It just wont go!

Hi all.

I am 62, recently retired and I just cannot get rid of the weight. I eat as well as i can. Now i go out and do a 2 mile walk each day and the weight just wont go. I have never been to a gym in my life and i am not sure i want to do that now. I am 5ft 3in and weight 11st. I seem to have come through the change and the weight wont go. I spent most of my life 8st 2lb, so this is now getting me down. I have been married for 7 years and i weight around 9st 10lb then. To make matters worse my husband said i looked like the Pilsbury dough woman yesterday and it hurts like hell. I just want to eat and cry. Well i have done the latter and resisted the cakes. I need some kind words and hugs. I told him i wasnt too chuffed and he did apology but the words must have been in his head or he wouldnt have said them. How to i get rid of this weight. I want to do it for me and not because of what he said.

10 Replies

  • Hi Emmy

    I don't think men always realise the effect that words can have!

    Have a look at the 12 week plan and see if it would work for you. Some people do well on the 5:2 diet. I have lost most of my weight by following a low carb diet, although I didn't do it fast and kept some high fibre carbs like sweet potato.

    I go to an aquafit class at my local swimming pool which I enjoy very much.

    Good luck, I hope you can find what works for you.

  • When you say you eat as well as you can, have you minimised your fructose intake, and foods that spike your insulin and IGF1 levels?

  • You could be me Emmycat! Same age, same issues. I posted earlier that I needed a kick up the backside as I can't seem to get motivated any other way. I'm thinking about the 5:2. Let us know how you get on anyway. X

  • Well done for tackling the hurt in a better way than scoffing cakes you don't really want and won't enjoy. Your husband probably couldn't articulate this but he may well have uttered that comment from a *way* more positive place than it sounds. After all, he's the one that cuddles you.

    You are not very much overweight which is great news. I don't know what your frame is like - are you quite dainty? I've made it to a healthy BMI and still look very 'solid' - the right place for me is round about the middle of the range, definitely not the bottom end which is where you were when you were younger.

    Keeping a detailed record of your eating for a week or two (weighing and measuring) and then checking the calories and the nutritional composition might reveal a way forward for you. (Have you looked at the NHS weight loss plan?) You could have a read of the NHS C25K running forum on HealthUnlocked where there are many people of similar age and older, similar weights and heavier learning to run. If you've just retired, now is the time for all sorts of exciting new challenges!

  • I'm 61 and 5ft 3 and have lost 3 stones, simply by counting calories and sticking to 1200 calories per day.I don't go to a gym, walk my dogs for 40 mins every morning, use an exercise bike and lift weights twice a week. I'm now 5lbs under my goal weight and am 4 lbs heavier than I was in my 20's. Working to maintain now.

    If I can do it, so can you, you just need a little push, lol counting calories is the key to successful weight loss. Stick to 1200 calories of healthy foods and I can guarantee you WILL lose weight.

    Do NOT go under 1200 calories, this is the lowest a woman should go, otherwise you will become malnourished, Good luck..

  • you were a lovely weight not many years ago - you will be again, for sure. and as you weight went up since marrying him, he has to take some of the blame!

  • Greetings from another 62 year old! I understand completely. I am 5'5 but alwats kept under 10st until I hit 50. Then it just crept on until I was buying size 16, dreaded beach holidays, but I never wore anything tight so I managed to hide it pretty well . Then 6 months ago I bought new scales and decided to face the truth ....what a shock 11st 12lbs ....I only ever weighed that once in my life, when 8months pregnant!

    For me, I knew that a "diet" would not be sustainable. My partner likes to cook, we eat out, we both like a glass of wine or two. So I used myfitnesspal to monitor my calories. I started off on 1200 a day but often went over, so adjusted it to 1300. I walk for an hour 4 times a week. NO gym . I try to eat healthy food , fish, chicken vegetables, eggs for breakfast not cereal, the odd cake or crisps but only once/twice a week and I budget them into my calorie vount. Also wine. And some days I have a meal out and go way way over, but I try and adjust then for s couple of days either side. The secret is to get back on the wagon, dont give up. I have lost a slow and steady 1-2 lbs a week at the beginning. Im now 10st5lb and its slowed down to 0.5 - 1lb per week. Some weeks it goes up a pound. But Im living a normal life and feel I can sustain this. Another 7lbs off and I'll be over the moon. YOU CAN DO THIS TOO , JOIN ME ON MYFITNESSPAL , ITS VERY MOTIVATING. ☺

  • I'll be 65 in a month and lost weight with the 5:2 diet, which is brilliant! I lost three stone in six months on it and now maintain by just 'fasting' (500 calories) one day a week. After I'd lost the first stone I had so much energy that I started the NHS Couch to 5k running programme and I still run three times a week, which of course helps to maintain my weight loss.

    If you didn't see the original programme, "Eat, Fast and Live Longer" it's here

    This little video will tell you more

    And I'd recommend Kate' Harrison's book, "The 5:2 Diet" which is a quick and easy read.

    On the various Facebook groups there are so many inspirational stories.

    I've never previously used a diet where I didn't pile it all straight back on again - I've been the same weight now, and a size 10 after being a size 16 for too many years, since April 2013!

  • What hurts when someone says something like that, is not so much the fact that they say it, but the fact that there is some truth in it. It throws reality into one's face, no denying any more,

    Remember you (like the rest of us overweight ones) are at a crossroads: you can choose to remain plump and feeling unattractive, or you can choose the opposite: to slim down, and let the fat melt away until it remains only an unpleasant memory.

    I try to remind myself all the time not to choose unhappiness, a turbulent mind, etc.: all those things that come with not feeling comfortable with your body.

    It means sacrifices: hunger pangs, not being able to eat wicked foods all the time, even feeling moody and physically unfulfilled. But it is only temorary! And it is going to be totally worthwhile.

  • Thank you all for your replies, they have certainly inspired me. I had been off work with stress for 5 months until i sent in my notice and retired. I need to be honest and get on with it. The words from my husband did hurt, but they have also got me looking for help and i WILL get there.

    Thank you. :)

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