I have just put my height and weight in on the NHS BMI calculator. I have a BMI of 43 and am officially obese. I feel normal but like I am trapped under a fat suit. I know what I do wrong but don't know how to break the cycle. I have fought with depression since my teens and think this has contributed to me arriving here but in the past couple of years I seem to have accepted who I am and banished those demons. I know what I need to do and how but I do not seem capable. Being normal and healthy feels like an unrealistic pipe dream. I have done weight watchers so many times that the classes have lost their impact but now at 37 I am contemplating going to the doctors and asking for surgery. I don't think I ever would do this as fundamentally I don't think it would work long term for me. I am a strong willed, passionate, creative, caring, happy woman who loves her life - I am now getting really fed up of not being able to live it to the full. If anyone is in my shoes or similar it would be wonderful to have a buddy to attack this with....
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Hi my name is Michael I to need to lose10 stone I've put on five stone I the last3 months I've got cancer and on chemo for 15 weeks so I need to lose weight or my cancer could come so am looking for a diet buddy
Happy to buddy Michael - I've posted a bit further down the thread too. We can all work together. It seems you have a really good reason to battle you weight. This is a good place to start
Okay thank you am also joining a gym Monday just for walking and a bit on the bike when am up to it.as am still on chemo for about another 9 1/2 weeks I think,here's my email address michael.kenneally@btinternet.comgood luck with your journey I need to do this trying for 7 pounds for Xmas
Sorry to hear you are finding things so tough. I hope you can get together with a weight loss buddy.
If the 12 week plan does not work for you, perhaps have a look at an alternative idea. I found that giving up sugar helped a lot with my health and my moods, although it took me several goes to cut it out.
im sorry to hear things have been so rough. I had 130lb to lose when I started 4 weeks I now have 119lb. It truly is possible.
Download the 12 week plan on the nhs website and the myfitnesspal app to track your calories.
it takes a lot of hard work but it is possible, its late now and im heading to bed but if you wanna message I really wouldn't mind giving you an advice and support if you would like, like you I have a long way to go.
Break it into smaller chunks, so for instance - to get your BMI to under 40, that's achievable, right? I find it helps to weigh in Lowcal starts a Monday morning weigh in thread where we share our goals,triumphs and disappointments, good luck with your goals
Hi LeicesterLady - like you I've had my demons which I have fought and now in almost all ways I'm happy with myself. I've lost a lot of things along the way but weight isn't one of them
January this year, my 50th year, I had 5 stones to lose. I've lost one. I'd hoped for 3 this year as I've damaged my metabolism with years of yo-yo dieting and I lose weight really slowly -no 3-5lb losses a week in my life. I'm overweight because I stuff myself. I don't eat out often, don't like poor quailty take away food, don't have a sweet tooth and cook from scratch for my family.
I eat big meals and snack constantly. I 'need' to feel full all the time - and it drives me crazy!
I had some success with the 5:2 diet this summer. It taught me to challenge my need to eat more than I need to and that it's ok to feel a hunger pang or too ( they actually go away very quickly with a cuppa anyway). I've fallen off the wagon though and would love a buddy to motivate me and to support as well
5:2 isn't for everyone but I guess to support each other we wouldn't need to be doing the same thing.
It's 1st December Monday - my head says a fresh start for January 1st makes sense but I'm old enough to know that's my tummy talking so I'm up for starting on Monday!
Good luck with your own journey - get in touch if you'd like to buddy
Deb
I've lost 17-18 pounds since the end of September through healthy eating and a bit of walking and going on the WiiFit. I have found being organised and having a routine with food has been essential, and sticking to it rather than being in the mind-set that I can have days or evenings off from healthy eating. I do really look forwards to going for walks now. I need to lose another 18 pounds or so to get to the top of the healthy weight range. I was at the bottom of the obese range at the end of September, and am currently slap bang in the middle of the overweight range (all according to BMI).
Thank you so much for the kind words, they have really helped me a great deal - things feel doable again. Mike, you are an inspiration! Just been for a nice evening walk, I am trying and will start the 12 week plan on Monday. Will avoid the usual pattern of having a food party before Monday!! Feeling positive and not like this will work for me but that its worth trying. I can't let this be who I am for my family's sake. Thank you again for the replies xx
Reading this sounded just like I could have written it myself. I will be 40 in January, have at least 10 stone to lose, have a bmi of 47 and have battled depression since my teens. I have, over the years tried multiple ways of losing weight, twice succeeding in losing 4 stone only to put it all back on and more, but I really want to beat this. It is good to hear there are others out there! Good luck.
Thanks for posting Smousie - it is reassuring to know you are out there too! I have followed that pattern too - lost weight but then added it back with interest. I really like the part in week 1 of the 12 week plan that says that it only takes 12 weeks to break a habit - 12 weeks doesnt feel like so long
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