This may be a long one so please bear with me.
I have gorgeous boy/girl twins who are now 14 weeks old. I’ve written a previous post about my baby boy suffering with symptoms which were diagnosed as GERD and a cows milk and soy protein allergy.
My current problem is that he just won’t ever settle, and he cries for about 90% of the day. It seems to be getting worse too, with his cries becoming hysterical and inconsolable (which completely breaks my heart).
I have pushed for doctors to look at him because I genuinely believe something isn’t quite right. For instance, he hasn’t settled at all today and when I’d finished changing him he was still crying. He then let out a huge screamy cry followed by a trump - he does this a lot. I cuddled him tightly and he nodded off in my arms on his side which seems to be the only way he can settle. He then suddenly woke up with another big screamy cry followed by a couple more trumps.
He does this often, and seems constipated a lot more often than what is considered normal. When he does poop, it’s an explosion, thick and slimey green (which may be the formula and/or the omeprazole he’s on). It’s like a huge relief for him, but then we feed him and the same situation repeats itself. He’s started to fight with some of his feeds to, refusing it and therefore not managing to drink enough of it. This is only really in the last week.
I am barely sleeping because he just doesn’t settle in his crib (day or night) and will only now sleep on me but again, it takes me a while to settle him because he’s kicking his legs really hard and clawing at me before he gets comfortable.
He’s also struggling to gain weight at the pace his sister is, despite usually taking the same volume of feed.
He’s on prescribed milk, SMA Althera and takes (when not refusing) 5oz every 3-4 hours 5/6x a day. He now weighs 8lbs 6oz compared to his sister who now weighs 11lbs 2oz. She’s always been a pound heavier than he has, but that gap is widening massively, and Mason has now dropped below the 0.4 percentile.
My baby girl is, luckily, a very easy baby. She eats well, sleeps and poops. She’s started to smile and engage with us and seems content and happy. She rarely cries unless she’s tired or hungry (she loves her milk!)
In addition to wanting to help Mason but being at a loss as to what to do, I’m also feeling massive guilt that because my boy needs much more attention, cradling and comforting, I can’t give as much time to my baby girl. I cuddle her as often as I can, but when I’ve got a screaming crying baby that won’t settle, it’s really hard to attend to the other even if it’s just to play with them.
I try my very hardest, and when my little boy isn’t crying, I may get that 10 minutes of fun playfulness with them both which I make the most of and I love it. He does smile in those moments to, which is amazing to see.
I just wish I could make sure he’s as content as his twin sister.
Has anyone got any advice on what May be unsettling him and how I can manage it?
I’ve tried soothing, rocking, using a pacifier, pram, sling, carrier etc.,
Thanks so much if you’ve read this far xx