*sensitive* Pregnant after 2 miscarriages in the last year

[Cjm1992]

Hi first time posting here Myself and my fiancée have just found out we are 5 weeks pregnant after having 2 miscarriages in the past year 1 in December last year (making being pregnant right now very stressful) and had a second in April this year. Just need some reassurance I am absolutely terrified it is all going to go wrong again. Has anyone here had a successful pregnancy after 2 miscarriages

[Jess1981]

So sorry for your losses . Ive had 3 early miscarriages and 1 late loss at 20 weeks last year. I'm 29 weeks pregnant following a late loss and 2 early miscarriages this year ( the first loss we had was before our 2 and half year old daughter) Having miscarriages makes it very difficult to relax into any pregnancy so what you are feeling is totally normal hope you plenty of support with family friends and medics. I was given 2 early scans due to being under a miscarriage specialist- definitely helped us get through the early weeks . I can't say it's a successful pregnancy until my baby arrives safely ( I won't relax until she does) but so far it is looking like a viable pregnancy 🤞🏻 One day at a time is the only way to get through it ( im still doing that now) it is very hard tho. It's a shame miscarriages rob you of the excitement of another pregnancy 🥲 every pregnancy is different and most women that suffer a miscarriage even after recurring miscarriages do go into have a healthy baby 🥰 there is no reason why this pregnancy can't be successful. Wishing you the best and a smooth pregnancy Xx

[Cjm1992 in reply to Jess1981]

Thank you so so much for taking the time out of your day to reply. It means a lot. I am so sorry for your losses also. I would be hoping for a reassurance scan but they didn’t seem really bothered at the time so I can’t see me getting one, I am going to ask tho for sure. I have only just found out in the last couple of days so have not heard back from midwife yet. It really does rob you of any sort of excitement and I feel guilty for wanting to feel excited but we are just hoping this is going to be our happy ending finally. Thank you so much we are going to take each day as it comes, get through Christmas and new year and hopefully get our scan in January sometime! Thank you so much and hope all goes well for you too xxx

[Mala84 in reply to Cjm1992]

It is nice to hear about happy endings. I had my first miscarriage last year in August and then got pregnant in December. I was very anxious if I had another miscarriage so I asked midwife to get me an early scan but obviously NHS does not do that if you dont have any bleeding or bad cramping. I just could not wait and booked a private scan last Sunday, unfortunately the sonographer said that this looks like I will miscary again I am having my early scan this Friday on NHS to confirm what I was told in my private scan.

NHS is useless about that, if I did not have my private scan I would have to wait another month to my 12 week scan to find out there is no hearbeat and my baby doesnt grow

I am happy I had that private scan as I rather know that not know.

I hope you will have your happy ending with this pregnancy and you will hold your baby soon all the best.

[Emdog87]

Good morning, congratulations. Try to relax and be positive. I’ve not had the easiest pregnancy journey either, I had an ectopic which resulted in emergency surgery, a year later an early miscarriage then I gave birth to my beautiful healthy daughter. After her I had another miscarriage in Feb this year and found out I was pregnant again in July. At 6 weeks I found out I was having twins, a few weeks later we were then told one didn’t survive but I’m now 24 weeks pregnant with a baby girl.

I know how you are feeling, after experiencing losses it’s very hard to relax but you’ve just got to stay positive and look after yourself. Even now I find it hard to believe I’m pregnant, for a long time I felt scared to get excited about it. The first 12 weeks are always the hardest anyway. X

[Cjm1992 in reply to Emdog87]

Thank you so much for your kind words . I’m so sorry you went through that it is an absolutely awful experience and it’s actually crazy how many people have been through it! I am so sorry to hear one of your twins didn’t survive but so happy the rest of your pregnancy is going okay. I hope everything goes perfectly for you. It’s so hard to relax I don’t think I will ever relax until I have my baby in my arms. I’m just second guessing every moment, I’m scared to go to the toilet and scared of every little cramp I feel even tho tbh they’re probably normal! It helps a lot to hear positive stories thank you for replying xxxx

[Emdog87 in reply to Cjm1992]

I know and I know that feeling all too well. Anything you’re worried about then call your midwife or GP. Miscarriages are difficult and I found it even more frustrating not having an answer why it happened and just being told ‘it’s one of those things’. I think that’s what makes it scary just thinking it can happen again. But you’ve just got to focus on positives in life and there are so many options out there too. That’s what I kept reminding myself anyway.

I’m sure you’ll be absolutely fine, I wish you all the best with your pregnancy. X

[LB1234]

Hi there, i'm sorry for your losses. I have had a very similar experience - losses in Aug and Dec last year and fell pregnant at the end of the summer this year. Everything 'seems' to be going ok this time round, I've got my 20 week scan next week and super anxious about it but had a private scan a couple of weeks ago and everything looked ok then so just need to keep fingers crossed.

Mentally it has been a complete rollercoaster of a journey, second guessing every single thing and had a couple of occasions where I really thought it was over...but we're still here. Passing the milestones of previous pregnancies didn't actually give me the reassurance I was expecting but I think getting past next week's scan and starting to feel movement will help me relax. I've had a few extra private scans along the way as had they would only scan on the NHS if I had bleeding. Although nerve-wracking, they have helped.

Zoe Clark-Coates has written a book called Pregnancy After Loss which has been helpful to me at times, reassurance that I'm not the only one constantly on edge.

One of my friends has also been through the same - 2 losses last year and is now due a baby in Jan. So definitely possible to have a successful pregnancy after 2 losses.

Wishing you all the luck that this one works out for you 💜

[Cjm1992 in reply to LB1234]

Thank you so much for your reply. I’m so sorry to hear you went through that. It is so hard dealing with it twice on such a short period. I hope you’re coping as well as can be. And that’s how I am feeling I feel like a scan would reassure me so much and know I won’t get one on the nhs so contemplating private too…. I am second guessing everything always scared to go to the toilet in case I see blood.. I’m scared of everything. I absolutely love Zoe’s book I have both saying goodbye and pregnancy after loss.. I am going to read it again to remind myself people have had a happy ending. It’s so helpful to hear other peoples success stories. Hope all goes well at your 20 week scan! Take care and thank you for reaching out xxxx

[GemX81]

I had 2 miscarriages before getting pregnant with my first, he's now 6. And then when we tried for baby number 2 I had another miscarriage before falling pregnant with my second who is now 2. It's natural to feel anxious and I know I definitely did throughout both pregnancies with my Son's. Just take each day as it comes, the worry never stops (even once they are here, just what you worry about changes!) Just keep talking to your partner, family, friends and midwife about how your feeling. It takes off the pressure. Good luck! Wishing you a healthy pregnancy with a healthy little one in your arms soon!

[Mopsu]

Hi I'm sorry about your previous loss ...I lost my baby 2 years ago and this year I've got birth my first baby...but I knew reason why I lost my baby...did you know why it happened? Did you get checked?

[Liberty82]

My first 2 pregnancies were miscarriages. I'm now currently cuddling my 4 week old daughter. I was an absolute nervous wreck throughout my pregnancy. My sister also had 2 miscarriages between her 2 boys. Unfortunately miscarriages are common, its more likely to just be bad luck rather than there being anything wrong. But I understand your fears, I was anxious right up to the second they pulled her out of me! Now I have new sets of anxiety but I didn't enjoy my pregnancy even though it was straightforward. The innocence had gone. Congratulations on your pregnancy and happy and healthy 9 months to you x