An advent of ideas 18: compassion

Self-talk is such an important influence. Being overweight isn't a moral issue, it's a pragmatic issue. Addressing it in the long term does need an understanding of how it happened but most of the attention needs to be forward. Yes, sometimes a bit of a kick up the bum is helpful, compassion for oneself doesn't mean "Oh poor you, it's not your fault you can't exercise, and of course you should have a second piece of cake because you've had a bad day" Sometimes it can be very helpful to think how you would respond to a good friend, it may derail the self flagellation that largely seems to make things worse rather than better.

1 Reply

oldestnewest
  • My problem seems to be more in line with Homer Simpson. Caaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaake!!!!!! I can get over this by never having any in the house, or biscuits, cheese, cream, chocolate - but going out for coffee with a friend is a disaster!! I am pinning my hopes on a new start with the 6th of January weigh in!

You may also like...