I’m wondering if there is anyone that can help me - I’m so desperate right now. I’ve spoken to midwives, 111, out of hours doctors and no-one is giving me any support, I can’t find anyone that cares and it’s tearing me apart and I’m loosing all faith in the NHS
I’m 23, young and healthy I’ve had two miscarriages. My first one in July 2019 and my second in October 2020 after 15 months TTC. We luckily fell again in December 2020 and I am currently 4 weeks & 5 days. We had an early scan Tuesday just gone, the gestational and yolk sac was seen and was looking good, no sign of any issues bleeding etc. That night I had a tiny bit of pink spotting which stopped. Fast forward to today I had the same this morning havent had any since but my boobs are so on / off sore it’s stopped today and now I’m in full panic mode💔
I am not strong enough to go through this again, my mental health will spiral out of control again. I’ve spoken to the midwives they won’t do anything, I’ve called 111 they got an out of hours doctor to call me and basically said they won’t do anything because I’m under 6 weeks.. that is SICKENING!!!!!!!
I know people who have been in the same situation as me have found that their progesterone levels are low, got tablets and are now having a healthy pregnancy or another one the blood wasn’t getting to the uterus, put her on blood thinners and she’s having a healthy pregnancy. I’m not saying it would be the same case for me but if I can find someone who cares and could prevent it from happening again if possible I’ll take any Avenue I’ll even pay there’s no price you could tell me I wouldn’t pay.
Please any private ante natal care? Private blood tests anywhere? Please please if you can help me my hearts breaking!!!!!💔😭
Awwwwwww hun. Bless you. I know how your feeling believe me I've been there a good few times. Maybe try bupa if your looking for private tests. Just to say they can't test you for blood clotting disorders whilst pregnant but they can do progesterone tests. Im sorry for what your going through hun i know it's, hard. Hopefully its, just bubz inbedding in spotting is common around the stage your at. NHS wont look at us until 6 weeks unfortunately with the pandemic things are just not as accessible as before. Sorry i haven't been much help. Good luck lovely 💗😘
I will give Bupa a call tomorro thank you - honestly I’m trying anything I can. I’m in pieces I really am. I’m trying to be positive but that’s really hard given I have no children and have only ever lost them 💔
Just makes me sick all I hear “due to Covid” this “due to Covid” that. I don’t doubt this pandemic is bad but the fact is other health issues are still going on and they can’t be neglecting that. It’s just about finding someone who cares enough 💔
I know its sickening bless you hun. When i was going through reoccurring losses i could at least get emergency appointments with my drs i like you was desperate to try anything. I hope you get the help u really need hun. Please keep us updated 💗😘
I’m sorry that you had to go through this awful pain. Horrible isn’t it?
I have bloods tomorrow so I’m going to make sure I know my results this time and I’m also going to call my GP to ask to refer me to to Early Pregnancy Unit and I am just hoping they can help. I’ll also call Bupa see what my options are there.
The worst feeling is that I haven’t seemed to of found a nurse / dr / midwife who cares and that makes me really sad.
I haven’t had anymore spotting since this morning, I still have my lower back ache and my breasts are really on / off sore so I’m just trying to be positive it’s all I can do 🥺
I’ll keep you updated. 💗
It is really not a nice thing to go through. Can i ask what your bloods are for, who with?
It really is difficult they don't be interested till your booking in appointment which is around 6-10 weeks. Also some reocurrent miscarriage clinics take referrals after 2 reocurrent losses but most after 3. Your Gp would have to refer you though. Hopefully you will not need that though and you have a sticky little one this time.
Think positive my love i know its hard but spotting is normal heavy isn't 💗😘
Yeah of course - but to be honest I actually have no idea! Every time I have referred myself to my maternity department they always do a blood test so tomorrow I’m going to ask what for! I would assume of course to confirm the pregnancy but other than that I don’t actually know. I’ll let you know when I do!
I just think the lack of support for pregnant women all round even before the pandemic is absolutely disgusting! Each time I miscarried I was offered no support, no counselling nothing. Just to take a test in 3 weeks if I’m negative everything is fine. The first time I was never told what to expect what’s normal I was absolutely petrified, second time round I obviously sadly new what to expect.
I am in the process of writing a complaint to my hospital for the lack of support given my past history - covid or not it is not acceptable! I want to make a change for women like me something needs to be done. I’m not the type to sit back and let them get away with this!
Thank you for your kind words. I will keep you updated 🤞🏼🙏🏼💗
Your right the support just doesn't seem to be there, I've been quite lucky my trust are really good when it come to maternity and previous losses. But im always seeing women aren't acknowledged and going through losses and left without support. A simple explanation and understanding isn't hard plus counseling can really be helpful.
It will probably be a hcg test and then they'll do one again 48 hours later to see if its doubling that'll be great to offer reassurance.
Ill be keeping an eye out for your updates lovely.
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