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17 weeks after 2 miscarriages is it normal to still feel worried????

I know when u pass 12 weeks all should be ok but it's like I don't want to get too excited about it just in case, sometimes I even forget that I'm pregnant and seem more excited about my niece than myself being pregnant it's not that I don't want the baby as I do very much but it feels like I'm detached from the whole thing anyone else felt this way? I'm hoping that when I find out the sex and start buying stuff that it will become more real but I am also distracted with having a 2yr old I'm worried I'm not going to bond because of these feeling now pregnancy is never as easy as it seems is it x

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Snap! After a miscarriage I have done nothing but think the worst throughout the pregnancy, I have bought lots of stuff now, I'm nearly 20 weeks, I'm becoming more positive as time passes, especially now I can feel the baby move most days, I think I will only truly be happy when I have the baby in my arms.


Gosh, I can't imagine how you both must feel, and all I can say is if you're concerned, speak to your midwife. I wish you both the very best and I look forward to hearing about your beautiful babies.


Hi I felt exactly the same after my miscarriage, I wanted to get excited but there was always something holding me back I was lucky that I had some counselling after my miscarriage and they also supported me throughout my next pregnancy which was great so if u can find a local service well worth giving them a call. Also give yourself a break it is understandable to feel the way you so dont try to fight the feelings it just makes it worse, it does get a little bit easier as time goes on and the intense relief when you finally hold your baby after those 9 months of worry is priceless. I found a Doppler useful,we listened to our little one every night, but word of warning babies move a lot so don't panic if you can't hear the heartbeat each time just leave it and try again later. Hope everything goes well for you x


:( sorry to hear about your miscarriages. I had 2 miscarriages and im now 20 weeks pregnant.. i have only just told my employer and family this week for fear of something happening.. its so normal to feel nervous and worried, i take it one day at a time and pay attention to her little movements everyday.. every pregnancy is different so I dont compare to the last and try to always be positive :) im sure when you have your 20 week scan you will start to feel excited :) all the best :)


Snap again! I've had a neo natal death so always feel anxious but then had a miscarriage last summer and feel 10 times more anxious. I'm 18 weeks and very nervous.

I'm taking each day as it comes and taking note of the new feelings/sensations. At the same time I do also worry with every feeling in case it's something going wonrg.

I have 2 kids and use them as the best form of therapy.

You aren't the only one to feel like this, try not to miss out on the magic of pregnancy and tick off weeks as another week closer to meeting baby.

sending you love



Thanks for that it is of comfort got my check up tomorrow so maybe hearing the heartbeat will be of some comfort too good luck everyone xx


I hope the check up made you feel better :)

Its good to know there are others out there that feel the same, I had 2 miscarriages which resulted in the 4 year relationship ending, starred a new one and well it seems this baby insisted in coming along !! But now even at 24 weeks I am still worried at everything and really worry about bonding as iv still not yet really enjoyed the pregnancy ,but seeing others going through similar things is reassuring :D


The check up was a good sign I seem to dread yet look forward to them but the heart was whooshing away nicely I think just keeping busy and getting past each stage helps and when he/she starts booting away everyday will also help the bonding but until the birth I probably won't fully settle


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