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Pregnancy after misscarrige *maybe sensitive

Afrohair
Afrohair

I had a misscarrige last year at 12.5 week now I’m pregnant again and I’m so scared visions keep coming through my head what happened that day I went through full labour in my bedroom it lasted nearly 24 hours there was blood everywhere I couldn’t move I’m glad I didn’t because I lost so much blood when the ambulance came they said if I had stood up I would have dropped back down again they got me out of bed on this mobile lift I then fainted in the chair they had to roll me down the stairs so I could go to hospital I keep having flashbacks of giving birth my baby the size of my hand the tears the blood I don’t want to go through all that again my baby sleeping in my back yard it I can’t get the memories away I’m scared it will happen again

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Bless you that is such an awful experience so not surprised you worried. I had a similar one and when got pregnant again I was so anxious esp around the time I lost the last lil one. However all was fine and am holding my 6 week old now. It is scary but just know that it will not necessarily happen again hun and hopefully it will not. Try see this pregnancy as a different one and take one day at a time as much as poss. Know easier said than done but all can do. Go easy on u too and take the time u need to try relax etc. I took more time off work in first 3 months due to the worry etc and think really did help.

I also had few more early scans so that possible for u?

Take good care. Hopefully this one will be your rainbow baby. It def can happen xx

Thankyou for your reply I’m in furlough at the minute so it’s good but I’ve had no support from a midwife they said they will call me in a few week I’m 3 weeks gone I keep worrying cause I’ve got no guidance and they left me last time my first scan wasn’t till 13 week and my baby died a day before I’m worried they will leave it late again x

I'm sorry that you had such a traumatic time, miscarriage are very sad, I had a missed miscarriage before I had my daughter, and had surgery so nothing like what you've been through. Have you spoken to your midwife about your concerns? Maybe she could refer you for some counselling or know where you can get some support from local to you. Tommys charity is a website that offer support during pregnancy and also support around miscarriage, they have a number to contact if you need to speak to someone. I hope you have a lovely easy pregnancy and are able to get to enjoy it, it's so hard when you have had a miscarriage to not stress about your next pregnancy I don't think I truly believed I was becoming a mum till I was talking to my obstetrician about an induction date.

Afrohair
Afrohair in reply to Seb9

Thankyou I called the midwife team but they said they will call me in a few weeks I’ve tried to arrange a private early scan but they want me to wait till 8 week I’m currently 3 I can’t stop worrying cause I’ve no guidance either no one seems to want to see me cause of covid x

Seb9
Seb9 in reply to Afrohair

Ahh yes at 3 weeks there isn't anything that they would be able to see and would probably give you more anxiety than reassurance, it's only the size of a vanilla seed at 3 weeks. Have you put your dates into a due date calculator to work out how many weeks you are? I only ask because the hospital measures your dates from the first day of your last period so 3 weeks pregnant you wouldn't even have necessarily missed your period yet, so would be very very early and most tests wouldn't give you a positive result at 3 weeks, could you maybe have your dates out a little bit?

Afrohair
Afrohair in reply to Seb9

I did a pregnancy test it said 2-3 week my last period was 12 may did the test 11 days ago when period was due

Afrohair
Afrohair in reply to Seb9

In my calculations I’m about 3.5 that’s only cause I know I ovulated 25th may and had intercourse 5 days before that if they count it from 1st day of period that would mean I’m later than that but I don’t think I’m that far yet

Seb9
Seb9 in reply to Afrohair

If the first day of your last period was the 12th May, you're considered to be 5 weeks pregnant. So you'd only have 2 weeks to wait if your wanted an early scan. Your due dates and scans go by the first date of your last period and not by your conception or ovulation dates. I know it's not much difference but it's 2 weeks less to wait for your booking in appointment or to book your early scan. The pregnancy test goes by your conception date not your period date, so although you may have only been pregnant for 3 weeks, your pregnancy weeks with your midwife and scans are calculated from your period dates.

nhs.uk/conditions/pregnancy...

Afrohair
Afrohair in reply to Seb9

Ok I never knew that I’ve not even thrown up yet that’s made me even more worried I’m usually really nauseous in pregnancy.thanks for that info x

I am so sorry for what you have been through. And I'm sending you virtual hugs! I had 2 miscarriages before having my first and another miscarriage before having my second. I now have a 5 year old and a one year old who both run around my house causing chaos! Pregnancy after miscarriage is so stressful but you just have to take each day as it comes. Every day I was pregnant I was just grateful that I was pregnant and therefore there was hope that it will be ok. I now have two gorgeous boys who are both my rainbow babies and if I hadn't of gone through the losses I did I wouldn't have my two little ones. And I wouldn't swap them for the world. It doesn't take away the pain of losing my other babies but it does help me manage it. And in 9 months time you will have your little one in your arms.

Don't worry about not feeling sick at 5 weeks that's quite normal. You are still early on and it's quite common for symptoms to come and go. And no 2 pregnancies are the same. Good luck!

Afrohair
Afrohair in reply to GemX81

Thankyou for your reply I’ll take each day as it comes x

Hey. I just wanted to offer some reassurance. I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks in September 2019. It was very traumatic and I too lost a lot of blood and had to have a blood transfusion. It was physically and emotionally destroying. However, in December 2019 I found out I was expecting again. It was a bittersweet feeling as we was more overwhelmed with worry and disbelief than excitement... The following weeks went so slow and every pain and ache we was both worrying. The build up to the scans was extremely slow.. Fast forward and I'm now 30 weeks pregnant with a healthy little boy.

After a miscarriage it is hard and you worry about everything and it goes really slow, but there is no reason why having a miscarriage previously would mean you'd have one again. Miscarriages are really common and my midwife told me that most people who have a miscarriage will go on to have a healthy pregnancy. With the exception of people who unfortunately suffer from health issues.

Good luck.

Afrohair
Afrohair in reply to EJThompson2

Hiya love thanks for your reply I unfortunately suffer from endometriosis which can cause misscarrige just have to keep hope and know things may be ok this time x

EJThompson2
EJThompson2 in reply to Afrohair

Aw I'm sorry. I know it's easy to say take it a day at a time and not to think about it too much but I know it's all you think about, especially since you're conscious of what you eat and aches/pains etc it's hard not to think about it... I also found that looking at it in quite a medical way helped. Rather than thinking of the prospects of a baby I was thinking of it more of a medical condition, like yes I'm pregnant but it's only week 5/6/7/8 etc anything can happen and I was trying to think of it like 'oh I might have a baby out of this' rather than getting my hopes up thinking oh I'm pregnant I'm having a baby. It was sad but it helped as I felt I was prepared for the worst. Honestly I didn't start getting excited until my 20 week scan, even now at 30 weeks I'm still in disbelief that I'm going to have a baby. I will rest once I hold him!

We also had private scans at 10, 16 and 26 weeks for reassurance as well as our 12 and 20 week NHS ones x

Afrohair
Afrohair in reply to EJThompson2

I know what you mean I’ve been trying to do that aswell but been feeling terrible lately sickness wise haven’t been sick just always feel sick I had a missed misscarrige and just keep thinking it could still be gone anyway and I’d have symptoms.its awful so happy your at a safe stage now I would guess glad it turned out well I’m going to have a early scan at week 8 see how things are x

The best thing is to relax. I know it's hard but that will help your body. There every chance of a successful pregnancy. Eat Healthy, vitamins. I took omega 3 too. Sleep well. Rest a lot. Time will fly

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