Hi I am 42 I've never been pregnant I'm wondering how I will cope.

I PCOS not sure if I can become pregnant.

Is the diabetes in the well controledl then you'll be the same as general population

How do you did you manage diabetes with the first child

I think it'll be alright on the night

I’m sorry, my post must read as so insensitive. Longing for a much wanted child must be so painful and posts like mine must claw at that pain. I wish you nothing but love.

There is further context to my post. I have previously suffered two miscarriages and last year my 22 year old son, who was severely disabled and whom I had cared for all of his life, died.

My head is all over the place. My pregnancy is deemed high risk due to health complications and it has come as some what of a shock. I am still befuddled with grief at the loss of my son. There is significant risk of miscarriage with this pregnancy and I do not think I could cope with another loss.

None of that mitigates my sincere apologies for submitting a post which could cause many women, desperately trying to convince, further pain and heartache. I’m sorry and send hope, peace and what ever comfort I can, your way.

Louise x

I’m 39 been ttc since 37 had 3 mmc although we are still ttc I get where your coming from your body is older than in your 20’s used to sleeping only waking for wee trips to the bathroom lol I sometimes think really can I even be bothered my big kids will have left school by then time this one will be starting. Peppa pig on the telly constantly! But my partner has no kids and tbh I don’t feel we’ll be lucky enough to fall pregnant again but are trying.

Hi

I am about to turn 43 next week and I have a 4 month old (which took 6 rounds of ivf and 7 years). You are not alone and definitely not the oldest mummy to be. Congratulations! I am so pleased for you. Happy to chat if you have any questions xxx

I’m 42 and just had my second child in August. I don’t have diabetes but my older child is 3 so hard work looking after a baby and a toddler. It’s hard work but the love I get and the changes in both boys make it so worth while. Your body will cope better than you think

I had my 3rd son at 42. I understand how you feel. My little girl was born asleep so I was petrified all through my last pregnancy. But my gorgeous boy was my rainbow baby. Whatever age you are babies area blessing. Some people have a lot to go through to get there and my heart goes out to you all. As for you hun you will cope with it all and look forward to meeting your little one. All will work out and you will be closely monitored by midwives etc. Good luck hun x

Nonsense not too old...I have just had a baby at 42 , I turn 43 in February... I had to do IvF for mine so you have done very well to get pregnant . All that I can say is that you will have lots of extra appointments and scans to keep an eye on you as you will be considered a high risk . Then of course there is the risk of downs. I didn't have any tests as wanted the baby even if he had it.Luckily I had a healthy baby boy born elective c section at 37 weeks. I had no complications through the pregnancy or birth.

Yes I was tired throughout my pregnancy, yes I felt it more this time around but I have a 3 year old who was two throughout my pregnancy so that took it out of me. I also have an older child -20 , so its like starting over again. I love it though, I love being a mummy and am finding it is going well. My baby boy has been ill quite a lot with colds and coughs and so has been crying a lot and needs a lot of attention but I think being older I have a lot of patience and am very organised so am doing ok. I also have 3 horses to look after so its juggling a lot. I don't feel too old and I am sure you won't either....I am sure your family will be happy, after all its always lovely to have a newborn in the family... Best of luck x

Hey the very first thing is to see someone for the diabetes side of things in light of the fact you’re pregnant... ideally they like to see type 1 diabetics at preconception so would be best to see someone now for advice and about when you’ll be away. Type 1 in pregnancy makes for a v high risk pregnancy (don’t need to tell you this haha) because even the best controlled find it difficult to maintain levels especially towards the end... rather unlike type 2 or gestational diabetes most of the time.

In terms of age, you will be ok ❤️ Having a baby is never easy but people manage the most impossible situations, having triplets, having their seventh child, all sorts, and what you think now seems too hard, things will be alright. Sometimes people need time to come round but they almost always do x

Hey, I’m 43 in December and my lb is 7 months. I’m sure I don’t have as much energy as the younger me would have had but I’ve much more patience😀xx

My eldest son was 19 when I had my little boy. He came to the hospital with me a lot when I went for ante natal checks. I remember one time a couple kept giving us strange looks and talking between themselves. I said to my son I bet they think your my toyboy and he just said stuff em mum it's their problem not yours. He just looked right at them and grinned lol. x

I had my little boy when I was 41, in May this year and I can’t believe how easy it has all been - the pregnancy was a breeze and my little boy is fabulous.

This is my only baby and I had no prior experience of babies, only animals, and everyone was telling me what a shock I was going to get - never get another hot cup of tea, no sleep etc - just not the case. My little one is an absolute dream, so either I’ve been really lucky or chilled out, relaxed parenting and the fact I was determined not to find this hard has rubbed off on him!!

I wish you all the luck in the world, you’ll be amazing x

Congratulations 🥳

I’m a slightly older mummy and I’ve just become a first time mum at the grand age of 39 after having three previous miscarriages and 6 rounds of ivf. I often wonder if I’d feel less tired had I been a ftm 10, even 5 years ago but it is what it is and after a difficult pregnancy and emergency c section, I have a beautiful (almost) 16 week old rainbow baby girl 💕 Yes I’m tired but yes I’ll cope. She’s worth it.

My Nan (who I named my princess after) had 13 children. Her first was at 19 and her last at 42! Don’t ask me how she coped but she did, and she was a fantastic mother and beautiful grandmother. You’ll be ok 👍🏻 xx

I’m desperate for another little one, I’m 40 and have had two miscarriages. Yeah I definitely will feel the difference being this age for sure! I have a 14 & 16 year old!

Good luck and try not to worry. It’s a little miracle! Going on holiday won’t affect pregnancy but pregnancy might affect your diabetes so maybe check with doc so you’re covered when on holiday x

I'm 43 and have a 4 and a 6 yr old because I was told I couldn't have kids lol but started menopause and fell pregnant sometimes by 8 pm I'm nackered pmsl as I have adopted my neice and nephew too but I wouldn't change it for the world xxx you will be great

Hi Louise, congrats and good luck! I'm 45 and pregnant for the first time. (15 weeks now .. IVF with my own eggs and husband's sperm). The first trimester was rough but feeling better now. I too am worried about tiredness as I've felt v old and tired in the last few years! Good incentive to get fit again... and yes you'll have to keep a tight eye on your diabetes but perhaps the baby will bring a new lease of life... look after yourself and take each day as it comes x