Pregnant with an 8 month old

[Simba12345]

Hello everyone

So I’ve just found out that I am expecting baby number 2. Baby number 1 is only 8 months old and let’s just say it wasn’t planned.

We always knew we wanted quite a small age gap between our babies, but we just didn’t think it would be so small.

Anyways as I’m now over the initial shock, I’m warming to the idea and finding myself getting quite excited.

One massive worry I have is telling my mum! I remember not too long ago telling her about my friend who is pregnant and has a one year old and she responded by saying she thinks it will be really hard work for my friend with two such young children. She then went on to say she feels a 3/4 year age gap is best, as this way you get to give your first baby loads of your time before a new one comes into the picture. She also said by the time your first baby is 3/4 they are a little more independent so it will be easier.

So, I know her feelings on having babies close together and I know she will be so shocked when I tell her and (not purposely) make me feel even more anxious than I do already.

How should I tell her?

Thanks in advance!!

[roxannacar]

Doubt there is a correct way of telling her. personally I wouldnt tell her it was unplanned if I think she'd disapprove but possibly might be more sympathetic, however you know your mum best. Are you hoping from childcare for her... If not it's really none of her business what the age difference if your kids is tbh. Mine are 22 months apart and just had a third now (older two are 3&5) they fights yes and has been very hard work at times but they do play together a lot which is lovely and keep each other company!

[Octoberbaby2019]

Congratulations!! I know the dread you're feeling, I felt like this telling my mum I was pregnant, I don't even know why. It doesn't matter what your mum thinks is the best age gap, because that is something for you and your husband to decide what works for YOUR family. There's so many pros and cons to having them straight after each other to waiting 5 years etc there really is no right and wrong answer. Yes, you might be exhausted that first year but you know what after that you suddenly will have 2 toddlers available for hugs anytime you want, plus I heard around their 3rd birthday they start telling you all sorts of stories, imagine the first one telling stories to your second one it will be so cute. Anyways, however your mum reacts its really not up to her. If she wants to support you she will if not it's her loss,but even if she's shocked I'm pretty sure she'll love her grandkids x