members living with me. I am in control of my destiny and I am the one putting that food in my mouth.

    Good luck and remember you are in control of your destiny and you can do it!

  • Last thing: what works for me may not work for you but you need to find out what works for you. You are in control not me!

  • I CAN IDENTIFY WITH WHAT YOU ARE SAYIN SO WILL PUT SOME OF IT INTO PRACTICE.

  • Thanks guys good advice! I know i neec to srep up exercise so thats the main aim this week slowly making changes evening munching getting there with the odd mistake! All the best to you both too ☺

  • Well,

    Weigh in day today which I approached with trepidation !!!

    I HAVE LOST 8 LBS !!!!!! YEAH !!!!!

    I can't see any difference when I look in the mirror( something I avoid as much as possible !)

    My clothes are SLIGHTLY looser, but it's a start.

    ONWARD AND UPWARDS !!

  • I'm starting today and just wanted to wish you all the best. I have a similar amount to lose.

  • Thank you and good luck on your journey.

    I am now classified as obese class 2, no longer morbidly obese but not far off it so I've got to persevere.

    Amazing the support you get from others struggling with their weight.

    LET ME KNOW HOW YOU GET ON.

    Onward and upwards !!

  • Will do.

  • I heard tinkling in our computer room half an hour ago, had a look and there was my hubbie John starting to put my exercise bike together. He's there for me in his own way, bless him.

  • Hi, I have about eight stone to lose but I am not thinking about that now, been on loads of diets, had some success but then put it all on again. This time I'm just cutting down by a few hundred calories and exercising more, mainly swimming and walking a bit more. Good luck with your weight loss.

  • Hi,

    You're doing it the sensible way. The slow approach works better.

    Healthy eating and exercise does work , it's just persevering even when you hit obstacles.

    I found a photo of me at Christmas time in a red top and I look like a Christmas cracker !! AWFUL !!! I am going to print it out as my" Before" picture to inspire me on .

    Keep in touch.

  • Good luck scottishmarje! Love yourself & Others & you will reach your Weight loss goals! Xx..

  • I see the posts on here are 3 months old, how are people doing that have posted on here? I am week one completed with 2lbs lost and overall 6 stone + to loose.

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