Had New Year’s Day lunch with my wife, parents, sister, brother in law and nieces today and I’ve come away, replayed the situation in my head and now I’m so upset ( I am a slow burn and it annoys me that I don’t react quickly to shut things down sometimes).
I expressed that currently I would like to have a c section (little bit of back story- I’m very petite, had two failed IVF transfers and I’m so narrow down there an embryo transfer and endometrial scratch left me in terrible pain and bleeding). At no point did they ask why I was interested in a section. My brother in law kept repeating that giving birth via c section ‘isn’t proper child birth’. My sister kept pushing her experience, agenda and that a section is a bad idea. My mum didn’t help either. So I felt like they were ganging up on me and didn’t take even ask why I wanted a section. They also said super patronising comments like ‘you know the recovery time is longer’ and ‘you know you can’t drive for 6 weeks’ - no shit.
I have wanted a baby for so long, I’ve done my research and I just want my baby delivered safely after all the ups and downs of IVF. It’s not like either way to give birth is easy or there is a ‘one fits all’ scenario. And it’s not that they have opinion that bothers me, it’s that I didn’t ask for their opinion (certainly not the brother in law with no uterus), it was belittling and ignorant.
I’ve since told them to not bring it up to me again. Am I overreacting to this? X