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Am I being unreasonable?

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So our family have had a huge falling out which doesn’t seem to be getting sorted anytime soon my partners family absolutely hate me and the feeling is mutual my partner is desperate for his family to see our 7 month old so I have agreed they are very welcome round our home to see her or I’ll be willing to take her round there’s , they have refused to see her as I’m around? They have said they will only see her if I’m gone if I leave her with them to be this is absolutely disgusting to even think of asking a mother to leave there child especially with people I do not trust we have told them numerous times you can see our daughter if I am allowed to stay with her while you have her but they keep saying no I don’t think I’m being unreasonable as she’s my daughter not there’s I made the choices and decisions for her as she is mine I do not want to leave my daughter in the care of these people without me being there , really just want some support so I can show my partner that it is a disgusting thing to ask me to leave my daughter

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roxannacar

I dont think it is reasonable to.ask to see her only without you being there. Theres obviously more to the back story.... but still its unreasonable.

If you do want to.keep the peace tho ... would it be an option for your.partner to take and stay with baby?

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ChrisWest1983

I personally would not leave my baby with people I don't like/don't trust...

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pinkie93

I agree it's completely unreasonable for them to expect you to leave her. Also if she hasn't seen them in a while then your daughter probably won't want to be left alone with these people either.

You aint being unreasonable at all hun your doing the right thing by saying no your not leaving her.... if they don't want to see her while your there then its there loss at the end of day.... they shouldn't be asking you to leave and if they was that desperate to see her they would tolerate you being around xxx

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Arya10

Your baby, your rules! Plus, with a broken relationship they have to start somewhere (for all they know, by agreeing to your offer it could lead to you trusting them a bit more and them getting a little more freedom at some point). You could be stopping them seeing her completely, but you’re not.

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Kempton

I think Arya has got it in one. Your baby, your rules. It's a shame that having your child can't be used to build bridges rather than them expecting you to just not be there. Stand your ground. If they want to be part of your daughter's life, they ought to show you a little respect too.

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MissEd

Could your partner stay instead?

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