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Anyone give me any success stories after a miscarriage? I’m totally heartbroken:(

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So sorry about your miscarriage. It’s totally devastating and an awful thing to go through. I had a missed miscarriage after my first IVF pregnancy however I did have another round of IVF and got pregnant again and now have a two year old. Just give yourself time to grieve and recover. Big hugs xx

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Thanks for the reply, I know I just can’t believe it the minute you see the 2 lines on the pregnancy test u have there whole life worked out. Mines is a missed miscarriage aswel. Had another scan today and the sac and wee baby is still there. I’m starting to bleed quite heavy now. If you don’t mind me asking did you do it naturally my dr advised to clear everything in my uterus under anaesthetic xxx

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I did medical when you take the tablets but it didn’t work for me (not that I knew that at the time) then passed it naturally at around 10 weeks (we found out at 8 weeks) xx

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Hoping it will end soon so we can consider trying again. Life’s so cruel at times :(

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bethmypkjkh in reply to Pinky1245

I had the surgical procedure back in September. It was painless and definitely the best way to do it for me. Though I continued to bleed for a few weeks afterwards

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Kitcat12

I am so sorry for your loss, a miscarriage is just terrible to go through. I lost our first IVF baby at 6 weeks in December 2018. Had a FET of 2 blastos in April last year and my little boy is now 7 weeks old. Don't give up lovely x

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Pinky1245 in reply to Kitcat12

Thanks for your reply, it’s horrible I feel totally lost and in a blur. Sorry what’s a Fet of blastos if you don’t mind me asking? Congratulations with your baby boy :)

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Kitcat12 in reply to Pinky1245

It's normal to feel lost, take time for yourself and cry it out! Sorry, a FET is a frozen embryo transfer, so we had 2 frozen embryos thawed and transferred and one of those became our baby boy. Are you going through treatment or trying naturally? x

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Pinky1245 in reply to Kitcat12

Just trying naturally my son is 3 and has took us 2 years for my first positive after having him. Xx

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Kitcat12 in reply to Pinky1245

Bless you! It's such a horrible upsetting thing to go through x

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HollyT7

Hey we lost our first ivf baby but our second shot is currently cooking in my tummy. There is so much hope!!! xxx ❤️❤️❤️

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Pinky1245

Thanks for the reply :) aww congratulations :) how far along are u? Xx

Hi pinky sorry you are going through this. I have been told my scan ok on 12th march is unlikely to have heart beat because of my HCG levels not rising and gestational sack being small on my 5wks 6 day scan.. me and my husband decided too transfer 2 blastocysts so if you got embryos left over maybe you could do that?

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Hey mine was same as u . They told me for weeks and weeks was gonna miscarry baby he is now a happy 4 and half month old . So dont give up and baby maybe ok xxxx

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Thanks for giving me hope. I really hope this will be the case for me.. xxxxx

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Did you have ivf? Xxx

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No sorry xxx

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Thanks. Aww we are trying naturally xx

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Seb9

Hi my first pregnancy was a missed miscarriage, found out at the 12 weeks scan. I'd had some brown discharge but nothing much and I had put it down to other things.

I had the surgical management as I didn't want to go through the natural route because I felt like if my body didn't know I wasn't pregnant already then I didn't want to wait for it to figure it out, if that makes sense? After the initial heartbreak, I tried to see it as a positive that at least I could get pregnant and that I only needed 2 more miscarriages till I could get help with getting pregnant on the nhs crazy how your brain works sometimes, but that's what got me through.

I waited till my first period after the operation and then started trying again, I fell pregnant quite quickly afterwards and my little girl is now 7 months old. I was petrified that the same would happen again but scan after scan she kept growing and growing.

Sending you lots of love and hope at this sad time for you, best wishes xxx

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Pinky1245 in reply to Seb9

Yeah totally makes sense. I’m starting to bleed heavily now and cramps so think by the time my appointment at the hospital next Monday maybe most has all cleared from my uterus. The doctor did offer me the surgical route . Thanks for your kind wishes xxx

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JulieOcean2

I had a missed miscarriage then went onto have my baby girl after my third icsi transfer. ❤️ Bozies to you x

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Pinky1245 in reply to JulieOcean2

Thanks for your story and kind wishes xxx

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Cookie_92

Sorry to hear about your loss. Its a massive shock to the system, especially when you have no signs that anything is amiss!

I also had a MMC, right before our wedding. I went for the surgery route, 2 days before getting married!

Id recommend surgery if you can, rather than the tablets as I had two rounds of the tablets and neither worked for me.

Feel free to message if you want to chat xx

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Pinky1245 in reply to Cookie_92

Thanks :) feel positive reading everyone’s stories can’t believe how common miscarriages are. Where you bleeding before you went for surgery? If you don’t mind me asking xxx

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Cookie_92 in reply to Pinky1245

Unfortunately miscarriages are far too common and barely spoken about, which I disagree with.

I had a little bleed after taking the two rounds of tablets, but personally no bleeding prior to surgery xx

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Mrs-Arfan

Hello, yeah I have a good news for u . I sorry about ur miscarriage. But I have a successful story .I was 6 weeks pregnant and got miscarriage .after two months I got missed periods and I tested it was Positive. So don't worry Be positive.

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Pinky1245 in reply to Mrs-Arfan

Thanks for your kind words :) trying to be positive and hopefully at some point my body will be ready to try again xxx

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Bailey135

ME!

I suffered for months with depression after my miscarriage, I cried myself to sleep every night. We decided to hold off trying again straight away, the first pregnancy was an accident and we weren’t married we waited til we were married the second time. We conceived on our honeymoon and have had such a smoooth pregnancy this time! I’m now 30 weeks with our little girl. Stay strong and don’t push your partner away- keep talking. Good luck xxx

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Pinky1245 in reply to Bailey135

What a lovely outcome :) congratulations I’m so happy for you. Totally understand feel like your spiralling in black hole with no way out. I’m a strong believe what’s for you won’t go by you xxx

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Bailey135 in reply to Pinky1245

You will start to feel better and chances are you will go on to have successful pregnancies x

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Rabbit88

So sorry about your news. I had a missed miscarriage last year and let it happen naturally it was awful at the time. We are now 7 months pregnant again and willing baby to hang until 34 weeks as she’s desperate to come out and meet everything!

It does take time to get over (I’m still not over it) give yourself time and I found talking about it really helped too xx

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Pinky1245 in reply to Rabbit88

If you don’t mind me asking how long did you wait to start trying again? I know everyone’s different. I’m starting to bleed heavily now with cramps so I’m assuming my body has recognised what has happened. Xxx

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Rabbit88 in reply to Pinky1245

It took my body 5 weeks to realise what had happened and miscarry naturally. We tried straight after first period came back and were lucky to catch first time. For some it may be too soon but We didn’t want to wait and felt ready to try again x

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Essexbaby

Hi

I had a miscarriage in october at 11 weeks. I was soo heartbroken as it was a week before our 12 week scan. I am now pregnant again and I'm 6 weeks. I do think its important to let your body and mind heal. It was for me anyway! I didn't process and pushed everything down and it all came to a head in January when I finally let all the emotions out. I think, however your feeling is ok.x

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Pinky1245 in reply to Essexbaby

I’m thinking the same don’t think it has sunk in fully yet what’s happening. Congratulations mrs xxx

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Mummylou86

I'm so sorry Pinky1245.

We had a miscarriage in August 2018, I was about 6 weeks pregnant. We were totally devastated. We decided we wanted to try again as soon as possible, and waited for my period to return. After about 6 weeks and still no period I did a pregnancy test...it was positive. My little one is now 10 months tomorrow. There is always light at the end of the tunnel. Big hugs xx

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Pinky1245 in reply to Mummylou86

What a lovely outcome:) if you don’t mind me asking when are you safe to have sex again? I was told to give at least 2 weeks as my cervix will be opened and to stop infection ? Xx

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Mummylou86 in reply to Pinky1245

We were advised the same. I waited till the bleeding and cramps stopped which was probably just under 2 weeks. It was definitely a shock that we had conceived so quickly afterwards xx

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Sjd1985

Hi. So sorry that you are going through this. I have had two missed miscarriages and one ‘natural’ miscarriage. A horrible thing to go through, I struggled most with the missed miscarriages as I felt my body had let me down and not given me a sign. But I am now 19 weeks pregnant with a little boy. Take time to grieve and allow yourself to cry. Remember it wasn’t your fault xxx

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Pinky1245 in reply to Sjd1985

Yeah that’s how I’m feeling breasts still tender I’m assuming my hormones will fade gradually but bleeding heavily with cramps so I’m assuming won’t be long til hopefully feel myself again. Thanks for kind words xxx

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Katrinascanlan

Hey lovely I’m sorry to hear about your miscarriage!

When I was 20 I got pregnant and it wasn’t planned but we loved them anyways and was really excited! I had a delayed miscarriage and lost them at 11 weeks. That was in May 2018 4 months later I got pregnant again. This time planned and we had a beautiful baby girl called Athen who will be 2 years old in June! And I just another baby, a little boy we called Arlo he is currently 3 months old. I believe that without loosing our first baby we wouldn’t have gotten our little family that we have today. It’s heartbreaking and I think about them all the time. Why would they be like? But I cannot change the past and I’m great full for the babies I have today. Beat of luck and never lose hope!

All my love 🥰

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Pinky1245 in reply to Katrinascanlan

Thanks for your story gives me hope that hopefully soon my body will heal and can start trying again. I definitely don’t want to lose hope as want to complete my family ☺️ All the best ❤️ Xx

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MummyMel

Oh Pinky how crap!!! So sorry you're going through this, it's never easy. We had a surprise pregnancy when my youngest was only 5 months old so I came here for advice on what to do and I definitely didn't think I was ready for another one. But I embraced it and started getting all ready and planning and was really excited, but then I started to.bleed at 11 weeks pregnant just before my scan, I was absolutely heartbroken. But I believe it wasnt the right time. This was in September 2018, and i'm now 28 weeks with my 1st boy after 3 girls. And the timing is so much better for us. Have faith and believe everything happens for a reason (I know that's hard to believe right now) but just imagine, there will come a time in the future when you're holding your newborn in your arms and you'll just know that everything shit that happened, had to happen to bring you to that absolutely perfect moment. And you wouldn't change a thing ❤ were made of super tough stuff, so just take each day as it comes and keep looking ahead xx

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bee_bethell

I'm so sorry about what you are going through. We had a MMC with our first pregnancy, we lost our twins, and passed them naturally. For me once I started bleeding and cramping it didn't take long. Our second pregnancy came a year and a half later and he is a happy healthy seven month old now. There is no reason to believe you won't have a rainbow, but for now allow yourself to grieve, and to heal x

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EJThompson2

I had a miscarriage in September 2019 at 11 weeks and 6 days. Then on 26th December 2019 we found out I was pregnant again. I am now 15 weeks and 2 days :)

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Hypo20061

Hi pinky sorry for what your going through, I had an eptopic pregnacy in September I had to have the shot to stop my pregnacy, the process off me finding out to actually having the shot was 2 weeks which felt longer, I passed naturally, was told I can’t try again for 3 month because off how powerful the drug was, thoughts are with you stay strong 😇😇 It took me 13 years to conceive as we didn’t use anything for that long but 3 months passed so will just have to see👼

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Sheeroh

Sorry for the miscarriage. My frıne got a mıscarrıage after 3 months and she was able to get pregnant agaın after 3 months and gave bırth to a a healthy baby gırl.

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Annalieseonline

So sorry for your loss but there is hope, you just have to keep trying when you are physically, mentally and emotionally ready to do so.

Some days are harder than others but with time you learn how to cope, take all the time you need to mourn your pregnancy and baby.

2010 I had a miscarriage at 7 weeks

2011 a stillbirth at 26 weeks.

5 years later and with a new partner

2016 a miscarriage at 6w+2d

2017 6w+4d

2018at 5w+2d

2018 at 7w

I was ready to stop trying as it was just too much for me to deal with, but my godmother encouraged me to try once more then I got pregnant at the end of 2018 and had a very successful pregnancy with no pregnancy symptoms throughout, no concerns with baby or the pregnancy (except the concerns of my previous losses so I had extra scans and obstetrics appointments), now my rainbow little boy is 9 months.

Just to let you know (as I didn’t find out till my 6th loss) that if you have 2 consecutive miscarriage then your doctor is supposed to refer you to the Reoccurring Miscarriage Clinic or you can do a self referral.

Most hospitals have one.

Virtual hugs to you and if you ever need to talk please don’t hesitate to inbox me xx

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