Baby blues!

[lcheckley]

My rainbow baby is now 11 days old and I feel so on edge. I know the baby blues can last a few weeks but I'm convincing myself that every pain or ache iv got every disease possible that is going to take me away from my new baby and my 10 year old.

I feel like I'm going crazy! Anyone else felt this? Did it last long? How did you cope?

I vaguely remember this with my first 10 years ago but feel like I'm doomed 😔

[Kempton]

Sorry you feel this way. Your emotions and hormones will be all over the place at the moment. Can you speak to family, friend your other half? Perhaps your health visitor. Maybe even your GP?

I can't say I felt the same as you but having a newborn was certainly overwhelming for me. Having another child on top must be difficult. Perhaps things will get better you've got a routine going with the little one..That's what happened to be. Once I got a bit of sleep and my baby started getting a sleep/feeding pattern it was pure joy!

Best of luck. it's really good that you are talking about how you feel and trying to seek support.

[lcheckley in reply to Kempton]

I have the health visitor tomorrow will have a chat with her

[must92]

My babys 6 days old today and I’m the same cry at everything , always checking him to make sure he’s ok he cries I think there’s something wrong this is my first baby so I just want to get it right it’s all very overwhelming but best feeling in world , i total understand the way your felling x x

[lcheckley in reply to must92]

Oh it is the best. I'm sure it's just me being silly. Have a good cry and vent and you will feel much better x

[Latiytoy]

I felt the same way. After my first I was convinced I had a brain tumor or I was going to have an aneurysm. After my second I was convinced I had breast cancer (although this time I actually had a nodule BUT it was from my milk ducts). Those hormones really get you. I get slightly paranoid around my period now but the rest of the month I’m fine.

It’s just those tricky tricky hormones. Try your best to enjoy your baby. What helped me is starting to think “well if I’m going to go I better enjoy this moment”.

And I was bad.. I was one step away from drawing up a will and I had discussions with my family on who will help with my children.

You’re not the only one. I’m still here after all of it and I’m good health. I almost accepted it tho and wasn’t going to pay my bills one month bc I was sure I was going to die anyway. No I’m still alive and still had to pay my car note. Lol.

You’re fine mom. Enjoy your baby. They will never be this small again.

[lcheckley]

Thank you. I have a lump too and they say it's milk. It's so hard not to worry about it but I'm enjoying my baby and getting the help from gp.

The things we go through for these little miracles.

Thanks for sharing though it's nice to know it's not just me lol

[Latiytoy in reply to lcheckley]

I want to say mine went away about 8-9 weeks after birth. It should start decreasing in size around then.

All your worries will fade soon... you’re going to be here and see them through it all for a long time mom.

[Major2116]

I was the same when our rainbow baby was born! I took him and our dog for a walk and got bit like mad (it was summer time and I was walking through fields). I'd convinced myself that they weren't bites, I had a rash n was going to die. My fiance was very reassuring that they were bites n it was okay, which helped.

I'm in meds for anxiety anyway but this was definitely like baby blues as I'd not been like this with my anxiety before.

I thought it would never end then one day I woke up and I was fine! It was the strangest thing! My cousin warned me about it n said it'll feel like it's never going to end but it will so I just kept telling myself that which helped me to get through it.

Here if you need a chat! Congratulations on your rainbow! Xx

[lcheckley in reply to Major2116]

Thank you. It's actually the worst feeling ever but it is a relief that many others go through the same. Iv never had anxiety or anything before and Its really took it's toll on me, No one warns you of this and say the baby blues last a few days 😂.

How long did it last for you? I do feel a little better each day but then have some really bad times usually when I'm on my own. My poor husband gets me sobbing down the phone lol

[Major2116 in reply to lcheckley]

I think they should warn you really at some point during your midwife appointments. If my cousin hadn't told me, I would of thought I was going crazy!

I can imagine it's hit you like a ton of bricks! It lasted about 2 months to be fair, maybe a bit longer but each person is different. Plus I suffer with anxiety anyway so it was harder to shake off.

Bless him! They put up with a lot from us women don't they 😂. I'd stay off Dr Google too! He had my dying about 6 times 😂! Definitely didn't help!

[lcheckley in reply to Major2116]

Oh yes defiantly. Dr Google has me dying of breast cancer and lung Mets. It's hard when you just want some basic information and all you see if the worst case scenarios.

I think midwives should include it in their prenatal care.

Thank you so much for sharing. It really does help x

[Lou9]

I felt like this too when my daughter was born, she is now 7 months old and the feelings have definitely lessened and are more under control. She too was our rainbow baby after years of trying and a round of IVF so when she finally arrived I worried that the happiness and relief I felt was too good to be true.

Not too long ago, I was chatting to my hairdresser who was heavily pregnant with her second baby at the time and she said to me she hoped she didn’t suffer with health anxiety the same the second time round. It was so reassuring to hear that someone else had felt the same feelings I had. And actually once I started speaking to close friends and family members about it, it turned out that most of them had the same anxieties when they had their babies, albeit on different levels. I think hormones play a huge part, as does sleep deprivation, but also your mothering instincts kick in and all you want is to protect and nurture your baby and watch them grow and the thought of not being able to do that is the most terrifying feeling in the world. Do you have anyone you can talk to about your worries? Sometimes even saying them aloud to someone you trust who will really listen can help ease the worries and stop them going round and round in your head.

Oh, and I agree with the above, stay off Dr Google - he is pure evil! 💕

[lcheckley]

I have a very supportive husband and family. Finding a lump in my breast hasn't helped which they say is probably a blocked milk duct but you just can't help but worry. I want to see my babies grow and enjoy every second with them.

It is reassuring to know I'm not crazy and others have felt the same .

Thank you for sharing with me. It means a lot ❤

[EvaK82]

Oh darling — I have nothing substantial to add other than that It is unlikely the case for real (that you suffer from something terminal) and that rather your hormones / anxiety are playing tricks on you, which will pass again. You should alert your midwife team and also tell your husband/ family as there is support for PND. I’m sure gentle exercise like walking in fresh air and a bit of sunshine (vitamin D supplements) would not harm as they tend to help with low mood. Magnesium deficiency could also be a source - maybe speak to a nutritionist what you can and can’t do safely post partum / breast feeding. I used to take Agnus Castus and it really balanced my PMS and mood swings... but a professional nutritionist would be the best to help. I’ve just seen marked improvements in friends and family from the right supplements alone in situations involving low mood / anxiety (not necessarily just baby related)....

You’ve got this xx

[lcheckley in reply to EvaK82]

Thank you I didn't even think about nutrition or anything. I'll have a chat with the midwife and see what she can suggest. Thanks for you input xxx