I've been thinking about what it means to be 'motherly' or 'fatherly' and was wondering if people might be willing to give me a few words to describe what they think are the most important concepts to them.
If possible, I'd like to think outside of gender roles as such - so not so much male and female in a family as mother and father. I am just wondering whether my ideas (motherly traditionally being described as nurturing etc. as opposed to fatherly being described as 'providing for') are considered outdated and unpalatable to feminists or others?
For example, many fathers are great at 'rough play' and I would probably put that in the 'fatherly' camp - though obviously in many cases it is the woman who teaches the kids play fight. The idea is not to restrict people into roles. I just think that it might be good to take 'motherly' and 'fatherly' beyond the biological i.e. not applicable only to people who have children because in many cases I think that these definitions apply to how people interact in the workplace and society etc
I hope you don't mind me asking - I thought it would be good to start with ideas from people whose immenent parenting is very real to them..