Just been to see the midwife for my 16 week appointment get in, she starts asking me about the booking bloods, did Walsall take any, answer no, only the quads! Well can you go to Walsall and get them done! Answer erm no, I have work! Well these were supposed to be done before 10 weeks, yeah no shit Sherlock, pretty sure I didn't even see her for my first appointment till after ten weeks, and she was the one who said she wouldn't do them cause Walsall will do them anyway! So when I go to Walsall for my next scan on the in August, I've got to ask them to do my booking in bloods by then 20weeks pregnant and 10 weeks late on the bloods!
Then asks for a urine sample as though I have one pre prepared, she never bothered to tell me last time that I need to try and take a sample each time! Why do they never give you that grey cardboard thing to urinate in and just expect you to have perfect aim?
Then we get to the end of the appointment and she starts talking about booking in the next appointment which has been booked on a day OH can't go which to us was fine as we thought we were getting to hear baby’s heartbeat this time, and then she finishes up and I'm like is it not at this appointment we get to hear the baby's heart beat? No that's at the next appointment! I’m pretty sure that's when I asked about it at my first appointment she said it was at the 16 week appointment
I’m so confused and annoyed and not at all happy
Edit next appointment with midwife isn’t until end of September when I’ll be 24/25 weeks
Sorry you feel you’ve had a bad experience.
I can’t actually remember when I had bloods taken tbh but I did have to have a urine sample at each midwife appointment, blood pressure checked etc.
I did hear the heartbeat at my 16 week appointment but wasn’t necessarily expecting to as I’d heard from others that they don’t always do it until the next one. Although it is so amazing to hear it, I’m not sure I’d have had my OH come to the appointment just to hear it for a few seconds. Obviously if you really want him there that’s fine too.
My OH came to my 12 and 20 week scans though and the 20 week one in particular was really good for him to see what baby was up to (he saw more than I did at the scans really cos I was lying down and he was right in front of the screen!)
If you’re not happy with your care, you could consider contacting your GP surgery and asking if it’s possible to see someone else? xx
I wouldn’t mind but I asked about the heartbeat at the first appointment and I’m 99% sure that she said it would be at the 16 week appointment, but now she’s saying 24 week appointment,
This is our first pregnancy, and I would have preferred my OH to be as involved as possible, he works night shifts so currently all of the appointments he’s been able to go to without him having to take time out of work or wake up early before a shift, but now the 24 week appointment he can’t make, which when this is the first time we will hear the heartbeat is kind of annoying
That’s a shame. Sounds like she’s maybe given you the wrong information in the first place but if that’s the case she should have at least apologised for the miscommunication instead of just changing her tune.
My community midwives were really good (there were two that I saw due to annual leave etc) but they were great at answering questions and when I had some issues with whether it was safe to have a filling removed from my tooth, she immediately called to leave a message for my consultant and rang me with his response. It’s sad that the care seems to vary so greatly. It was my first pregnancy too following IVF so I know how it feels to rely on that support because you don’t know what to expect xx
I went to the hospital yesterday to get the booking in bloods as I rang and asked them about it and they said sooner rather than later, and I spoke to one of the Midwife’s there and she said the heartbeat isn’t till 24 weeks, so atleast now when I go to the next one I know I’ll be having it done,
Is the community midwife the one at the doctors?
Ah at least you’re getting it sorted now even if it sounds like it’s all been a bit of a faff up to now. Yeah the community midwife is the one at the GPs.
I was under a consultant at the hospital due to my IVF but saw the midwife at my doctors surgery.