I went for my 12 week scan a couple of weeks ago and came out really disappointed, and frankly pretty upset. I'm going to be a single mum so I took my own mum along for support. They were running late when we got there, which would have been fine, but my bladder was so full it was really uncomfortable.
When we went into the room, the sonograher was fairly distant and made no apologies for the lateness. She ran the ultrasound over my tummy and immediately said that she couldn't get any good pictures and wouldn't be able to do the NT check, without asking if I had wanted it anyway. She then asked if I wanted her to bother carrying on as the photos wouldn't be very good and I may as well save my token for next time. I asked her to see what she could get, and was close to tears by that point.
Anyway, she sent me to the toilet as my bladder was now too full, and when I came back she started again. I was beginning to worry that there was something wrong and so asked why she couldn't get a clear picture. She didn't answer for a few seconds and then said, it was because I had too much body tissue, (I am a size 16 so although plumper than I would like, not exactly huge) and that ultrasounds only work on average size people. She carried on and showed me different parts of my baby, which was very wiggly. At one point the spine could be seen clearly and was very straight, so I commented on this, assuming it to be good. She answered with a very dismissive "yeah". I was too upset and shocked to speak by this point. Anyway, I have 4 photos in which you can see many different parts of my baby and from what I can see everything is ok. One of my friends is training to be a nurse and talked me through them in a much kinder and more helpful way. I have my next scan in the next few weeks and I'm really nervous about going back, in case I get the same treatment, and considering changing hospitals in case all the staff there have this dismissive attitude. I am not a young girl who can be fobbed off, I am a 36 year old teacher, and if I was this dismissive, rude and unprofessional, I would have complaints about me.
It would be good to hear if anyone ese has had any experiences like this and how easy it is or if its even possible to change hospitals.