Missed miscarriages

Hi, i would like to share some things with you and i would like to get any new information you have on miscarriages. 5 mnth ago i had a missed miscarriage and the experience shocked me. but finally i got through it and now i am pregnant again. but 10 days ago i started to notice some strange sings which i tend to ignore, and think it's normal things happening. But i am afraid. Affraid that will happen again. Can anyone tell me, why? i mean i have read all that i could , and asked md but still not satisfied. So please share ur experience. I was very short cause i know that time is precious for all of us. Thanks

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  • Hi, unfortunately these things just happen ! I can't tell you why :(

    what I can say is earlier this year my friend got to 17+ weeks, at a midwife appointment no heartbeat could be detected, scan confirmed - That baby would have been due sep ! She is now 30 weeks pregnant and due in March

    Just cos it happened once doesn't mean it will happen again, hope that's some comfort.

    You don't say how many weeks or the the strange things so can't say say anymore than that.

    I'm 5 weeks pregnant and so scared about miscarriage, never been through it personally and have a super gorgeous 3 yo but was trying nearly 2 years! Was told 2 days b4 I found out I'm being made redundant ! I need this and that's y I think I'm so scared but have calmed myself down and just going with the flow :)

  • Hi there. I had a missed miscarriage last year. We have been trying for a baby for 9 years. I am 14 weeks pregnant now and all seems well at my scan. I know how you feel as I am always worried too. I'm just enjoying the fact that I am pregnant now and trying to overcome my fear of loss. They say that it is common in first pregnancies and many women dont even know that they were pregnant. My advice would be not to worry too much as if you are stressed then baby can sense that.

    I started bleeding about 6 weeks ago and was terrified. Turns out i had a urine infection. My baby is doing well and i hope it stays that way.

    I hope everything goes well for you xx

  • Hi my story isn't so happy I am 10 weeks pregnant and started bleeding about 10 days ago the bleeding changed a few times from red to brown and is now bright red I was confirmed yesterday I am miscarrying, if you are bleeding I suggest you ring your early pregnancy unit and checked out if things aren't right don't delay nature way of dealing with things that aren't ment to be, I have a beautiful 2 year old who keeping my chin up but please go get checked out xxxxx big hugs xxxxxxx

  • Hey

    last year i had a missed miscarriage at 7 weeks. i found out i was pregnant at 5 weeks and went for a doctors appointment to confirm it. had a pain in my side so she reffered me for a scan at 7 weeks. at the scan i saw the baby and the sac but no heart beat but i didnt think anything of it, i just thought because i was very early into my pregnancy that the baby was to small to see a heartbeat. they told me to come back for another scan in 2 weeks but a few days after that scan i started to bleed & i lost the baby, i went for another scan and it was completely gone.

    i was very distraught i went into depression even feeling suicidal. i had counselling and it really helped

    This january i got pregnant again. i was VERY scared of it happening again, everyday i would wake up and check 2 see if i was bleeding & i would go on the internet and see horror stories which didnt help at all. i was very paranoid. my son is now 7 weeks old born on my 21st birthday :)

    as much as i was worried i stayed positive and stayed away from the internet eventually except for development websites.

    its okay to feel worried its natural, that just shows how protective we are as mothers/soon to be mothers :) i was worried right up till i gave birth but i had the confidence that everything would be just fine and it was

    of course if any concerns dont hesitate to call your midwife/doctor no question is ever too silly !!

    hope all goes well with your pregnancy XxX

  • Hi Meli,

    I had a missed miscarriage, and I understand the level of concern you must be feeling, and the internal conflict as you tell yourself it's probably just 'normal' pregnancy symptoms while you wonder about the potential consequence of ignoring each and every twinge.

    I'd love to be able to give you some sort of magical advice that will ease your fears for this pregnancy, but, honestly, I worried my way through to 20-odd weeks when I could feel my baby's movements on a regular basis. Best advice is to note your fears and concerns, take a deep breath, and move on with your day. And feel free to contact your midwife or GP with concerns - they'll understand!

    I did loads of reading up on miscarriages, and a ridiculously high percentage of miscarriages occur because of chromosomal abnormalities. So something hasn't worked at the most basic level, which means that there is no chance for normal development. So, while it didn't lessen the grief, I found it comforting that losing the baby, while heartbreaking for me, was likely the best thing for the baby.

    The hardest thing for me to deal with was the loss of trust in my body's ability to tell me what was going on. My first pregnancy, I was convinced something was wrong but ended up with a beautiful girl. My second pregnancy, i felt 'pregnant' and had moved into that lovely healthy pregnancy 'glow' but had a missed miscarriage which was not detected for four weeks. Then my last pregnancy I trusted absolutely no symptom, and almost didn't allow myself to believe the pregnancy would succeed, but I now have a lovely baby boy who is one month old today.

    Just know that your fears and concerns are valid and normal. It's ok to feel excited one minute and pessimistic the next! And your fears will not influence the success of your pregnancy, or the well being of your child. So you just take good care of yourself, do all the things you should be doing (drink lots of water, take appropriate supplements, eat well and get lots of rest), and be very kind to yourself as you ride the emotional rollercoaster.

    All the best

    R x

  • Hi,

    I also had a missed miscarriage earlier this year i thought I was 11 weeks pregnant but had slight bleeding and the scan confirmed i had only reached 6 weeks and there was no heart beat. I am now pregnant again and like you am very afraid it will happen again. I don't really know what the answer is as I am just going day by day - almost expecting the worse so that I am prepared for it! Hope everything goes OK for you and as others have said any doubts or queries go and see someone about it! xx

  • Hi I had a missed miscarriage in May. I found out at 11 weeks but the measurements suggested growth stopped around 6 weeks. To me it didn't add up as I'd still had symptoms right up until the day before I went to the docs. What happened with mine was rare, after implantation and formation of the sac my embryo tried to split into twins but this type of twinning is very difficult to survive and both stopped growing. I have no twins at all in my family and neither does my partner so this was a real shock. I kept thinking if only it hadn't tried to be twins maybe it would have worked out differently. But there just aren't many answers out there. What I did discover was that almost every woman I know who has children has had at least 1 miscarriage and it is so much more common than you think. We are still TTC with no luck and I have found Christmas so hard, as I should have had my babies with me for the first time this Christmas. I've started feeling quite depressed about it all. What makes it worse is that all my friends are either pregnant now, or were pregnant and have had their babies recently. I constantly ask why it's not happening for us but there just aren't any answers x x

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