Is anyone having problems with people they're living with?

I'm 18 weeks pregnant and get constant verbal abuse. My husband doesn't say anything because he says its his mother and he can't say anything. But it's got to a point where I just can't take it anymore. It's as if waiting for the physical abuse to kick in to get away. But I have no where to go! Is there any help I can get, It would help even if I had someone to talk to. If there is help available then can someone please tell me where?

I don't want to be in an unstable state when my baby comes.

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  • I've messaged you privately. xxx

  • I'm a Lil concerned / worried about this message you've posted here. You've said you are living in a house with your husband & his family (im assuming) & his mother is verbally abusing you.

    I think you need to look at your relationship with your husband & when the both of you have some spear time speak to him & let him know this is upsetting you.

    Did you & your husband have a good relationship before his mother came to live with you.

    The best advice i can give you is that if you're husband really loves you he needs to speak to his mother & tell her to stop what she's doing.

    At this time you're still in the early stages of pregnancy she don't need to be adding additional stress to you & the unborn child. Plus if the family cannot live together peacefully & happily someone needs to get out (AKA you're mother in law)

  • You need help now, if your husband will not listen and take this seriously then there is something very wrong with him.

    No one should abuse u in any way. If u feel in danger you need to speak to the police or go to a women's refuge to escape.

    Google domestic violence there is a helpline:)

    So sorry u are going through this

  • Absolutely agree with Skyblueboston in regards to contacting the Police. You do not have to wait until things get physical, and even if it's not your husband, that doesn't matter. Please dig deep and try to get help now; these things don't go away on their own.

  • This is terrible! You should be the most important person in your husbands life whether you are pregnant or not, he should stand up for you over and above anyone else.

    I am assuming from this that maybe you are living with his family in their home (?)....

    Dig deep and stand up to her and your husband. If this is how she treats you imagine how she will treat your child. Will your husband allow that too??

    Maybe speak to your midwife? The other posts on here are right about domestic abuse taking many forms.

    Do you have any friends and family who can help? Don't be afraid to ask them.

    Remember she is nothing but a bully, she needs to put other people down in order to make herself feel better. She probably doesnt have anything personal against you, just the fact you took her little boy away and her treating you like this is just asserting her authority, letting you know she is still number 1. This actually makes her very insecure, pathetic and weak. Maybe she has bullied your husband too and this is why he finds it difficult to stand up to her.

    Ultimately you still need his support while your are all living together, if he is not prepared to even try then please don't let this stop you making a stand on your own.

    Good luck x

  • I'm even more worried as you haven't been back on here. Please get in touch Excited and let us know how you are. We are here for you ok, you are not alone. You do not have to put up with this. Hoping with all my heart you are ok. :(

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