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planning a baby after 2 miscarriages

courtney04
courtney04
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me and my boyfriend have been trying for a baby for a couple of months after losing a baby that was unexpected at around 5 - 6 weeks. I lost another baby round about 5 - 6 weeks at the beginning of this year with a previous relationship. I also have anemia. ive been up the hospital with both miscarriages and they didn't seem very helpful and they didn't give me any answers as too why. all they done was take bloods then sent me home. me and my boyfriend are desperate to have another one but im scared im going to miscarriage again. is there anything I can do to maybe prevent it from happening again?

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pinkie93

Sorry if I've got this wrong, but are you 15?

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courtney04
courtney04
in reply to pinkie93

No I'm not

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pinkie93
pinkie93
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Ok sorry, the 04 in your username threw me and teenagers are at greater risk of miscarriage. All I can suggest from the information is try to fix your anemia before conceiving again. There's little research on the topic but anemia is definitely linked to increased miscarriage.

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courtney04
courtney04
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The 04 is cause my birthday is 4th October. And I've tried all sorts of things but it doesnt seem to help much.

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gcw104

The hospital wouldn’t be able to tell you what caused your miscarriages unfortunately, you would have to get referred for reoccurring mc so they can do tests but usually after 3 mc even then everything could be fine.

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courtney04
courtney04
in reply to gcw104

Okay thank you

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GemX81

Sorry for your miscarriages. Unfortunately it could just be bad luck and as someone else said you can only get referred for recurring miscarriage after 3 losses. I had 2 losses before having my first Son who is now a happy and healthy 4 year old. I also went on to have another miscarriage before having my second Son who is now 6 months old. So it is possible to have healthy pregnancies after losses. Good luck!

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courtney04
courtney04
in reply to GemX81

Thank you. It's nice to hear positive stories

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JojoWash

I’ve had two as well, I’ve begged for tests and doctors have agreed to do some for me, so taking my blood to see if anything shows up.

I also asked for them to test the tissue from my miscarriage I’m still awaiting the results, I asked when I went into the Early Pregnancy Assessment Unit for second scan to make sure baby hadn’t grown. They said they would ask but they wouldn’t usually do it for 2 losses, then the mw came back and offered it for private which I agreed too. So still awaiting results for that.

Have my blood test beginning of December. It’s all just a waiting game. I’m always waiting :-(

Good luck

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courtney04

Hopefully you get your answers soon.

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Dreamingofbaby

Hey sorry for your losses. I had two before getting to where am now 15 weeks preg. It is so devastating and they said mine were caused by chromosomal issues which apparently quite common. Don’t give up hun. Hopefully it can happen for u next time. Happens to lots of us unfort but many go on to have children so all possible. Best wishes xx

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courtney04

Thank you. X it's more positive to hear about successful times after miscarriages x

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Major2116

Hi Hun,

Sorry to hear of your losses.

We also had 2 miscarriages before becoming pregnant with our son. He's now a happy healthy 18 month old 😁!

We too asked if there was any test they could do but we were refused as we hadn't had 3 miscarriages. They did however test our first baby tissue as s/he got stuck in my cervix around 9 weeks and I was in and out of hospital but as we heard nothing from the hospital, it meant they didn't find anything.

Best advice I can give you is try not to worry. As horrible as it is, what will be will be n you stressing and worrying won't be able to chance that. That was the advice I was given and it actually helped. Just try to stay positive and don't be so hard on yourself.

All the best xx

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courtney04

Thank you x

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Bears88

Hi, really sorry to hear about your miscarriages. I can’t add much advice, but I can add to the positive stories, as following 2 miscarriages I am now 14 weeks pregnant. Like some of the other ladies here, I didn’t know what the cause was of either of the miscarriages.

Hopefully this and the other stories here can help you to keep positive.

Good luck xXx

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courtney04
courtney04
in reply to Bears88

Thank you xx

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