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Hi my 3 year old still isn’t potty trained, I have found that she is holding in her urine all day and not letting go until she gets a nappy on.

I have stopped and started at times over the last year as felt she maybe needed a break could get very distressed and consistently holding it in

Should I revert back to nappies and just encourage using the toilet/potty again??

Has anyone experienced their toddler do this? I’m at a complete loss

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That sounds really stressful for you. My son didn't toilet train until he was 3.5 years old, so don't worry about how old she is, but holding urine all day is not good.

Sounds like she's probably anxious about releasing her wee into a scary hole instead of it just being absorbed by a nappy.

Some hopefully helpful information and advice here.

google.com/amp/s/www.ohcrap...

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Also Aha Parenting is one of my go to gentle parenting website. ahaparenting.com/Ages-stage...

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Hi Winnie258 thanks for your reply, yeah that’s my worry, it can be stressful and I don’t want her to develop more of a fear, she had passed urine in her potty a couple of times before and we made a huge deal of it at the time to encourage her and praise her but she just doesn’t go back to it. Thank you for the links will defo have a look :)

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I'm in the same situation she would hold it in all day doesent wee in her nappy even at nursery. The potty is a no and so is the toilet at first I thought it was anxiety because she's very stubborn and a resistor to sleep, bath and toilet traoining/potty training and now she is smart and is 3years and say no because I don't like it. Hopefully she will start school when she's four and il just take the nappies away this summer it's like no reward is good enough for her to sit on the potty or toilet.

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Cottontail21 in reply to Rainy2018

I’ve had exactly the same problems with sleep in the past when she was younger, still resisting baths etc sometimes I just change up the bath toys so it’s something more exciting to entice her in. Hopefully it will just click one day and she will do it🤞🏻🤞🏻

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Rainy2018 in reply to Cottontail21

She does understand she's just stubborn she can hold he urine all day even without a nappy cry so much shel fall asleep, shel even refuse to wee or poo in the potty just super stubborn shel do when she wants to like with everything else. Anything to do with her health she won't do.

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