I'm writing this as my poor wife is next to me on a ball having contractions in a ward full of people making noise!
Her pregnancy has been trouble free, but due to her age,42, its a donor ivf pregnancy and its her first, they have been itching to get her induced.
At our last midwife appt, everything looked normal and we were booked to see the doctor at 40+2. He basically scared my wife into booking an induction if a sweep didn't get things going. He did a sweep (nothing happened) and the next morning we went to the hospital for our induction. She's in perfect health, the baby is too, but tickboxing dictates you induce for ivf/mature mums.
We've been on a crowded ward with hardly no room, lots of light and noise for 2 days now, she had a pessary when we arrived and a second one, 24 hours later. Thats seemed to really kicked things off, we see the doctor (hopefully) this afternoon for the next steps.
My wife really wanted a natural birth, midwife led, water birth, all that's out of the window.
I just wish we had stuck with our guns, we foolishly thought we'd be in our room, the hospital made a big thing on its tour of all these private rooms in the labour ward and told us as long as their was no complications we could use one of their special water birth rooms complete with calming wall covered pictures.
My wife has never been ill, never stayed a night in hospital and I'm desperately trying to make this a good experience, but its impossible. At one point last night we were locked in the bathroom, her in the bath, listening to calming music , me sat next to a toilet , trying to make this a 'magical experience' from a nightmare.
This morning a pregnant teenager is opposite her with her mate and I've had to talk to them twice to stop shouting as they call their mates on facetime.
How the hell is putting women in crowded antenatal wards going to help them feel safe and relaxed and speed along labour?? The attitude seems to be, the drugs will do all the work, which is a crazy attitude to something women have been doing for thousands of years.
If we had even the slightest idea it would be like this, we would have stayed home and taken the 1 in thousands risk of going past due past and wait for our baby to come naturally.
Unless literally the mother and baby is in dire medical danger, why the hell do the NHS keep pushing women to be induced just a day or 2 past their due date, especially if they have to end up with a nightmare experience like this. i wouldn't wish the last couple of days on my worst enemy.
We would just have refused and waited till she was in full labour and just gone in, sure give regular checks after due date, but it seems to make a medical problem out of nothing.
rant over lol!!!