My mother is very obese and has Type 2 diabetes, and some of the problems that accompany it. She is the most frustrating person I know (said with love and concern ^_^) as she refuses to put herself first in this area when it is having a serious detrimental effect on her health.
She wants to loose weight, she knows it is damaging her but there is a mental block that affects it all. These issues do affect every area of her life I think and are multifaceted but it is the physical health problems that are the most immediate at the moment.
Since she was a child she has struggled with her weight and relationship with food. She has always been told she was fat and even when she wasn't, believed it to be true. Similarly she was praised and rewarded for eating up her dinner and food was a reward.
Now eating and food has become a mix of reward, pick me ups and punishment. I have noticed that for a long time she will eat "snacks" without thinking about it or actually realising.
Our actual diet is quite good so often conventional advice (more veg, less fried food etc) is not very helpful as it does not address the issues behind the overeating.
I know people normally need to identify the problems in themselves and want to change for it to make a difference when there are more psychological problems. However, I was hoping that someone may be able to advise how to help people with these behaviours? If anyone has personal experiences of this I would be very grateful to hear as I am at a loss of how to help her when I know that she needs support.
From past experience I know she is very difficult about anything mental health related. Her attitude to my own diagnosis of depression and social anxiety as well as her reaction when it was suggested she may have post-natal depression were quite dismissive and negative.
Sorry for such a long, rambling post but I hope this background information will help. Thanks in advance for anything you can share!